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Loved this advice. Loved it. Thank you for being very specific. I am learning about myself again and I surely don't want to be in a wrong state of mind when a good man comes along so I need to be patient.

Wow! Thank you BG for your very thorough response. Its obvious you really took your time and thought about how to reply, I dont even get that kind of attention from my own family, LOL. You covered everything. I have always wanted to be an xray tech, and learn MRI and then if I had time later take another year for Nuclear Medicine. But it always just seemed a little out of my reach. Thank you for helping me realize that it isnt and for validating my thoughts, and for your great advice!

Thank you so much! Your advice came at a perfect time! This helped a lot and you suggested some things that I never would have thought of! I really didn't know who to talk to about this because some people who know him don't want to help and I couldn't tell anyone who was that close to him without running the risk of him finding out too much.

Thank you so much!! This was very helpful :-) Exactly what I was looking for

Thank you very much for this solid piece of guidance. It's exactly what I needed, and what would have been hard to find elsewhere. I'm still quite upset, but this helped me more than I thought it could have. Thank you so much: you and everyone else at Elder Wisdom Care are doing wonderful things. :)

It has taken me a while to get around to writing this, but I did mean to for a long time. Michelle wrote a lovely email for me, and everytime I have had a hard few days I have re-read her response and it gave me a little hope. It's answered everything in such a sensitive, wise and logical way. I'm extremely grateful to her, she is really someone to keep! Thank you so much!

...I would like to say a HUGE thank you for your wisdom and kindness and wonderful advice and ideas. I am following them up as soon as this leaves my computer. You deserve many blessings for giving your time especially as you obviously have your own family problems to deal with. Thank you - I think you are an angel, sort of in disguise.

Thank you so very much. Your advice on the situation has definitely helped me to see things from a less biased perspective and clear my head a bit. Thank you so much for taking the time not only to read and reply to my question, but to reply so thouroughly and thoughtfully. It helps, so much. Much more than I initially expected. The world can't ever have enough people like you, and the other Elders. (: Sincerely, Jessica

Thank you so much for your help! Your advice really cured me of some emotional stress, I really appreciate your willingness to teach me a little on life. Thank you again! Kelly

WOW, thank you dearly for your response! I am so greatful! I was ready to give up at this point with my situation. I think you are right, my marriage deserves a chance to survive though....atleast for our kids. Things have been so great up until this! We will absolutely seek counceling and he is willing, we are starting a new church on sunday as well. I think you are right about my friend....its unreal the lies that she has told and will still tell me when I have absolute proof in black in white in my face! I guess deep down I know I will really never know the whole truth but my marriage deserves another chance and I want to give it that. Thank you so much for your response....you are so helpful!!!! I never imagined when I first went to your site that you would give such great advice...I will defintely visit again! thank you again.

Thank you so much Aunt Molly for your comforting letter. You make such good points, and I'll try to remember them as I deal with this. Thanks for reminding me too that I shouldn't expect everything I say to "take hold" right away but that the process is necessary.

Thank you for the advice I was given. I am not with my boyfriend anymore. The advice helped. Thank you. I would use this website again. I can't thank you enough nor tell you how much it did actually help me : ). Thank you Kenti.

Thank you so much for your advice! I just got back from the beach (I went alone, without him!) and it was great to get away and be by myself. Upon coming back we had a talk and are officially now broken up. He is now actively trying to "win me back" and is being extra kind etc but I'm standing strong, and we'll see how long the extra kindness lasts anyway... Everything you said was very insightful - some were things that came across my mind before, but I quickly denied them but I guess I was just denying the truth. Thanks again so much for you help and volunteering your time to be part of the elder wisdom circle. Every person whom you converse with is lucky to get your insight!

Thank you, thank you so very much for your advice. Between the time I first sent this query and receiving a reply, I had made the decision to do what I wanted, whether for good or bad. Thus far, things seem to be turning out just fine. I suppose I should have listened to my own advice a long time ago, but upon reading yours it really showed me that ultimately everything is my own decision and no one else's.

Dear Aunt-Molly and the Elder Wisdom Circle, I wanted to thank you so much for your response to my question. I am not sure what kind of reply I was expecting in return, but I do know that what I received exceeded all of the expectations that I could have had. I was delighted by the advice that was given to me. As Aunt-Molly stated in her reply, I really already knew the answers to my questions. I guess I was unknowingly seeking out someone to validate what I was feeling. Aunt-Molly not only supplied that, she gave me some wonderful gems of wisdom that I am going to save for future reference...things that I can apply to so many areas of my life. Thank you again. What a wonderful, wonderful service!!! April

Thank you SO MUCH. Thats the best advice I think I've ever gotten. I never even thought about linking "living in the moment" and my goals in one. I also never thought about how I'm not living to the fullest now, I'm waiting for it... and it wont come unless I do something. I didn't see that about myself until you told me. This is the greatet website ever! I'm going to recommend it. =] Thank you

Thank you so much, once again. When I get really sad i look back at your advice and it helps me realize what i can do to help myself. I'll be trying my hardest to work through this, and talking to you helped. Thank you.

Dear Elder Wisdom Circle: Thank you for the straight talk that opened my eyes to the simplest of solutions. As a result I am happily washing the dishes for my Dad every chance I get, which is almost always these days. Also, I am extremely grateful for your collection of "water shortage" information. This is exactly what I was also hoping for in your response to me, a convenient bundle of germane news on this topic to help me share with my Dad (and others along the way). I'm making a donation via your link immediately to you for your invaluable, helpful words of wisdom and guidance. Furthermore, I shall be heralding your good work to everyone I know! Best regards, Andrew

I justed wanted to say thank you very much, your advice was very reassuring, and I really needed it =). I hope to keep working on composing while I'm at Tech and learning about computers. If I ever have any other problems, I know exactly who I'm going to. Thanks again! Alan

Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for your reply Jangela, which is so insightful and comforting, and to the creators of this awesome website. I'll be sharing it with many, many people and will be returning for more great advice. I simply cannot say thank you enough. I come from a broken home and I was not raised around elders to offer guidance. This website fills a huge need in my life. It also makes me more respectful and unafraid of aging. Thanks again. Best,

Thank you so much for your reply and your caringness! You have no idea how much your reply helped me! When i grow up I want to be apart of things just like this because they are amazing and help people so much that are in need! It answered my question completely so thanks so much again! if i'm ever able to donate I will! and will definately refer others to this site when i can't answer their questions! God Bless! Thanks Again Sincerely,

Thank you so very, very much. A million times. I shall try your advice. Once again, I think this is just the best thing since ice cream. :-) Blessings Pauline

Thanks so much for helping me! I feel like you really mean what you say and care. You have helped me so much! You probably have helped alot of others! You have a wonderful gift. Thank you!

I am currently a 19-year-old male going into my third year of college. I just want to say that I used Elder Wisdom Circle a few years in high school. It helped me to get my first girlfriend and become friends with a kid with whom I had NOTHING in common. I recently requested some advice on a very important problem of mine and I am so excited to receive a response because I just know that it will help regardless of the responder. Thank you for your support and essentially redirecting me away from difficult paths in my life. You have no idea how appreciative I am of your group.

Hello! Sorry I took so long to reply, but I am so happy to inform you that my mother recently sought some fantastic help from the new psychologist and psychiatrist and she has been so very much better. She's come back to being a normal, loving, caring mother. That mother I remembered years ago that used to pack my school lunch everyday. I'd like to thank you so much for your support. There were times when I thought I couldn't bare not having a proper mother figure, but now she is so much better. We hold the best conversations as mother and daughter and this feeling I have in my stomach when writing this email is beyond happy. Thanks again. I wish I could give you a massive hug!

Dear Helen, Thank you for your kind words, and helpful advice. I am so very glad that elderwisdomecircle is available for individuals like myself that do not have family or supportive environment! Helen, I hope to write again, for now I shall heed your words until I need a gentle ear to turn to. Thank you, Margaret

Thank you so much. I really do feel better and I will always keep these thoughts with me. You guys are very helpful and I'm very apppreciative. I'm glad I have someone to talk to who willl give me advice because I cant really talk to my parents. I'm glad I found this website.

Thank you so much! I'll show my parents my letter and your reply as soon as I can, and I'll let you know what happens after that. It really helped hearing your advice! I'll keep in touch

Please thank Terry-Anne for her comforting advice. It's just what I need during this exciting, but scary time in my life. Her words just reaffirmed what I feel in my heart. Hearing this from wonderful people with wisdom and life experience helps me not be so afraid. Thank you

Terry-Anne, Thank you Thank You! Your sincerity and understanding of this situation is tremendous. I have tears in my eyes. You have totally understood and given me the best advice I know in my heart I must step away and live my life. I will forgive and move on. Bless you,

Wow! Thank you so much. This helped me a lot! I appreciate the time you gave to answer my question. I think I'm heading in the right direction now!

Dear Terry-Anne, Thank you so much for your quick response to my letter. Your advice has greatly helped me in my situation. What a blessing to have a response from someone that experienced the same thing I am going through. I thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience and to give me the advice and insight into this matter. Thank you for the idea of keeping a journal, I did feel a little lighter after putting it all down in my letter to Elder Wisdom. I will use your excellent advice to get me through this time in my life. Thank you so much,

This is the best website I've ever come across! Thank you so much for your wise words!

I am so appreciative of this insightful and kind reply from Terry-Anne. It actually touches on many aspects of the situation that I have considered in recent weeks, particularly God's love as the strongest support we could ever know. What helps alot is your message that worrying about the future may take away from what we need to be focussing on today. And that your life may have been easier, but not better, if your son was not disabled. Thank you for helping me understand and be more aware of what our children might need, and not need, during this trying time. I have to wonder how the Elder Wisdom Circle found the perfect person to give me some answers. Jayne

Dear Hedwig: Thank you for your quick and kind response. I felt so much better being able to "talk" to someone about this and "hear" what you had to say. I take comfort in you telling me that each stage we go through is different and special, but since my mom died - change - has overwhelmed me with fear and sadness. That has been my stumbling block. My daughter is wonderful and I think we will be or at least I hope we will be close, like you and your mother. You have helped me tremendously. I just have to make myself be okay with change. I've read your email about 5 times now to help me get the courage to face the change that the future has and realize that it isn't necessarily a bad thing. I never thought of the fact that I am also maturing. We can do this together - you are right. Thanks again for everything. Have a wonderful day! Sincerely,

Hello Texas-Grandpa Thank you so much, it did help a great deal. I am going to seek someone to talk to, but getting this email helped me so much, and has given me clarity to see what my personal feelings could not let me see. Again thank you so much for your advice and for caring enough to provide this service, it means everything to know there is always somewhere that you can turn to. Kind Regards

Dear Jay63, Thankyou so much for your advice . It is really helping me with some tough decisions. It was also great to tell someone and know that someone cares and that i'm not alone in this . Thankyou again bless you

YOU MADE ME CRY. BUT A GOOD CRY. TEARS CLEANSE THE SOUL. YOU ARE AN ANGEL IN HUMAN CLOTHING.

I would first like to begin by saying thank you for taking the time to answer my question. The response that I received was more than just helpful; the words are so true. Your honesty and obvious wisdom about life reminds one of what we can control and what we cannot...and learning to understand the difference between the two. A willingness to just let some things be. Your words,simple but so true, have made a greater impact on me more than any other help I've sought. Thank you so very much. I will put to practice some of the things you mentioned....communication with him, inventory on me, and appreciating what we do share. Thank you.

Pickles Marie- Thank you so much for the amazing advice! "Mr. Right" and I have since ended our relationship since he wasn't sure if he saw himself marrying me (and to be honest, I think I feel the same way), but I'm optimistic about my future now and meeting the person I am supposed to be with. Thank you and again and I'm thrilled I found the Elder's Wisdom Circle

Thank you for the reply. I can tell a lot of thought and consideration went into my problem. My first inclination was to not go to the wedding and stand by my son, but the sadness of the whole situation cast doubt in my mind. Your input will help strengthen me to do what is right for me and my son. Everyone else will have to live with the choices they have made. God bless you all. The Elder Wisdom Circle has been there for me before and I appreciate the fact that I have a caring circle of "friends" to gravitate towards in times of need.

Dear Terry-Anne, Thank you for taking the time to reply to my questions. I did not realize this would actually be a legal matter but, after reading your reply, I see it is indeed so I will consult with someone who can help me draw up an agreement.Thank you for sharing your wisdom in this matter.Sincerely, Sandy

Thank you so much for your quick response to my question. Finaly a place that makes sense. You guys are great and it was great advice.

Thank You Teresa For Your Help. I Decided Not To Do It. And I Told Him This.. So He Broke Up With Me. He Tried To Lead Me Into Having It But I Said No, And It Was Hard With All The Pressure Cause I Give Into Pressure Very Easily, Thank You For Helping Me, And I Dont Think I Would Of Been Able To Say No Without Your Advice, I Greatly Appreciate It. I Will Find Someone Who Respects Me. For Me, And My Needs And Things I Do Not Want To Do. Thanks Again,

Thank you so, so much. I'm just in tears, so grateful for this wise reply. I think you're right. He called me this morning. We agreed we have work to do. I did ask him if he would go to counseling - before I even got this - and he said yes. Your reply confirmed what I was thinking and went so much further. He means so much to me, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I will keep you posted! Thank you for your kindess, your wisdom, and your generosity in sharing what you know.

I'm amazed at how comprehensive and insightful the advice was. I can't thank you enough.

Dear Terry-Anne, What a thoughtful response. Thank you and I appreciate the time and thoroughness you took with it. And I'm just a stranger!

Elder Teresa, Thank you so much for your very prompt reply! It was a very gratifying read. You gave me good food for thought. I can sense the effort you put into your reply. For several years, my husband has told me I should be charging a fee for my time with these people I descibed below. I have gotten the book you recommended, The Work, from my local public library, and have just begun reading it. I hope will make me think, perhaps, along different pathways than my usual rut. I find myself wishing I had you for my own personal friend! In cyberspace, it's almost like having a spirit-guide! I find myself almost wanting to ask you more and more questions - but I won't do that. Don't want to wear out my welcome. Your parting words of wisdom I have recorded in my book of Nuggets of Wisdom. Oh yes, I write, and collect wise or beautiful quotes. I'm going to hold onto it. warm thanks

Thanks for responding. I am so glad that I discovered your website for giving advice. I feel much better getting a second opinion. I wish you the best!!! Thanks so much for responding!!! I really needed a second opinion and thanks for validating my feelings!!!

What a wonderful service. Thanks for the advice. I'll take it to heart and talk directly with my brother. I think it's good to sometimes get advice from an unbiased perspective. My other brothers and sisters are too close to the situation and personal feelings can skew the logical course of action. Take care,

Thanks very much. That was some of the best advice I have ever received. I appreciate it very much.

Hi, I just want to thanks for the advice I don't have family with me in United States and I was in need for someone to open my eyes. Thank you so much, this confirms I was not wrong. I will definitely do something about it. thanks again!

Thank you so much! When one is inside of an issue it is so hard to come up with a good compromise like the one you suggested below. thank you again. I will definetly talk to my husband and see if we can arrange a family meeting and suggest that. I really sounded as if a real person answered my question and not a automated response like some websites. Thank you again. Your advise is greatly appreciated!

Thank you so much! Aunt Molly:)..I will keep in mind your golden advice always. Following your advice things have already changed between us. I am very happy now. I really appreciate your replying to my problem. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Cheers

Dear Hedwig, Your response helped me tremendously! Thank you very much, I actually started crying when I read it partly because now I know the answer and partly because I realized I was not being understanding and supportive, just angry and hurt. Thank you very, very much!

I thank you for making me understand. It is really hard being friends but I am sure it will all work out in the long run. After all everything in life happens for a reason and it is always for our best. I keep telling myself that and it really helps. You have been so kind and understanding and I really appreciate all the help and words of wisdom. Thank you again

Bobbi Jo, Thank you so much for your advise... I really needed to hear it worded that way. I love my best friend and I love my god son... I don't want to hurt them! The love I have for them is more important then I the love think I have for my ex! Thank you so much for snapping me back into reality!

Dear Aondreaa, I would just like to thank you so much for your advice. Many of the points you raise are things I had thought of, but was unsure of whether I was reading things correctly. Your reply has helped clarify this for me. Your advice to me is greatly appreciated. Kind Regards

Dear Elder, Thank you, sometimes you need a friend who can understand what I might be going through. It’s very comforting to know, I have someone to ask for advice at Elder Wisdom. This is my first time visiting your site and I am very pleased, I will tell all my friends. God bless you.

Outstanding! So much better to get advice from someone on the outside looking in. Thanks so much. You make lots of sense. Why should I make any decision. If it comes to that then I will cross that bridge when I get there. Things so often fall into place as they were meant to be. Thanks for all your help. You are certainly wise. Not so confused in Miami....:-)

Dear Texas-Grandpa, Thank you so much for your kind and honest reply. You are absolutely correct about the trust issues and right that I should end the marriage anyway, separate from my feelings for the other person. Your advice has been so helpful and I hope that I have the courage to end my marriage. I know you are right about taking time out for me and I will do that if I end the marriage. It is a hard thing to do, my marriage is comfortable and my husband is my friend but there are also serious problems. Thanks so much for your honesty and kindness you have no idea how helpful it has been to be able to talk this out and hear your advice.

As I read this reply I am speechless. I hardly scratched the surface in my email and your reply convinced me that you could read between the lines. I completely agree with this response and need to figure out why I can't let go. Time is wasting and I have so much love and kindness to give to someone. Perhaps the fact that my father passed away when I was 5 has contributed to my downfall. I remember waiting by the front door for him to return even after I was told he had gone to heaven. I thought if I had been "better" he would have come back to me. Such is the simplicity of a child. Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response. Perhaps you saved a life today, certainly a soul. Michele

I would like to say, thank you for giving me a direction. I was so lost in this mess of problems that I didn't bother to think of a way out of it. I know that only I can fix myself but I didn't know how or if i should in the first place. I will keep this as a checklist to improve myself and put some of these ideas into action. I now realize that I have to keep looking forward and that this is just the beginning. If these aren't my true friends then I'll use the experience to learn how to socialize. I have to keep my head up and not let my negative thoughts slow me down. I would like to thank you again for your help.

Thank you so much for your advice. I was very confused but your advice has helped me tremendously. You were 100% percent correct on all you said. What you do is great. I really appreciate the help you give me and many others.

Dear Annie, I really can't thank you enough...I can't believe how much you wrote and how much better I've been feeling. I'm sorry I can't write very much back, I'm very busy with school/scholarship work. I just wanted to say thank you so much for your time and effort.. I won't forget this letter. Sincerely, Will

Thank you very much for your advice, I not only found it very settling but helped me to curb my paranoia (admittedly). I actually at the end of your letter had a little chuckle to myself for being such a droll guy. You have seemed to hit the nail on the head and I will be heeding your advice. ".. but you will preserve the peace best by playing deaf as long as you can." Thank you again to help put my mind at ease, and my peace, love and joy be with you Aunt-Bella and all the Elders. ~Mark P.S. EWC is a fantastic web site, its great that people care enough to help others by offering an un-biased "3rd party" point of view and advice. I honestly felt my issue would be considered trivial (although to me it was not).

Thank you so much for your suggestions. You made me feel so much better and now I feel like I have a starting place. I think that was the hardest part, figuring out how to begin. All of this can be overwhelming. Thank you so much for your help. You have such a nice way about you that I found your email both very constructive and consoling. Take good care.

It seems to me that the Elders at EWC are ANGELS from heaven above trying to alleviate the pain that folks like me go through in this world.

Hello. My deepest thanks for the elders' words of wisdom during this particularly confusing time. With the help of a very strong community of friends we have set our addict friend up with a safe environment and with resources to help with her recovery. I am happy to report that she is now nearly three weeks clean. I understand that the recividism rate for heroin is very high and that we may not have magically 'cured' her, but I feel that we did the best we could and we gave her a strong head start for her physical detoxification. The rest is really up to her. Your advice of using a 'tough love' approach (warn that our friendship will be dissolved if the drug use continues) was extremely hard to swallow, but brought the right amount of gravity to conversations with my friend and also helped me to establish and maintain healthy boundaries for myself. Thank you for your insight, your wisdom, and taking the time to compassionately answer a stranger's question.

Excellent advice! Of which I am following TO THE LETTER. Because you are absolutely right - in every way. Your reply has helped me understand this situation on a completely different level - and now I see! Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. I feel alot better now and agree with everything you suggested. If I'm ever faced with a tough quandary like this again in the future, I will definitely consult with you first! God bless and thank you again!

Hi Barbara-Ann Thank you for your valuable advice it is most appreciated. I will definitely be looking at the things you suggested. You have given me some ideas I would not have thought about. Thanks & Regards

Dear Elder Wisdom Circle, Thank you so very much for your suggestions. We'll try one, but not sure which one yet. I know we will be having quite interesting conversations over the next few weeks. This is such a sensitive subject especially during the Holidays. Your website is wonderful. It's comforting to know that you would take time and careful thought into a stranger's dilemma. Happy Holidays to you and yours. And again, we thank you for your time and great suggestions. Virginia & Tony

Dear Aunt-Bella Thank you so much for your truly thoughtful reply. I have read your response many times already. It is filled with such wisdom. I can't even express how I feel, because I'm still digesting it all and rolling it over and over in my mind. It's almost a blueprint or a map of where I need to go. Please don't stop giving your insights - you obviously have a gift. You definitely touched this strangers life. Thank You, Sandy

Thank you Rafiki. I had nobody else to talk to without bias. Your objectivity without judgement was appreciated. You helped more than you know.

This site is amazing it is so nice to have someone give advice just because they want to help. I will be telling all my family and friends about this site, I am so impressed with the response time. 10 out of 10 thank you so much x

Thank you for your advice, it is really helpful, I am so relieved. I thought maybe I didn't try hard enough or I was doing something wrong. I am so pleased by your email. I really felt understood because you even mentionned things that I didn't write in my email. I kept those things silent but you said it as you were here, living with him. I am greatful. Thank you again and may God bless your organisation.

I wanted to write an update...I am inspired by the good work you do and wish to be a contributing help-ee, if that makes sense. Between my elder's advice, and some time spent in reflection, I think I'm starting to get it. I had to get over some family problems but I think I've mostly done it. I thank you for running your site, you truly help people and do so in an amazingly generous manner. Thank You, Claudette

PicklesMarie, You know what, you are right this advice isn't what I wanted to hear. BUT IT IS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!! and I appreciate it and it makes perfect sense. Thank you so much. It is nice to have advice from an outside source that doesn't know our family and hear an unbiased piece of advice. I really appreciate your feedback and help it means alot and I will take it to heart!!!!! Thanks so much Nichole

This is a follow-up email from advice sought over 3 years ago. If possible, please forward it to the elders who wrote to me. The careful and thoughtful responses you gave helped me to see the term through to the end. I wound up with a passing grade and less than $50. However, just knowing that I had other resources available, and that someone was thinking about me, was enough to keep me going. I got a job in my field that allowed me the time to work around my school schedule. I borrowed more money to pay for tuition, and the department gave me a small scholarship. The divorce was finalized within a year. One girl went to college, one girl went to work, one boy went on an exchange trip. The younger boys are still in Scouts. I met a Very Nice Man, with whom I have a tremendous friendship. And, I graduated this June with a degree in Chemistry. It was a long, hard time, and I kept going in part because of the caring words and real advice that I received here. A thousand thanks!

I'd like to thank Candy for her great, comforting feedback. It made me feel much better about the issue I asked for advice about. Because of her helpful advice, I will continue to use this website and recommend it to others. Thanks again, Sam

Oh thanks, this was extremely helpful, logical and encouraging advice! I really appreciate your response and I'll share your perspective with my son Izaak. It's kind of like having a wise grandmother to go to - and is very valuable to me as I don't have one of those. :) Thanks again so much

Thank you. This has helped me very much. I did what you suggested and I asked him if he wanted to car-pool to today's football game! He said yes, and now he and I are going together. I'm So happy! Again, thank you very much, your help was much obliged. Gracias Senorita! Sincerely, No-Longer Confused

Thank you very much, Wise Elder. It's all in a nutshell for me now. I just needed to hear someone else tell me that Nothing is New, and to go on with my own life. Thanks for the reality check. I really needed that. Regards, Kathy

You are probably the most helpful out of ANYONE I have come to for help! You definitely know what you're doing. Thank you so much! I'm so glad I stumbled upon the EWC. You tapped right into my mind. I can't thank you enough! Love, Justine

Wow, thanks so much for your reply. I agree completely with your answer, I guess I had to hear of other ways to approach this problem. Thanks so much, keep doing what you are doing, you are very good at it. GodBless you Lee

Aondreaa, Thank you for your response. I am thankful you took the time to answer my questions and concerns. I agree with everything you have said. I feel I may have been blind to the simple things you stated. I do plan on pursuing further emotional assistance with a therapist. I am thankful www.ElderWisdomCircle.org exists. Thank you again.

A few years ago, I sent you a letter. I just wanted to say thanks for you honest straight forward response. He never changed or was willing to compromise. I am no longer with 'Mr. Me Me Me!' and now have am married to a wonder man who is all about 'we'. He and I were married on Valentines Day in Vegas! It was wonderful and I'm so grateful I heard you say what I knew - I needed to move on and I did. Thanks again. The new 'Mrs.'

Hello M-Sharon, Thank you kindly for your reply. You have given me some very useful advice. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said I might be suffering from depression - I will be seeing my doctor next week and will discuss it with her. I did have some counselling for depression in the past and it helped me for a while. I appreciate your help - you are amazing and what you are doing is so great. Regards, J

Dear Aunt-Molly (for you are dear to me), Since no one else in my life has the courage to speak "directly" as you did to me, I am grateful for your thoughtful response. I have gleaned several things from your letter, but the one that is sticking out in my mind as I go through my day is "We teach people how to treat us." I think that one thing will change my demeanor in just about every circumstance I encounter. When I meet someone really special, I treat them really special. I do feel more hopeful that my friendship will endure if I let it and if I'm a little more trusting. It is hard not to let the past determine the future, but seeing it in black and white makes it sound really second rate. Thank you so much for taking the time to make a difference in my life. Love, Sue

Wow thanks for sharing your wisdom with me. I am not young but value your advice. Sometimes we need to hear this from someone else. You've been great thanks.

Thank you purple Finch! That was wonderful advice. Your right if I am contributing to the community I live in then this is good and also I should be open to experiences because this is what I need to learn from. From reading your advice I am going to explore some new ideas. Maybe I need to make the most of everything I have - not start again but build on what I have and am learning. Help is out there so I'm going to join some classes, appreciate my family and invest more in my community. When things are ready to move it should be a simple decision because it feels right. I still have loads to learn here it's my ego saying I need more. Thank you

Dear Aunt-Molly, I cannot thank you enough, yourself and all else of the Elder Circle. What a wonderful thing you all are doing here for others. As I read your response to my letter to you, I got choked up and felt tears welling up. You've made it so that I won't allow this very important moment to pass by. A letter full of feelings and good memories is exactly what I'll set to work on immediately upon sending this to you. I can't express enough gratitude to you for your advice. Truly, my heart feels so much lighter already. Love and thanks to you all, Anna

Thanks so much- I do feel less guilty now and the Elder's charming response had my husband doing a lot of nodding and saying, "See? I told you so!" We agree it isn't often he can say that so he's certainly happy : ) and I am too. I think I'll lose Patti's phone number. : )

Wow thank you so much. At first glance you are right. It's not what I want to hear but thinking about it now it makes complete sense. I've seen it, I mean since I sent that last letter I have laid off and things seem MUCH better. You guys are great, honestly, thank you so much.

Dear Aunt Molly- Thank you for your kind words and wisdom. I guess I forgot that this, like everything else we go through, is a phase. I just worry about the raised stakes, and the choices my daughter makes, which have long-lasting consequences. I really like the idea of finding something else to release her creative side. We're going to paint one wall in her room with chalkboard paint, so she can draw to her heart's content. If my parents were alive today, I think they would have said the same things you did. So I thank for for filling in for them. Your words gave me much comfort, and lots of things to think about. With love, Janet

Hey Cheche, You gave me advice a while ago on how to move past a bad (and stupid) relationship experience. I have to say, it did help! The letter was "how do you stop being angry", or something like that, and I'd just like to let you know that I've pretty much figured it out, and am talking to the guy in question again, and I think things won't be too awkward between us, which is fortunate because we go to the same university and would see each other quite often. Anyway, I just wanted to say 'thanks', if somewhat belatedly. Gratefully, Emma

It felt light after speaking my heart out and i felt even lighter after reading your reply.Thank you for your reply.

The advice you have given me was a tremendous help. I wish I could siphon all your many, many years of combined wisdom into my daughter's head. You, Carolina Friends, have very practical, sound knowledge. I thank you so much. I have already practiced some of what you have advised me. It is working. Have a wonderful day. Ann

Hello Thank you SO much for your help!! I've tried alot of other advice websites and stuff but none of them helped! I love how you show that you really do care about me and my situation and problems and it seems like you put alot of effort in writing back to me with your best advice!! Your advice worked great! He still does have self esteem problems but we're still good friends and we're working on those problems together! He does still love me alot but I told him that he should just be greatful and happy that we're still friends and that I'm still in his life and that I still do care about him but, like you said, more like a brother! Again, Thank you so much!

I want to say thank you to the elder for sharing his perspective and words of wisdom. I received his reply several weeks ago and have gone back to re-read it several times. I am sure I will continue to refer to it in future weeks/years as this is an ongoing situation that my family is dealing with. It was truly helpful to get feedback from someone who was not directly tied to this situation because they presented an unbiased view. Thank you so much, Elder Wisdom Circle, for offering this invaluable service. For those of us who cannot afford professional counseling, it is a Godsend.

Hello Dawn, Thank you very much for your advise. I tried a few of them already. I will give a try to the ones I have not done yet. Thank you very much and keep me in your prayers. I will keep all of you in my prayers for the wonderful job you are doing. We, young people (I am not sure if I still fit the category) need advise from mature and experience people like you. Again, Thank you

Thank you for the advice. That really did help me. Im glad I asked you because everything seems to ease up. You know, like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Thank you, once again/ ~Breanna

Hello - thank you for this most helpful and quickly answered 'advice'. You have offered many suggestions, and I do know you are right. There are no other boy cousins, except one age 1 1/2. You've given me 'food for thought', and we still have the better part of the summer to work this out. Thank you so much again. It's been a pleasure hearing back so quickly and w/such an in-depth explanation. God Bless you. Sincerely, Carol

Thank you so much! A lightness came over me when I read your advice. I think I needed permission to play. Thanks very much.

Once again, thank you Web for your sage advice....I wish I could carry you around in my purse and consult with you when I have a bad day! Arlene

Dear Dawn, Thank you so MUCH for responding on the holiday!!!! Your advice sounds like something I can do. Yes, I will print off all of it. God bless you for your encouragement and empathy. It means a lot when a person is discouraged. And, yes, I do need a physical. Seems like I feel worn out all the time. I felt like walking for one mile today, for the first time in weeks. Blessings and every good wish to you!!!! Sincerely, joyce

Hi Ruthie; Thanks for the reply. Since I did just get out of the hospital, I am not supposed to be out there messing around with my garden, but you just cannot hold back when you love your garden. My husband put a chair there for me to sit with some sheers, and I cut the old blooms off. As a matter of fact, I already saw new blooms coming. I realized at that point, that that's what I saw in the spring, and so I knew the tall stalk with a few flowers on the top were already spent. I was glad to get your email to help me decide what to do. Thank you! By the way, I live in IL, so hopefully I will get another couple blooms. I remember having flowers most of the year last year. Thank you too for your kind words about my surgery. I will get my daughter to put more Miracle Grow on the flowers. Thanks again! June

Dear Hedwig, I just wanted to say thanks. I asked your advice a few months ago and this is what you sent me. I followed it, not exactly as closely as I should have, but nonetheless I distanced myself. Occasionally Sxxxx texts me when he's drunk (I ignore those), but other than that I have little to no problems with him. Even though I am now dating a close friend of his brother's. All in all, thank you for your advice. Thank you for listening to me. And thank you for helping. An unbiased opinion is often all anyone needs to realize the reality of a situation. So thanks. -Annie

I am writing to thank the elder(Web)that answered my question. Often common sense isn't easy to come by when you're down. Reading the elder advice always cheers me up, and my elder's proved no exception. So, thank you a million times, my elder. Thank you for your patience and your wisdom. Claudette

Dear Emme, Thank you for all your help and support. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't let this out to anyone. I will take all your advice and try my best to get throught this. Thank you( x 1 000 000 )

I am so thankful that I had found your site. I am facing the world on my shoulders and I had no one to talk too and no where to turn. It gives me hope to see that there are people out there with time and experience that will offer advice to those that are lost IE me. I made a foolish mistake with a girl and I am still paying for it now. I left her for a job and she found someone else. I told her how I felt and she said she has no feelings for me. But from the advice the elders have given others there is nothing I can do and I must do what I never wanted too and " move on " I thank you and I hope this site stays up forever it has help keep me in balance that there is someone there that I can talk too. Sincerely, Michael

Dear Kay Kay Thanks for responding. It is very relieving to hear from someone who has felt as I do. I think I'll take a page out of your book, & talk it out about the wedding, it can surely wait an year. What you say is true. Once I go offtrack, it will take uncertain amount of time to rediscover myself. That is what was gnawing me, but I was not able put my finger on it. Many Thanks.

Hi there. I just want to say thank you so much for your help. it really helped me sort out alot of the things going on in my head. i think sometimes its good to have an outside opinion as u get stuck and only see a small picture of events happening around you. everything u said made alot of sense to me, and it really helped to have someone not involved in some way with one thing or another to speak to. yours sincerely G

I understand... Thank you for your reply. I appreciate the promptness of the message and the sincerity in your tone! Hopefully in my lifetime I can help to persuade others to see the importance of diversity and tolerance. THanks :-)

Dear Rechema Thank you so much for your sound advice! You are right... I think deep down, I know that divorce is my only option for happiness. All along I have been telling myself that if staying in the marriage is best for the kids, then I can do this....but as of late I have been realizing that the environment is really NOT good for the kids. To hear the reality from someone else has really hit home for me. I do not want to make the mistake of messing my kids up by relying on them too much and making them the focus of my life. You are so right and I think more than anything, I appreciate your reminding me of that fact! You have no idea how much I appreciate your advice...thank you. Michele

Dear Aunt Bella, Thanks so much for your beautiful letter. It made me cry. It's so nice to hear from an impartial, experienced person. I don't know why I feel that I have to "save" people but I do have a history of getting into relationships with less than healthy people and hanging on for dear life. I think you hit the nail on the head. I couldn't save him from his own fears even if I devoted myself to it 27/7 and it's such a "set-up" for pain in the future. I also loved the "you can't get enough of what you really don't want." That describes me to a "T." Perhaps it's time to start going to al-anon! And I do grind my teeth! You knew! And I have for years!!! I even have one of those plastic things that you have to sleep with. Of course I don't wear it. I think I can control that too, I guess! Anyway, thanks from the bottom of my heart. You have much compassion and you are not at all judgmental. Best wishes....D

Elder Web, Merci beaucoup, for your advice and kind encouragement. You are smart enough to have lived to be elder, and I can tell from how you write that you make the best of every day. It is a beautiful Saturday here in Ohio and I have been listening to my eight-year-old practice the piano. I will think of you as I hug my two girls and my husband tonight. I will make a donation to the Elder Wisdom Circle. Thanks again.

Dear Aunt-Bella, I just wanted to thank you for taking the time in writing me back and helping me understand some things. No one has ever made me see things as clear as you did, and for that I want to thank you. When you said you have seen a lot of life from others and yourself, you were sure right, and I dont think any other person could of said it any better. Thank you and I will definately try to take these things into consideration, I was actually thinking of talking to the pastor while I sat in church today, so thank you so very much for your kind and intelligent words of wisdom. God Bless you Aunt-Bella!!! Sincerely, A

Thank you for the reply. A comment for the Elder who responded God blesss you. I really appreciate it and I will make a donation.

I really like this website and i ask for advice whenever i can. my friends ask me for advice alot and say that i give REALLY good advice and that the things i tell them are useful and sometimes funny.

Thank you so much for you advice, Elder Web! It means a lot to me, and even made me shed a tear because I don't really have a grandparent figure in my life-- both my grandpa's have passed away, my dad's mom suffered a stroke a couple years ago and she has never been the same since, and my other grandmother is still overcome by grief from her husband's death (so much so that she would rather talk about how lonely she is rather than my personal life). In any case, alive or not, they are all overseas, so I see them maybe once every two years. Although I am almost fluent in my mother language, and understand by and large all words, it is sometimes hard to communicate with my grandparents on the phone because terms are often hard to recall when I barely use them in my life. So thank you for your thorough response! You don't have to reply to this but I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated your e-mail. EWC is truly a Godsend! P.S. I'll let you know how things go :)

JanLynn, I want to thank you for your replies to my messages with your honesty and wise words. It has helped me a a lot. Regards to your first reply to my message, I appreciate your honesty and it helped me to see what happen and what is important as some can lose sight when going through something like this and after reading your message I have a better understanding and I respect and appreciate your help. Thank you very much JanLynn : ) Have a wonderful day!

I would like to say thank you for helping me because I forgot to say thanks in my recent advice request. I would like to donate when I am older because my parents will not allow me. I hope this website stays alive and I wish you all good luck in your own lives.

Aunt-Molly, Thanks so much for the advice. I've printed out your response and I'm very excited to share it with my boyfriend. It seems like today's generation fails to see the importance of "asking our elders". You have truly made a difference and it's greatly appreciated. Sincerely,

That is fantastic advice!! thanks so much!

Omg THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH FOR UR ADVICE YOU TOTALLY GET ME. IM VERY GRATEFUL AND PLEASED WITH YOUR ADVICE THANKS A MILL LUV B

Hello, Thank you so much for the insightful response . Following your advise and a few days of my own thinking , I opted to tell the guy involved that I will no longer go out on dates with him. His overall lack of communication was apparent but, the passive aggressive possible issue came into my mind too and I'd rather not find myself in a dysfunctional relationship.. Better safe than sorry and I'll cut my losses at this early stage. Thanks again and you all do such wonderful work, much appreciated. Best wishes from sunny Helsinki, Finland. M.

Wow! Thank you so much! As it were, today I followed your advice and "Joe" went to a local coffee shop with me. I love Elder Wisdom Circle and I appreciate the advice. KUDOS, KUDOS, KUDOS!

I rave about this service every chance I get. Thank you so much. God help me be as strong as I need to be. All my love, Aija

Dear Dawn, Thank you very much for your advice. I appreciate it very much. I know that the "one year' period seems to be the magical number for any sort of serious discussion about a relationship. I guess I feel that I am more open with my offspring and him, than he is about his, however; I can wait it out. Thanks again,

Hey Barbara, Thank you so much for your advice. Your letter was warm and made my decission even more strong not to quit this job. After all only I have to go through the pain and no one else. I will strongly follow the "the work for myself" bit. Thank You again

Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful and i totally appreciate the fact that you took the time to write it. I have taken your advice on board and will act on the guidance given. Thank you so much

Hello, Thanks for the excellent and well-thought-out advice! I am still digesting it, and I think it is having the effect you are essentially advising - "don't give up the day job." Take care! - Jeff

Thank You so much JanLynn your advice- rather words of wisdom - are truly inspiring to me. I have been really down lately and this was kind of a pick me up and a kick in the pants to really let go and stop dealing with it. Thank you again.

This is so helpful and insightful, I never thought about what you said! Teachers always just seem like they're upstanding, but I completely forgot about the ones that really aren't. Thank you so much, I'm going to talk to my parents about it. :)

Dear Elders and John G, Thanks for your kind and prompt reply. It is true, perhaps I am involving myself too much, and while I can be loving and warm, it is really up to the parent. I won't be helping either party by overdoing it. Best wishes,

Once again, thank you so much! You know, I was angry for so long, I mean I couldn't even yell at him or tell him how much it hurt me. I didn't have a best friend to turn to to complain about the situation because he WAS the best friend. But I'm becoming closer with my other friends and just learning you can't always trust everyone. THANKS AGAIN <3 :)

I would like to thank Hedwig for her advice. I visit ElderWisdomCircle when I don't know where to turn and found them to be prompt and caring with their answers. I had previously purchased the book from ElderWisdomCircle and will make a donation for this wonderful organization. Thank you again, Hedwig. The most important thing is that Chris sees his family after so many years.

THANK YOU soo much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Melissa **Yes.... this was helpful!

Dear Elder Circle: Thanks so much for this advice. I feel much better. If I speak to a friend, they would spread it around or make fun of me. With Elder Circle I have privacy and confidentiality as well as true wisdom, not just the next person's opinion.

Thank you so much for the quick reply. Although I realized that I already knew the answer in my heart, I was refreshed to hear it from an unbiased party. I know I have a tough decision ahead of me. Now I just need to take the first step. Thank you very much for your kind and encouraging words. All the Best, Jennifer

Thank you. That was very good advice! I included our 10 year old son in our plans, and it worked out wonderfully. Thanks again.

Hello Ruthie, I wanted to thank you for the sweet and supportive reply you gave me. It's nice to read such an encouraging piece of advice :) Thank you again! Annalina

Thank you, Your advice is really wonderful to me and I would rather hear the honest truth, since I just can't do it myself. I do think I need to leave him, which is what I am going to do. Thank you so much.

BG Thank you for your time and effort in helping me understand better what I have heard from my counselor and other friends as well as my mom. I can hear her words about getting busy and getting on and repairing my relationships with my kids. I have a lot of growing to do and plenty of time to learn. Your words come from your heart and I appreciate them so much. Thank you for your advice.

To All Elders: Thank you , I can't tell you how much I appreciate your advice and how much it has helped me, sometimes all you need is someone to listen and the replies are always well thought out and not just oh ur doing fine, I can't thank you enough but here is my Thanks!

Elder Web, Thank you so much for your reply. I knew someone would reply, but honestly I expected a few sentences. I really appreciate the time you took to write back and share your advice and your life with me. Your letter made me realize I really have been looking at this from a funny perspective. This three-month relationship seems like forever to me, because it is the first time I've ever had a three-month anything! But it is tiny in the scheme of things. Thank you so much for your reply. Your advice basically gave me 'permission' to do what I thought I should do anyway, and on top of it you backed it up with some experience of your own. Next time I'll know to trust the little voice inside. Thank you again, Stephen

Thank you for the advice! I just want to tell the Elder Wisdom Circle thank you. What you guys are doing is selfless and wonderful. You all are a wonderful blessing and I appreciate greatly what you are doing for other people. It's nice to have another perspective on my problems from people who are wiser than I am. God Bless and take care. -Karli

Elder JanLynn, thank-you so much for your advice. It resonated so deeply, that I made the decision there and then. The burden of stress and anxiety has been lifted from me. I leapt out of bed this morning! God bless you, Francesca, in the UK.

Elder Michelle, Firstly i would like to thank u so much for everything. I cannot understand why your organization won't get some kind of funding because it has really helped me in my time of need. When i felt that i could not speak to anybody else about my problems your advise really helped me through my pain. From the bottom of my heart i would like to sincerely thank u so very much. Its hard to find genuine people out there not asking for money and because of that i will definately donate to the EWC because you guys deserve a lot more. I will try my hardest to put the advise i was given in my head, its just going to be very hard.. The way Elder Michelle put it to me was in a perfecte way, even giving me a perfect example. I strongly believe u guys do a better job than paid professionals! Thank u so much and i will definately be in touch soon. Jess

Sir Thank you for the advice and guidance. I retained portions of your advice over the last 6-7 months and they have really helped me. Basically, as advised, I "kept my head down," stayed silent, have worked hard, etc. Again, thank you for your advice, you clarified things for me as well as provided direction and helped me stay on task instead of getting fed up and moving on or out. Thanks. Matt

I have used this service maybe 3 times and I just want to tell you all that you guys are amazing! Your generosity is priceless and the fact that you are doing this out of the kindness of your heart is incredible. Thank you.

I would just like to thank you very much for your advice, it was very, very helpful! I appreciate that you think I have made a good decision . You pinpointed my exact reasons for dropping out & gave me just the advice I needed, that I believe will get me through. After reading your answer I've decided to contact a counselour before hand & inform the bootcamp about my anxiety issues/ homesickness . I just wanted to let you know how very helpful you were & how I am very grateful. Thanks again, & God bless you. With much relief, Meaghan

Elder Dawn,Thank you so much. I am not positive what I'll do from here just yet, but having your insight is really helpful. Often when looking to a peer for help, it's hard to find someone who will not only listen, but will respond with wise intuition. Your wisdom that comes along with age and experience is something I truly respect and admire. Your response was not only helpful in content, but structured without any offensive assertions. Thank you for your time and help. I really appreciate it.Melissa

Thank you for having the same Elder respond again I just want to thank you for the thoughtful response. It may seem like a small thing, but your responses really helped me put things in perspective and actually confirmed some of my inner thoughts. This is a great service that you offer. I am sending a very personal kudo and sincere thanks to the Elder who answered me both times. I also wish you much happiness.

Thank you, Elder Candy. Three of four siblings are in agreement with your advice! Thanks again for your kind wisdom. I am very impressed with this service. I love the idea of bouncing things off of others and what a neat program this is for all concerned! I will be making a contribution!

Uncle-Tony, Thank you so much for your reply. This has confirmed my latest feelings about my situation and I guess this has given me a bit more confidence in telling these two boys my plan. Each time I use EWC I get great responses. I'm very glad that I found this as a resource and hope that it will continue to grow and help people. Sincerely, Rayna

Barbara, Thank you so much for your response. Your understanding and advice was perfect. I haven't got back with my ex, but we are back in contact and on good terms. Your thoughts were true. Because of what you said, I was able to understand how she was feeling and contact her with a clear head. I have also started to look at myself and my own problems. I don't know how things will end up, but since I read your email, I have been a much happier person. I am replying to your email to let you know what a huge difference you have made. There are very few people out there like you, so I would like to say a big thank you. Its hard to show the impact of what you said in an email. After your advice, I saw my ex a couple of days ago. At first, it was very awkward. And horrible seeing a good friend look so uncomfortable. But with your advice in my head, we talked and I saw a huge smile on her face appear. You made someone happy. Thank you. Regards, Kevin.

Hello, Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it, and will take your advice, and stay here so my children do not have to move again. Your advice means so much to me at just the right time. Noone here ever talks this blunt and straight to me, and I really appreciate it. My sincere gratitude, love and blessings to gpa-and-gma. hugs too!

Thank you for a beautiful and well written response to my question. It made me cry and smile. Sometimes I feel so alien and your advice made me feel normal and ok. God Bless You and Thank You from the bottom of my heart, Joe

WOW! Thanks Tina. It's so ironic that I was asking about how I can stop overthinking, and with all the thinking I was doing I couldn't come up with this answer myself! hahaha. Well, thanks again. I have a WAY more clear idea of what I should do and how to enjoy myself.

Dear Michelle, I just wanted to write to you and say THANK YOU! The advice that you gave me was truly helpful. It's like you really sensed/understood what I was (still am) going through and it so touched me that I cried. I will take your advice and focus on centering myself, not make any serious financial decisions now, do my utmost in forgetting the past and will try to live in the now and take joy from everything I can. Once again I truly appreciate the advice given and I thank you so very much! Fatima

Dear Elder Jacobus, I would like to thank you for the very helpful advice. I have come to this site once before and I can't help but tell my friends and family how nice is it to have someone to talk to that is able to see the situation from a different perspective. The advice and time you've taken out of your day is truly appreciated. Once again, thank you for your time and truly helpful advice. I am beginning to see the situation more clearly and I know that this all had to happen for a reason. I hope that you are having a nice day and I really do appreciate your advice. Thank you, Mallory

I was surprised to read your advice to follow my instincts and re-read my own email. But I did. Wow! What a shock! All the answers were there. It was so clear that I didn't want to go through with this and that there were so many problems already. I realized I knew what I needed to do and I had been ignoring my gut for a long, long time. This was a good lesson in trusting myself and knowing what's best for me. Since this email last week, I have started counseling, I broke up with my boyfriend (who seemed more upset that I wasn't going to take care of him anymore than that we were ending a relationship) and I'm feeling really strong and am listening to myself much more. Thank you.

Dear Web, Thank you so much for your very thoughtful advice. Growing up I never had grandparents to turn to for advice so I really appreciate the wisdom and experience that you bring. My sister and I have a great relationship and I'm trying to get the courage to call her and try to mend the situation. One thing that you said that stood out was "a reprimand is not a punishment." Maybe I could mention this to my sister and hope that this advice could help her. Again, thank you so much for all your help! Best regards, Rowena

Wow Michelle!!! I didn't expect this response. I would like to thank you for your time and wise advice... I expected "wake up and smell the coffee"... Give love a chance... Brilliant advice. You are right he has had a rough life and I do love him. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

Reading back my question and your response-I am just wondering why I have let myself go this long hoping and waiting for something to change when it isnt going to. What an eye opening response- from a complete stranger-My family has been telling me I am like a woman being beaten every day-and just keep staying-even though he doesnt use fist, it still hurts. But when a complete stranger can see it- and I have only given some of the "bad"-I really feel like an idiot-thank you-my children thank you-- Cindy

Wow! That's really awesome! Your info is a BIG help! I'm so glad I used this service! I will recommend it to others and make a donation!

Thank you sssoooooo much, your response made me cry. I was double guessing myself and running everything back through my mind. I feel so much better now. You don't need to respond - you said it all - :o)........................and as a side note, my Husband agrees with me. He's not happy with the situation but believes that we didn't do anything wrong. PS....and you are right - I am blessed with really cool folks who are just the best!!!

I have got the best response from my question about my boyfriends issues with marriage. you have helped me so much just by simply opening my eyes. you are the best for taking time to not only help me but to use your wisdom and knowlege to help others too. many thanks, elizabeth

I want to say think you to the group of Elders who replied to me. Although it is in the depths of my email inbox buried under college emails and facebook notifications, that advice has stuck with me. I was having issues with two men who were dear to me and I finally listened to what you told me and am incredibly happy. Thank you.

Thank you a million times Shekinah! I am completely ready to do what i have to and i feel better knowing that you have come out the same situation happier knowing it was the right choice. I believe we should always trust our gut intincts and i thank you for giving me the nudge ;-) I love this site and the whole selfless attitude it promotes. For this i will be making a donation as soon as i get my wages!! Tahara

Dear Wisdom Circle; This response more than answered my inquiry, it touched my heart with deep and honorable truth, thank you, my donation is on the way. Marsha

Elder, I literally cried when I read your advice. You see , everyone is afraid to tell me what you just did and what I so needed to hear even though I have ask and ask for advice from everyone. You were right on the money on this one. I appreciate your advice and will most assuredly take it and smile while doing so. You have taken a great weight off of my mind and a lift off of my shoulders. I feel so much better. This service is wonderful. Thank you so much for being my sounding board. I hope you have as great a success in giving advice to others as you have to me. Thank you for the uplift, No more used , abused and confused Now: Unused, wont be abused and very amused ! I will be able to say NO !

WOW. Your response literally brought tears to my eyes. It was a huge comfort to know that you and your son have both served for our country, and I have the utmost respect for the both of you. After reading your response, I feel much more at ease with what's going on in my world. Thank you sooooo very much, and it's nice to actually get an unbiased opinion. :D

Elder Terry, What terrific advice. My wife and I will remain in contact . As it turns out his wife doesn't know he spoke to m and I turn with my wife. I will have to let him break the news to her that my wife and I know that something is up. What a great service this is. Thanks Dave

I want to thank Helen for responding to my email. It always helps to hear what we "think" might be true or things we forget when we are in the thick of it. I'm going to save Helen's response and print it out to read when I'm feeling down at work or shakey about my choices. I love this service! There's lots of us out here who either come from families too dysfunctional to be of much help, or in some cases, those who don't have family. Thank you again. It was just what I needed to hear, honestly. :)amber

Dear Buttercup, What a lovely and thoughtful response! I really enjoyed reading your email. You seem like a soulful lady who has enjoyed much richness in life. Good for you!! And thank you for being so willing to take the time to share your thoughts. I spent a lot of time alone this weekend and it felt great! I agree that many people can enjoy a lifetime with various people and that there is not one "soul mate" for every person. I certainly enjoy this guy and want to keep exploring our possibilities as a couple. Thank you so much again. It sounds like you are not at a loss for enjoying your own free time or finding ways to enrich the lives of others! Your kindness is much appreciated. Your new friend, Jennifer

Dear Elder Oliver, Thank you for the advice. When I read that what I needed was emotional support my worries calmed and an AHA! moment arrived. That is exacly what I needed I had just been to worried to accept it. Just reading that someone else believed that was what I needed, in some sense gave me emotional support. THANKYOU SO MUCH I feel like I just regained my strengh the same kind of strengh that a hug offers. This site is a blessing.

Arianne, a few years back you responded to my letter, 'the love of my life.' I wanted to tell you your advice was right on the money. I was very upset about a married man I was seeing. Although I have stopped seeing this fellow, I still think about him every day. But I also think of your kind and wise advice every day, too. I have never met you, of course, but I wish I could give you a great big hug. You're a wonderful person. Kind regards, Luann

Dear CHR, Thank you so much for responding with such positivity. I felt better the moment I read your reply. I actually had not looked at the situation that way or thought that perhaps it was in my best interest that the relationship ended with minimal damage. The idea of someone somewhere who takes time to understand is really wonderful. Thanks again and know that you made a difference in my perspective. Brooke

Dear Candy, your kind words after putting my beloved cat "to sleep" were of great comfort to me. It was very difficult and I needed to hear what you had to say. It still hurts, but I am so grateful for you... and all the elders. What a kind and loving world I live in! Thanks again! Kathey

Dear John-G. You are absolutely right. I know what I have to do I'm just putting it off. I praise you all for the service you provide. It is kindness on another level that you will give up your time to help complete strangers with their problems. It's a real help knowing you are there. Kindest regards Emily

Dear Buttercup, Thank you SO MUCH for your advice!!!!! (#125736) I tried what you said and talked to my mom about it. She said that she was sorry and that she would try harder. she didn't even raise her voice! I am SO EXTREMELY grateful to you. Oh, and by the way, I had a sleepover the other night...and YIKES! I'm glad that my mom is mine. thanks again!! Brooke

Dear Helping-Hearts Thank you so much for being there in my trying times. I just wanted to share the good news with you that all issues have been resolved and we are 1 happy family again. The guy looks extremely remorseful and I guess deserves 1 more chance. Though I've decided to keep an eye on his internet activities on regular basis. Thank you once again for all the support advice offered. Regards Jyoti

Hi Elder Jacobus... You responded to a letter of mine about my decisions concerning a new and first relationship... I felt so grateful for your advice, and it made me feel more connected and hopeful in humanity. I hope you can understand how much I appreciate your time and effort, and I hope that I can talk to you again and ask for your beyond caring advice in the future. Thank you so much again, I had nowhere else to turn, and I think in my own way I found a guardian Angel that I never used to believe in. Best wishes, and take care always. Ashlee

Thank you for taking the time to consider and respond to my dilemma. Work related events in recent months had taken a greater toll than I had fully realised making it difficult for me to consider my immediate career options clearly and unemotionally. In the time between sending my question and receiving your reply, I decided to take a proactive step and visit my (potential) new employer at his worksite. It was well worth the four hour round trip. I was most impressed and heartened by what I saw. The new organisation is keener than ever, now, to have me on board. I know that I can accept their offer on my own terms and for a duration convenient to me. I am deeply grateful for your assistance and somewhat relieved that we reached the same conclusion. I have yet to sign a contract, but negotiations are underway as are plans for my own enterprise. Warmest wishes, Renata

I want to thank you Grandma-Sherry, I appreciate your time and understanding. Your response touched me and also renewed my spirit! Thank you again, I just needed that little push. I know he's going to be fine. We'll just go a different route! I can't express my heartfelt thanks. Michele

Dear Elder Wisdom (PicklesMarie) It has been nearly a year since you offerred me this excellent advice. I followed your recommendation and the response by my wife was overwhelmingly positive. I know it has taken a long time for me to reply, but I wanted you to know that I appreciated your advice, and my wife is even more beautiful than ever - hairdo and all. Thank you Bill D.

I received a reply from Elder John G. re: letter 123233. I want to say thank you. The advice and insight were very helpful. Deep down, I know the matter at hand is with me and is something I need to work on. Elder John validated this. The additional information about the loss of a relationship is spot on. I grew up with this other person so, in a way, I feel like I've lost him. This has now become a chapter in my life I must close and move on.

Tell-Tom, Your advice was really on point! Thank you so, so much :) It's Monday and I've already sought out help from various shelters. A few have denied me as they have no space for a new born but I've atleast begun the process. This is a hurtful situation for me in every way but I'm on the road to safety and security. I truly appreciate your firm words and direction. I knew the right thing to do already but needed confirmation. Keep up the good work and God bless you. The Elder Wisdom Circle is surely appreciated. Takeya

KayKay Thank you so much for your advice! I think everything has been straightened out and I owe it all to you. =)

Elder Web, I wanted to tell you how much your recent reply helped me! First, thank you for your insight and advice that was exactly on target! And the last part!! I really liked that you said 'If you wish, let me know how things are going.' That small statement made me feel like I mattered even to a stranger. I am starting to put my plans in action and taking my life back. I have discussed my problem/plans with my sons,they are ready to move my things to safe storage on a days notice. I would like to let you know how it is progressing from time to time if that's still o.k. ?? You have been an amazing amount of help to me! You are very good at this! I am glad I found this site!

Dear Aunt Molly: When I first read your response to me, I wished so much that I could know you. But then I realized that I do know you and always have. You are the essence of love, caring and compassion that we all carry within us. I do know you, even though I sometimes forget I do. Thank you so much for your response. You asked if I had "ever shed those tears?" After reading your response to me, indeed I did release a lot of hurt and emotions that, like you suspected, were bottled up inside of me. I will save your message to me forever. Thank you so much for your understanding and for sharing your wisdom with me. I lost my Mom about 4 years ago to a nasty bout of cancer and I've felt a deep void since. But now I have an Aunt Molly. Thank you for being there for me! With aloha, Eric

I want to thank Aondreaa for the wonderful advice. Her response was comforting, insightful and caring. She helped me a great deal. After reading her response I felt immediately better about my situation. I would definitely recommend Elder Wisdom Circle to my friends. Thank you so much EWC and Aondreaa.

Thankyou to Dawn for your prompt advice. I didn't answer right away, as I tried everything you suggested. I was really stuck for awhile. I am pacing myself a little more and I am definitely not as tearful. This service is so great-helps you get a prospective that is confidential and heartfelt and sincere--just what you need in a crisis. Thankyou so much Dawn. Sincerely Donna.

THANK YOU....this morning was an unprecedented low point in my life of late and this response was just wonderful to come to work to. I will take all your advise to heart and I will indeed keep you up to date on how I'm doing. Thank you again and God bless you as you have blessed me! Karen

Cheche-your letter touched my heart.To have someone call me awesome is especially encouraging I am going to takeyour advice and when my thrift shop dream is a reality I am going to make a generous donation! Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my letter and I will keep in touch. With much gratitude Tonia

Thank you so much for your advice - I told my boyfriend everything tonight and his response was, basically, that he loves me, he's not going anywhere, and he thinks I'm incredibly strong for being who I am. I might not be over everything but knowing that there are people in the world who don't think less of me, and that there are people who love me, helps immeasurably. Thank you so much for your reply. I really don't think I would have gone through with it otherwise, and my relationship would have suffered. As it is, I think I'm closer to moving on from what happened :) Thank you with all my heart

Special thanks to Aondreaa for giving me advice throughout my difficult situation. Going over her emails help me to stay focused and feel better about everything!

I recently asked for some relationship advice and was responded too very timely and respectfully by Gma-and- Gpa. I just wanted to say thank you first of all for donated your wisdom to others and to myself. I think it is a most wanderful thing that we have people alike these elders in our society willing to help those in need of advice. Alike fine wine, they grow all the sweeter with age. After reading the reply, I heard what i have told myself a million times. that I need to seriously get in touch with who it is I call "myself". I perhaps just needed to hear it from someone else. I know that she does truely love me, and I her, and that she was also young in her decisions. Thank you again, and I say this with all the love and admiration i can muster for all the elders within this medium.. There is a special place in Heaven at the right hand of the Lord for people like you. Guardian angels do exist, there just havn't recieved their wings yet.. Thank you elders.. Michael

I wanted to thank KayKay for her excellent advice to my dilemna. She gave me advice from a personal as well as professional objective and it was just what I needed. The included poem was so truthful and thoughtful, I forwarded it to all of my friends and family. KayKay gave me the stregnth to raise my head up, take care of my son, and move on with my life. Thank you.

Gpa-and-Gma Thank you for your advice with regard to mending a long time friendship. From the few people I sought advice from, you were the only ones who told me that I was wrong and that I needed to take the first step to mend my friendship. I am glad I listened to you, as my friend and I are again on speaking terms, and I think we both learned a lot from this experience. Again, a heartfelt thank you. Darcel

I wanted to say thank you to your site and especially to Cheche. Insight and understanding from someone who has "been there, done that" helped me to stop feeling so sorry for myself and realize that I am not alone and can reach out for support and receive it. Thank you for being there for people who just need someone to relate to. Many thanx, Tarra

Many thanks for your advice Dawn you truly are a wise lady. I have now made plans to take my son on a short holiday in the summer just the two of us, as you so rightly said he will be gone soon enough, its takes someone else to put things into perspective for you doesn't it? With kind regards Angela

I would like to say thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it. It was really comforting and helpful. Want you to know, I decided Im going to move and have a life, and one day a REAL love with a real person. Once again, thank you so much :-) Cyn

Dear Kate, Thank you for the advice! It really helped me a lot :) Now, whenever I worry about my life remember what you said. Thanks!

Hi Aunt-Molly, i don't know if you'll remember me, but i'm the girl who was deciding whether or not to quit softball. i just wanted to let you know that i did decide to quit. i had my father call the coach to explain, and the next day i spoke to the coach personally. i thanked him for his time and i appologized because i knew i had a commitment to the team. i then explained that my grades were slipping and i had some family issues that i needed to resolve. i ended by saying that i used to enjoy the sport, but i feel that it's too competitive and i need to focus on other things in my life. he seemed to understand and thanked me for being so "responsible and thinking through the choice". i want to thank you for helping me make this choice, i feel really good about it and i feel you understand my problem. thank you so much for all you have done!

I'd just like to say Thank You so much to you all for doing such wonderful work you're all angels! You all should be so proud and give your selfs a giant pat on your backs for helping so many people in need! I'm so greatful to PicklesMarie responded so quickly to my email and what great advice she gave me. From the bottom of my heart thank you sweeti and bless you. I would love to give you a big hug right now!!! Hope to speak with you again soon! Love Linda

Thank you for answering back so quick. Your advice sure cut deep but it's o.k. I wanted and needed the truth. Yes, you are right....we all make choices. But sometimes the choices are not always the "right" choices. Like with my decicision to start smoking at age 16. And with my daughter's decicision to marry this man. As for her being happy.....she says she is but her actions do not prove it. She is depressed most of the time and her demenor shows it. But I will stay out of the rift between my 2 daughters. I guess I knew this all along, I just needed to have an unbiased person to say it. Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart.

Elder Web, I can not thank you enough for your help. There is great comfort in the experienced guidance of those who are my senior. Having recently lost my Dad, it was extra special to me to hear advice from an elder male on the issue I am facing. It was like receiving a gift wrapped in wisdom. I feel relieved and better able to do the right thing now that I have heard from someone who has clearly given careful thought and insight to some of lifes bumps in the road. Thank you for providing a gentle sense of direction for me. I will forever be grateful and hope I can grow into earning a place in the special circle of sages one day. (Insert smile here). Thank you so much Web! Deb

THANK YOU sooo much. I'm so surprised at how much thought you put into your response and I couldn't agree more with you. I loved your insight and it is nice to get someone's opinion that doesn't know me inside and out. I'll admit I'm still confused about some things, but I definitely agree that I wouldn't be good for anyone ... I've been telling my best friend this for a couple of years - You probably already guessed that something happened in my past that has made me Overly concerned about MOI (me). I think that since I'm comfortable being alone, I'm just going to stay that way. Again, I am so amazed at the effort you put in this, you are truly a good soul. Take care, and thanks again. Cindy

Thanks very much for replying to my email for advice. I appreciate your thoughtful response. It's helped to confirm my suspicions of what might be best to do right now. Thanks again. Mike

This is the best advice i've got on this site thx so much i feel loads better. thanks so much

Thank you what a great service you guys are wonderful. Great Advice! Every best wish. Hope you are all able to prosper from this wonderful service you give the world.

Thank you so much!!! it really helped me out alot especially the part that says that i am still president of my class and varsity basketball starter! Thank You so so so much....i just wanted you to know that I hope you will be truly blessed because of your effort to help others! Thanks again, Brooklyn

I feel so fortunate to have found this amazing resource! I sent in my request not really knowing what to expect. I discovered a reply which was compassionate, intelligent and soothing. Now I can come back down to earth and live my life on a more real level and toss away the superficial luggage I was carrying around. Thank you!

I have an unusual problem and didn't know what to expect from your site. Kenti's answer came just when I needed it, and she helped clarify my mind. If she is an example of the quality people you all are, this site is a treasure. God bless you all. James

I would just like to thank you Texas-Grandpa for your advice. It seems so simple to understand my situation now somebody has offered an unbiased opinion. The advise given was so hepful, I don't know how to thank you (except to make a donation of course...which I am going to do!) I shall also be recommending your service. Thank you again...I am extremey grateful for your help.

Elder Web, I'm not quite sure what to say except ive never had such amazing feedback from someone i have never met. the advice i received was spot on and i have ALOT to think about in the next few days. i just want to say thank you so much for your kind yet eye opening response. god bless! -kate

Hello Tell-Tom, Thank you for your prompt reply. It is good hear from someone who has had a personal experience that is so similar. God Bless you for your support. I especially liked your term " defiantly independant but lacking in judgement". That hits the nail on the head. I will re -read your reply when I feel overwhelmed. Thank you, Linda

Thank u so much for your advice, it is down to earth and made a lot of sense. Thank you for not judging me :). He has made effort and I probably overreacted, but your advice put a lot of things in perspective for me. Thank you ,Elder Dawn! This is a wonderful website!!!

YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!! You've given some of the best advice on relationships.It has helped me alot! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!

Thanks again for all of your help for my needs of advice. I was never any good at solving problems by myself. Having the elder circle makes me feel like I have more options and a better chance at making the right choices in life. Thank you all so much.

Elder Barbara, Thank you so much for your heart felt and thoughtful advice. I felt so much better after reading your response, almost like I wasn't so alone in this world. I like to inform you that I did find a better job, paying and otherwise, and that I am working on healing the "me" inside. I am working on standing up for myself. It is hard work, but it is nice to know that you were able to do so in your life. That gives me hope for my future. I will inform everyone I know about your wonderful service. Thank you Thank you thank you, and may you be surrounded by blessings and joy. Nicole :)

I just want to thank you PicklesMarie for the advice you gave me about one year plus ago. I'm not sure if you can remember now. I talked about an exam that I took which I did not succeed at initially and this gave me problems. I felt I had failed in life. But you advised me on how to cope and that helped a lot. I want you to know that when I re-took the test that December, I passed with just a little itch and now I'm progressing with my studies. I also want you to know that I'm now experiencing a better quality of life much of which is because I learned from my mistakes as you advised and I also discovered a lot about myself through that trying period of anguish, pain and depression. Maybe if you try and look back, you'll remember me. Thank you very much once again for all the help.

I wanted to thank you for assisting me through an intense personal struggle. It was really great to have someone neutral to listen and be there to help through a difficult situation. I really appreciate that Elder BG shared their heart and soul at my time of most need. Thank you Thank you Thank you...

When times were especially tough I wrote you a letter. Someone gave me some very good advice (I can't remember who). My wife and I are happy now and we are living a beautiful small town with a new job. Thanks! jim

Thank you so much for the advice! It really helps to have someone (or many people) who have had a lot of life experiences to offer advice and wisdom. Thank you for your help, keep doing what you are doing because it's so nice to have someone to talk to. You guys have helped me though some really difficult decisions and tough times. It's people like you who make our lives better and help us get through those tight situations. Thank you, I really can't say enough. I know I will probably have difficult times in the future; it's comforting to know that there is a community out there of people who care, who offer advice to better the lives of those who are a little misguided.

Advice from this website has now helped me get through two of the toughest situations I've ever had to face. Thank you to whoever started this group, and to the elders for their help!

Here I am a year later and I am happier than I have ever been! I knew in my heart the information that you suggested, however I needed to hear it from someone else since I was so insecure in my own decision making abilities. I am happier than I have ever been and I wanted to say thank you. Thank you again, Charlotte

Comments: I just wanted to take a little time out to let you know that I think this web site is great! It's so nice to know that it's available and please keep up the good work. Your advice to others is just wonderful! No BS just straight to the point, common sense!! I myself am in my early thirties and still wet behind the ears. I am glad this is available to all of us who need a little advice from our elders from time to time. Sincerely, Nakia

Having lost my grandparents on both sides, finding your website was a dream come true. I appreciate the advice from people who have been there and pray that you will continue dispensing wisdom to people like me for years to come! Thank you so much for being here.

You guys are amazing! I am a sixteen year old girl and a highschool senior. This website is a lifesaver, even for someone at my age. It's just wonderful to have these amazing people who are always there to litsen and share there wisdom. YOU GUYS ARE AMAZING

I am 37 and find your group, as I see it, a Godsend. I've been looking. I am very happy to have discovered you. Thank you so much for such a group.

OMG thanks you so much, this is best best advice anyone has given me on this subject. I think i got it from here =. thanks you for all your help Britt

I would like to recommend this site to others who are struggling. So many of us either don't have someone to confide in, or someone that can look at the situation from an outsiders perspective. I know that your organization is there for me and people like me, who need sage words of advice and maybe a wake-up call. You are appreciated. Thank you, Melissa

Thank you for the advice you's have given. Truely i find it invaluable. I will spread the word of the elders. Again thank you iv allways known the way of the youth is through the wisdom of elders, please continue to grow as our society is in desperate need of work such as you are doing. Anything I can do to help i shall peace and thanks Dan

I just wanted to thank you all for the helpful advice and wise words you sent me. I just wanted you to know that I followed your advice and as of July 27th I am engaged to the wonderful man whom I wrote about. We are planning our wedding for June 19, 2008. I am having fun planning my future. Thank you for listening and sending me advice to think about and ultimatly take. Patrice

What a wonderful resource you provide, especially to those of us who don't have grandparents to turn to. Your experience and wisdom has been very valuable to me. Thank you so much.

Dear Ones; I want to thank the elder that responded to my letter. The response was gentle and thought provoking. I think I knew all along that this relationship would not end in a committment to a life together. Last night I gave my friend a decision to make: He could get a divorce and continue in this relationship or not get a divorce and end it. He was very hurt and has tried to make me feel guilty for "ending it this way". I don't feel guilty, I feel like a deserve better from a man that claims to love me. Thank you again, V

Hello! I recieved advice from you a couple of months ago and it was so very helpful. I have now come through the situation as postively as possible. Thank-you very much!

I can't thank you enough for your advice. I know there are more serious problems than mine, and I should be counting my blessings that this is as bad as it is, but nevertheless, its nice to know that someone is on my side. Thanks again :) -A

Please tell Elder Helen she really hit the nail on the head on all counts...she gave very good advice, which I am following. It helps a lot! Thank you.

Thank you for your reply. It was just nice to be able to talk to someone about this problem, it felt like a burden being lifted off of my shoulders. Even though I knew what I needed to do before I wrote you, your reply confirmed it. I will take a step towards forgiveness, one day at a time.

Wow. This reply actually motivated me to send an e-mail to my mother. I know in person or even over the phone would be better, but I do not do well with conflict and it is easier for me to e-mail. Thanks Again! Emily

Thank you for this letter. The letter has drastically changed my life. Jason

Thank you very much for your advice ...I really don't have many people to talk to about my personal problems with and you guys definitely helped ...I will tell all my friends about your great work and how speedy your response was ...it really is great to have someone listen for a change ps. I would recomend this site to anyone

Thanks a lot for your valuable reply..really its a great thought.i believe u are all angels of this world!!!

In reading this response.. I felt such a release. To hear that my concerns are valid and that someone more experienced and wise sees what I feel and understands was like therapy.....I'm not crazy or selfish or just simply a worrywort. Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to respond to my e-mail....you have restored some hope in me...

I just wanted to let you know what a truly thoughtful response I recieved from Rose..... it is so wonderful to know that there are still caring people in the world today. She gave me excellent advice. After the links she gave me I also learned of the many people who have family members in the same situation as my sister. The advice she gave was so helpful and I appreciate the effort she put into it. Thank you to everyone.

Thank you for being there and taking the time to go through my problems and giving sensible advice. I cannot think who else I could have gone to with my problems. Thank you for being there and caring for just anyone in the world.

Shreya and EWC- Wow. I found this reply amazingly well put and sensitive, and to the point. I think this is a great organization and thank you so much for taking the time to answer. What a great group you all are. I am going to print out Shreya's response and keep it with me for a pep talk when things get hard. I appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. You don't know how much your input is appreciated. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Joan

Having just read my reply from Rosebud, I would just like to say a HUGE thankyou. To hear the advice from someone else is a reassurance and a piece of mind. I will definately be using this service again, though I hope I won't be needing to! THANKS

Dear PicklesMarie, Thank you so much for your thoughtful suggestions and advice! Your guidance has helped me very much in this situation. My fiance and I had a heart to heart talk and he has assured me that this living situation is only temporary (1yr max). He knows how I feel and agrees that it is not fair if we have to be responsible for supporting her and accommodating for her, especially when we can't afford it and we're just beginning our lives together. A huge cloud has cleared up for me and I can feel better about this now. Thank you so much for lending me your ear and your heart. Best regards, Thuy

THANK YOU SOO MUCH ELDER DAYLE!!! you taught me a lesson that I needed to learn and here it is " PEOPLE ARE DIFFRENT!!! I know now that people love,work,grow,feel,and are diffrent!! Thank you so much!!! I love your help Thank you!!! ~ Your Friend Hollie

Thank you for replying so promptly. I didn't think anyone cared to be honest. You have given me a new outlook. Thank you for the time you took to help me. Sincerely, Ann

WOW... thank you for this reply.. this is exactly what i needed to hear from someone else's mouth... thank-you again.. i feel like i can gain control of my life again.. :)

Thank you very much for your thoughts. I re-read your comments twice, and plan to read several more times, and slip a copy of it into my journal. Your advice has helped me have a clearer perspective on not just this relationship, but with my own motives and attitudes. Thank you again, and best wishes! Andrea

Thanks Elder Dawn, I feel better, I am happy you didn't judge me, or try to tell me to get over this, as other people did. Your advice was calm and wise, and helped me a lot. Thanks!

This advice is extremely uplifting and so helpful. You have made me feel comfortable and so much better as a result of your amazing advice. I don't know how to thank you enough. Your reply brought tears to my eyes. In deep appreciation, Jennifer

Dear Elders of the Rocky Mountain Owls, Your letter washed over me like sweet rain -thank you -no one is home right now but me and the baby and this letter has given me a feeling of relief and release that I cannot really explain- I just can't stop crying thank you - I have tried so hard- thank you for letting me know its ok to let go - I am printing this letter and folding it up very small to keep in my purse for when I need to read it or just hold it in my hand to rember a kindness -while I begin making necessary changes in my life - thank you for bring a friend - if you do not mind i will write again someday when I have good news. Catherine

The advice that was given from your elder was fantastic. I feel as though my letter was really understood. Thanks for your help.

I can't thank everyone involved with EWC enough! I have always recieved meaningful & very helpful advice, and as a 14-year-old girl, it is such a huge relief to know that no matter how insignificant my problems or worries may seem, there is always someone out there who is willing to offer advice. All my love & gratitude!

I am amazed at your fair and wise advice. Thank you so very much. It is a great comfort to hear this from someone outside of our family circle.

I was very impressed with the time and thought that went into the reply I received. The time and attention, in addition to the the great thoughts and ideas, makes me want to think of a lot more questions. LOL. What a great gift. I will take into consideration all that was written. Thank you for your time and help. M

I have no elders in my family so it is wonderful to know that when I am just at a loss on how to handle a problem, especially with my children, I can turn to you all. You are wonderful. Blessings to you.

Dear Cirrus, I don't know how to thank you for your kind words. Please accept a *virtual hug* from me! I also am in awe of the fact that such a truly accomplished person has written to me. It's amazing. It's very hard to find selfless and compassionate people in today's world. I'm glad I found you. Thank you for understanding me so perfectly. Regards, Saaima

I wanted to write to express my appreciation for the prompt and detailed response to the question. One thing that stood out was the good advice on "taking on one thing at a time." I see more clearly that I have been trying to solve multiple problems all at once instead of giving myself a break and taking little steps to alleviate some of my suffering. I also appreciate the reminder that I need to live in the now, instead of dwelling on the past hurts and the future anxieties.

I just wanted to say thank you so much, to both Aunt Patty and to EWC for providing this service. The insight and caring in this response almost brought tears to my eyes. I will save this email and read it when I feel overwhelmed with trying to protect my son. Thank you, Aunt Patty, for your wisdom and for sharing your own experiences. A big hug to you, Rachel

I would like to thank Digit for his/her androgynous reply! How lovely to have my doubts calmed. I am going to adopt the philosophy that everyone needs a hug, and will give and receive them as often as I can.

I am very grateful for the prompt and sincere advice I have received. It made such a difference to my sense of well-being to only receive and read such a well-considered, objective, kind and reassuring response. I hope that you will communicate my gratitude to Uncle-Tony, the elder who guided me. I would like to say that I consider EWC to be a direly needed service in the rather orphaned world of today, where the sincere selfless advice of a well-wisher and the wise affectionate guidance of elders is becoming harder to come by, even in a traditional society like my India.

Elder Nancy... whomever you are. You sound like such a wonderful person. My eyes started to tear when I read your reply. And to be honest, I didn't think I'd get an e-mail back from anyone. I do agree with everything you have wrote and I will go get that movie tomorrow. I thank you so much for writing me back. It means a lot. And I wish to speak to you more. I feel you have a lot to tell me, and to maybe open my eyes. I agreed to go to Greece - I leave soon. I wish you the best in every little thing in life.

Aunt Patty you are wonderful in every way. You went through every thing I am going through now. Even though I do not know you I love you. Thanks

My face is wet with tears after reading the response from Web, the "elder" who responded to my inquiry. I am grateful beyond belief for his heartfelt words. It meant so much more coming from a man. Because I know my father would have wanted me to be safe--his words were caring wisdom that took the place of my own father's voice. This service is a lifesaver... in a moment when I had nowhere else to turn, you gave me a solid bit of hope to stand on. Thank you.

I want to SINCERELY THANK BARBARA for her words of Kindness & Thoughtfulness. Her taking the time to give me some advice and share w/ me her experiences showed me that I'm not the only person out there in this situation. Again, THANKS SO MUCH BARBARA YOU WERE A LIFELINE TO ME. LOVE, LISA

This site is monumental!! I received advice for my problem in such a kind and timely manner. I know this may sound a bit silly, but I don't feel as alone anymore! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Thank you for your helpful and sympathetic advice. I think I just needed someone to hear me and let me know I was going to be ok. I appreciate you elders taking the time to listen and respond thoughtfully to my situation.

I just opened up my latest issue of Real Simple magazine and saw the "blurb" about EWC in the front of it. What a fantastic idea! I Immediately went to the website to submit a request for advice. Due to the overwhelming volume, I was not able to submit it yet, but I look forward to checking back frequently until I can. In the meantime, I browsed the replies received by other readers. What a blessing to have you!!!!!! Keep up the good work. It is MUCH NEEDED in today's society.

Thank you so much for your advice! I'm not able to stay at home with my twins as suggested, but I have changed my perception of what is really important. Thank you for your wisdom and experience, it helps to have a kind stranger peeking in and assessing your situation in a way you never could. Thanks!

I wanted to say the advice helped me on deciding what to do about my now ex- boyfriend. so thank you so much, It is amazing what you all are doing on here!

Thank you for the advice. I am so amazed all these volunteers are here to share their wisdom with us. Thank you all so much

Just a note to thank EWC & particularly Elders Dawn and David-Edward who advised me re: my brother's death. Thank you so much; you helped me through the fog.

Thank you Elder Wisdom Circle! I feel blessed to have discovered this site. Without a doubt, those who have lived life and survived a myriad of challenges are in the best position to provide advice based upon "20/20 hindsite".

You all have given me such great, insightful, funny, & witty advice. Thank you very much. I will continue to seek the wisdom of the circle of elders!!

Elder NATOHTA-MAHKESES I just had to respond back to you, not only to thank you for your advice, but to tell you that when i got to the end of your letter and read that you are a American Indian grandmother, i broke down, you see my grandmother raised me and she was always there for me. I lost her 10 years ago, but it feel's like only yesterday, how i miss her. My grandmother was also an Indian (Cherokee).I belive God did guide me to The Elder Wisdom Circle and to you. As for your advice, I will do just that, Thank You for your time,advice and most of all your prayer's. Take Care, and you are in my prayers too. God Bless, Sincerely, Evonne

I just have to say I think you all are wonderful It's nice to know there's a "grandparent" out there when I need one. I've always gone to my grandparents when I needed advice or direction. I've always found them helpful. Keep doing what you're doing, I think it's great!

Dayle, Thank you so much for your response. I truly appreciate your opinion. I feel much better than when I wrote the note. Writing the note was cathartic for me, and I have had a few discussions with my husband since I wrote to you. We are better off today than we were even a few days ago. When I feel that I am losing hope in the future, I shall read your note again. You have helped me beyond what I can convey in a simple e-mail. Best regards, Paula

The advice I recieved from you was amazing. I went through with the biggest step of my life because of you! I am now enjoying a lovely vacation with my new WIFE! Thank you so much.

You guys and gals are WONDERFUL! I have recieved such great advice here and have told ALL my friends about this site and they love it, too. Thank you for all that you do. You have helped me, and so many others, more then you will ever know.

Thanks again, I was really lonlier than I realized. Your message was like a cup of fresh clean water to my thirst. Thank you. Have a blessed day. Catherine

I sent a question in and received the best advice that I think I have ever heard in my life! I know that this advice will save my relationship. It seemed like the elder pointed all the places where I was going wrong in my relationship and advised that I might approach them differently! I will really advise all of my troubled friends to the elders, THANK YOU SOOO VERRY MUCH! I believe that you just saved my relationship!

I have written and asked advice and I want to thank you for always being here. The advice is always kind and well written. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

I was delighted to find out about this group! I savor the memories of my own grandparents and because of them I have a natural attraction to the elderly. To me an elderly person is a hidden treasure waiting to be discovered. Thank you for making access to these treasures more possible.

This is a great site. To know that there are wonderful people out there that care enough to help a complete stranger. This is what I want to do when I am older.

I'm very happy to hear from you it brings my spirit to a new level. I was starting the day depressed until I opened this e-mail and got a good feeling inside that I can over come the things that is hurting me, you see I keep alot of things bottled up inside, it means alot to me, to share my story. Thanks, Noel

You are right about everything. Your advice makes a lot of sense to me and gives me a lot to think about. I only wish I found this site before it got the point where I started to devalue my wife's opnions and job; it wasn't always like this. Jay

I am so glad to know that you're all out there! I'm very sentimental, so I cried when I saw the report on your group. In keeping with my New Year's resolution to be more grateful, I wanted to say a heartfelt "Thank You" to you all out there who are lending your wisdom to those of us who haven't gained it.

You understood my situation perfectly. Thank you for making me feel so much better about myself!! You guys are the greatest! God bless you for doing this service. Thank you seems so inadequate. Sincerely, Joyce

I would just like to express my sincere thanks to the Holiday for the advice on my relationship worries a few months ago. I have managed to move on from the girl I was seeing and truly express my feelings towards my ex girlfriend. Sadly that has not come to much but at least I tried, and have begun to move on. Thanks again Holiday, Your advice really helped me at a time when I felt I had nobody to turn to. All the best, Danny in the UK

I would like to sincerely thank Seeley for the insight provided. It made me cry to be understood, when I can't even understand myself. Your advise is exactly what I needed to hear. All I need now is to gather the strengh to take your advise. I can never thank you enough...It feels so good to talk about this! God bless you. Joan

In today's world, there are few things that stand out and really hit you. I have to say after checking your site out that what you all do is absolutely wonderful!! To give from your heart and offer advice based on your life experiences is a wonderful service to all ages. I am a public servant (firefighter) and I applaud your actions. May God bless all of you!

Wow. That is possibly the best advice you could have possibly given. I have kind of wondered if he did find another girl and was just stringing me along. I really really hope thats not the case. I am still fairly young (22) and you're right, I do have a whole lifetime ahead of me...I do still love this guy but Ive been through enough to think that maybe I should trust my gut feelings (and your advice) and give this up. Thank you so much for the advice and for taking the time out of your day to give it. It means alot.

I think Elder Wisdom Circle is the best thing I've found on the internet since I got my computer a year ago. I know I will turn to it again and again. I feel like I have a real good friend now. Many thanks, Phyllis

Kudos to this response from you Hedwig, as it brought tears of joy to my eyes! Such a compassionate response, when I didn't even include in my quandry that I'm an only child. You artfully gave me advice that I have been pushing towards the back of my mind.

I love what you are doing with all of your love and wisdom! All of you rock! Love Monica

Thank you very much, Beach Bum. Deep down inside I knew this was the right decision for me. Being torn and unable to make a conclusive decision alone though, I needed advice and did not know where to turn. What a godsend to have stumbled upon The Elder Wisdom Circle! Thanks again, Barbara

Thanks so much to Dayle; it helped just to have a little support and to read that others think I'm doing the right thing. :) This is a fantastic service! Being able to reach out to a stranger and get a calm, considerate reply means so much. Thanks again:) Kathy

Thank you so much for your kind response. It brought tears to my eyes to receive kind personal advice from people with wisdom to share. I don't have enough people to turn to in life right now and helps to know that there are people who care, even if they don't know me. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Bill

This reply was wonderful and gave me so much insight that it literally made me cry. Thank you Michelle for taking the time to answer my email. Your thoughts inspired me....you are a joy. Kendra

Auntie-M, thanks so much for your wise response. i had tears in my eyes as i read it. my mom died about 13 years ago, and i obviously can't get her advice, but yours was so wonderful. thanks. and thanks for telling me that i should not feel guilty, because sometimes, despite the situation, i do.

This website is a gift from God. Thank you. You guys are angels. xxx000

I am so thankful to the woman that helped me, her name was Rose and she was friendly honest and amazing. She is a life saver and thanks to her advice i finally know who i really am. i cant thank you enough..

This is wonerful advice and I will be looking into all of the information you have provided. I lost my husband in a car accident in 2001 and have been in nothing but bad relationships since. I may be coming back to you for advice in the future. Thanks so much. Helen

The response to my question was spot on. This web site should be more widely known I would recommend it to anyone.

Arianne, Thank you so much for your support. Your words help immensely! I will do my best not to blame myself for his issues and I will try hard to take care of myself first and foremost. I can't tell you how valuable the Elder Wisdom Circle has been for me. I want to thank you for listening and sharing. Warm Regards, Sue

Thank you!! Your words (response) were encourgaging and if need be, I will use this service again. Please inform Elder Shreya that I want to adopt her as my grandma. I knew in my heart it was the right thing do to, but hearing it makes the decision easier to live with. Again, Thank you Very Much! Lord Bless Shreya. Roxanne

Dear Friend, Your suggestions make very good sense and I shall begin the gratitude list tonight! Your are so very kind. Thank you. I love the website and am so thankful for you great people. God bless and take good care of yourself. joy

Am very happy with your site... I like the way people counsel. They never make you feel there's something wrong with you, unlike some paid professionals. They helped me sort out a few problems of my own. I have used this site several times. I found all the counselors who answered nice, warm and sensible. I like to think in this vast universe, there are people (apart from family and friends) who care about you. This site reassures me there's a lot of good out there. Cheers!

I love what you're doing! Brilliant and long overdue! This type of set-up should be world-wide; goodness knows we all could use the advice and guidance of our elders!

Your advice is right on the money and much more interesting to me than most advice columnists. I think it's wonderful to share your experiences and wisdom with others. You're not just withering away in your wheelchairs. You have decided to make a difference in people's lives. Good for you!

I have no extended family - no grandparents or parents to go to for advice - I was very impressed - am sending this to my daughter. thank you so much for caring.

Wow ! You all are GREAT .. Our country and youth really needs your wisdom .

Oh my gosh, that response actually made me cry. I guess I knew it all along that I was doing the right thing I just thought since it ended so horribly I must've done something wrong. Thank you for your insights. Thanks so much for your wonderful advice!

Dear PicklesMarie, Thank you, thank you, thank you for listening and understanding my situation, without judging me for how I've ended up here. Your letter was an absolute gem and I will keep it forever so I can keep coming back to it - these are lessons that will last me a lifetime. So much wisdom packed into one email! Thank you again for taking the time to share your life knowledge with me. I wish only the best for you and your loved ones. Peace, Mary

You are so good at what you do, and you made my day with this. All I can say is thank you!!

Rechama I wanted to express a deep gratitude for the response I was given. I so appreciate the frame of love it was written in and the use of words, very eloquent. Thank you for the thought and effort in the reply and I pray someday I will be wise enough to bestow such excellent support.

Dear Toni, Your advice was just what I needed, it felt like a friend was talking to me I can not get over how comforting and honest this website is. For you to take out your time and respond to my dilema was a god-send....and for free. That I feel is the most kindhearted humane thing a person can do. I REALLY appreciate your help I feel I am making the right decision to listen to whatever advice was given to me from your website. Again thank you so much Toni for your response it really makes me cry one less night and feel truly 'touched by angel'. Sincerely Rebekah

Thank you for being available for those of us who do not have a wise elder to consult when we need questions. I just know that you have given me the answer! I have asked our local extension office and looked on the internet. I tried everything else the experts recommended, but never hear this and it fits!!!!! Thank you Thank you!!

Once again, I have recieved incredibly wise and compassionate advice from elders through this website. I cannot tell you how greatful I am - to the individual elders, and to the group for being available in this way...Bless you all, forever!

I think this is a marvelous idea! I love the idea of being able to learn from someone more experienced. Americans are often disrespectful of our Senior Citizens. This is so productive on all levels... AND FREE!!!!!!!

I found great advice here from someone who is close & connected in soul though we never met. A quality not easy to find -Brought me back to live my life more fully , stay in the presence but be open for changes along the way. My heart is full of gratitude and love -May all beings be happy - D.

I have recently asked two questions lately, and I just want to thank everyone at EWC for running this service. It has been a big help. It is always nice to get an opinion on an issue by an outside source, especially when it is something that I would rather not involve or inform my friends or family members about the topic. Keep up the great work!

I received a very thoughtful response for advise regarding a sleeping co-worker. I thank you for the response. In reading through the responses to others I wanted to say what a great service to others you are providing. I think you are helping to make the world a better place. Thanks for your time.

Thank you so much for your advice and the manner in which it was given. I am going to follow your suggestion and seek professional help. I'm so delighted to have come upon elderwisdomcircle quite by accident. t's like having a friend i didnt know i had. again, thank you. petra

I just want to thank any of the Elders who have helped me in my most confusing times. It's hard to find good advice and i'm glad there's a place where I can ask my most secret and confusing questions and get real advice from someone with the expereince and wisdom. THANK YOU!

Dear Jacobus, I am very grateful for your knowledge about marriage. I am happy to see this from a mans side also. I don't talk to my husband about school much because It is stressful for him to think about it. I am so grateful for Elder Wisdom Circle, It's like reaching into the past to ask my grandparents what I should do. They have been gone since the 1970s and I miss thier wisdom as well as thier love. This website has a very healing effect on me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Your friend, Kathey

I want to thank all of you! You all do such a wonderful job! Your advice has helped me believe people that has told me some of the same things but I guess it took hearing it from someone else. Your all so generous to take time to help people like me that are lost and have no one to turn to. I thank-you all again~Heather

This website is amazing. I asked for some advice once and was very impressed with the response I got. It is so refreshing to hear unbiased advice from someone on the outside. Keep up the good work!

Not only did I get great advice.. but I recieved it quickly!! It is so nice to get advice from outside sources that have lived life -- having "been there and done that"! Thanks for your time, it is TRUELY appreciated!!

Thank you Pickles Marie, you are very wise and kind. I also that EWC, it is an amazing program and i will support it in every way i can!!! --Daniella

I want to say thank you to all the Elders at EWC! I just turned thirteen a few months ago, and found my life to seem to get harder. With plenty of friendship problems, and just stuff in everyday life, I found EWC the best place to turn to! I got advice within 3 days of sending in my question, and I used that advice! I never use any other advice! And, the advice worked! I know it will be a long time, but when I'm an elder, I know this is what I want to do! Work for EWC!

My sister and I want to extent our thanks to Marnie for her advice regarding our 'absentee' mother. With bare facts presented, Marnie was able to identify the core of hurt feelings we share and offer the appropriate advice we needed. We feel blessed to know that even though our mother isn't there for us (to ask advice, etc), that someone like Marnie is extending herself to those who need it. Thank you for 'mothering' us, in a time where we just needed it. Kimberly and Jennifer

Dear Rose, Thank you so much for responding to my letter. I'm actually crying right now because of your compassion and your wisdom, particularly as it related to A.A. Thank you for the words, "you deserve to be cherished" also, as you pointed out, I do feel that I'm rationalizing, minimizing, and excusing his behavior. Your advice came at exactly the right time. I think I'll look for an A.A. meeting online right now! Thank you, thank you a million times. Diane

Dear Apple Annie, I am so touched by your advice. I feel like there are guardian angels listening to my problems, and I feel more connected than I have! Thank you for your advice, it was very clear and I want to use that structure, of having a written agreement. Thank you! Amy

Dear Aunt Vic, Thank you so much for your insightful, timely, and poignant feedback regarding my situation.

Dear Ruthie, What a sweet & precious response you gave to me regarding my dilema........thank you so much for your thoughts; you gave me a lot to think about....you must be a super special person and I am glad you responded to my e-mail....thank you, again, so very much !! Sincerely, Candi

Wow! "picklesmarie" gave me such a great answer I can't thank her enough. What she wrote in her e-mail to me brought a whole new dimension to helping me to come to a solution to my problem. Tell her I said thank you so, so much. Claire

Wow! What a wonderful helpful site. Although I came to it by accident I can already see how helpful it is. Thanks so much for everyone's time and thoughts. I will surely be teling others and can't wait to have my daughter read a few articals you have on relationships. Thanks again for being so giving. Pam

I would like to thank Tell-Tom for his advice, It means so much to me to have someone provide advice on such a sensitive subject,and I am grateful. You can't imagine how much better I feel! I will definitely be using the service again.

Jackie thank you for your wisdom. I never thought I would have such a loving Husband and a Son. Resentment is like ivy roots that when planted takes over the whole garden. Thank you for your so needed advice Winona

Hello Tell-Tom, Wow, that reply you sent me, it really gives me hope. Im going to keep that email forever; and I hope to look back on it one day and say to myself Its true. Your response has made me more confident to be who I am. You say my true love is the someone who loves me for who I am, for being responsible with my disabled sisters and family.Your kids are lucky to have a dad like you and your grandkids are lucky to have a grandad like you.

Thank you for the empathetic response to my very long-winded request for help. Since writing it, I do feel better, appreciate having the opportunity for the perspective, and benefited from the thoughtful response. Jackie, you made me feel as though I was sitting with a friend at a table, getting sense knocked into me over a cup of coffee (or a glass of wine, depending!). I value your observations and know I have survived in a very blessed way. Thank you for providing very valuable insight to those seeking help.

I would like to thank Tom for his advice, it was very helpful. This is the first time I've used this service. I plan on not only using it again, but passing the word on to my friends as well. Jodi

What wonderful, COMFORTING advice, John. It meant a lot to me to have someone valididate how close we were. This advice is very insightful. Thanks again. I'm going to put his letter were I can read it whenever I need a boost. Sheryl

In response to Article #: 45843, I must admit it brought tears to my eyes. In a world of a seemingly futile existence being a gay man, to hear hear an elder give advice such as this moves me. In our community, the senior community is generally viewed as the backbone of the republican party but changes when we think of our "Oma's & Opa's". I applaud each one of you for the work you do and the advice you give which is non-partisan. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK, WE NEED YOU!!!

I love this reply from Rose. Please make sure you thank her for her positive spirit her loving support and her great suggestions .. I will do them and see how things transpire. I hope to connect again with her to let her know what happens. peace and love angelica

I wanted to send a thank you for the response I got on how to help a friend who has been abused by her parents. Both letters gave very helpful information and they also had a very sincere and meaningful quality to them. It is a shock to my senses to know that such a completely selfless organization exists. I feel a bit more at peace knowing that people like those at the EWC are out there. Thank you again for your prompt responses. Thank you Bailey, Rose, and everyone else helping with EWC. ~Kathryn

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and comfort. I can't tell you how much they meant to me. You and your organization are wonderful!

Thank you for such a prompt, succinct and helpful reply! I'll definitely share this site with others. The advice of those who've "been around the block" is a cherished, valued tool in today's world. Thanks so much for putting this site together--and for those of you willing to commit the time and talent to responding. Kuddos!

Thank you so much for your help. You have really clarified things for me. I must say that this program is such a wonderful thing, and whoever thought of it is brilliant. -Melissa P.S. Ashblue, because of your suggestion I am flying out to see my friend this week. I am so excited to see her after all these years, thank you so much!

I wanted to write and thank Walt-J for the good advice, it was helpful in more ways than one. Thank you again. Becky

Thank you very much. You advice was right on. He called the other day and things seem fine. We're back to talking all the time and the nightly "goodnight" phone calls and text messages. I'm still confused because no guy I know calls a girl daily "just because" and calls to say hes home. But I am just going with the flow and enjoying it. Thanks again -- ~Lizz

I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful elders here! A little over one year ago I wrote asking for advice on how to propose to my boyfriend. I took the advice received, got down on one knee and asked him to marry me during the fireworks New Years Eve 1 year and 2+ months ago. As of this April we will have been married for 1 year, and are so happy together. Women don't propose often, so I was very glad to have some advice on how to make it special for him. :) As a side note, we were both accepted into PhD programs at the U of Georgia, where I have added a Geronotology Certificate to my area of study. Keep kickin' butt! Ruthie

I think what you are doing is so wonderful. I can hardly put it into words. I'm also sitting here with tears in my eyes so forgive me if my typing gets all garbled. My grandparents died when I was very young. The only one I remember lived until I was 12, which wasn't long enough. I am 30 now and I still miss her and I wish so much that I could ask her about my problems. She was a sweet lady and I know we would only have grown closer over the years. I am so touched that your group is using its collective wisdom to give good advice to people who need it. It's about the kindest thing I've ever heard of. You have made my day. Thank you for doing what you do. Sincerely, Jessica

Elder Wisdom is providing a great service through the sharing of your learned successes. What a wonderful aid you are providing to those willing to listen and seek your advice. Bless you! Ron

Dear ElderWisdomCircle! I am so very thankful for helping me with this problem,I am aware it's not an issue anymore. It's just helpful sometimes to get a good answer and more,support from someone who has a lifetime experience and so willing to help!I think I was really lucky to find your site on the internet one day I was so desperate for help,it was 2 months ago,but you really did a great job and 100% helped me throught the hard times I had. Thank you so much,dear Elders! you are the first thing that comes to my mind now should I need any help! and yes,indeed,I have told some people about your great site,your welcoming answers and warm hearts!!! God bless you,thank you again!!!

I would just like to thank to elders that have given me advice over the last three months about my destructive relationship. I have left my boyfriend since seeking advice and have never been happier. Everything the elders predicted to happen did. Im glad i listened. Thank you so very much. all the best Tara and god bless.

Dear Elder Web, thank you so much for your excellent advice. I know in my heart that you are right on target, and I will follow your suggestions. Special thanks and appreciation to the Elder Wisdom Circle, for all the good they do in the world. I learned of the Circle on an NPR program, and have spread the word to my friends. The existence of this Circle is truly Good News, in a world that is starving for good news. Marcie

Dr Sam, Many thanks for the time you've taken to read and reply to my message. Your response was spot on. I've since found out that she has been involved in rather difficult family matters. So, thank you again. Your wisdom has certainly helped me to deal with my sore heart. Best Regards Chris

Hello, I just wanted to thank the Elder who responded to my note. Your advice was excellent and your insight razor sharp - thank you. You were so right in your observations - things that hadn't occurred to me. Thank you again - you were truly a big help and I feel a million times better. Best regards to you. Sincerely, Kay

Thank you, Rinchu. I have been having a problem on and off over a year. I was at a loss as to how to solve this problem and was quite upset about it. A bit of advice from Rinchu--problem solved! I printed the e-mail from Rinchu and used a pen to highlight the advice that I felt I really needed to concentrate on. When I felt confused about my situation, I simply referred to the e-mail. Rinchu explained to me the cold, hard facts, but in a very kind and gentle way. It seems the older I get, the smarter my elders get. Listen up you young whipper-snappers--these folks know what they are talking about! MJ

Grandma Dee's answer to the question about "purpose or people - which matters most?" was beautifully written and inspiring! I am going to print it, and put it on my refrigerator! Thanks for your wisdom, Lori

I cannot thank you enough for your wise and sage advice. You were absolutely right! I finally bit the bullet and spoke to my boyfriend. He was apologetic and a bit ashamed. He has IMMEDIATELY turned around. He is the guy I knew he could be, that I wanted. All it took was for me to stand up for myself, and I owe that to you! Thanks again and agian!!! Yours truly, Natasha

Thank you so much for your sincere reply. I will always appreciate it and will always be thankful. Thank you too for your Web site. I say "kudos" to your reply. It made me feel good. Cordially, Jeanie

Thank you very, very much for your prompt and comprehensive response. Greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much for the helpful advice! I did follow it and I know it was the one right thing to do. Sometimes, even in trivial situations as mine, people need an objective point of view and you were there to provide it for me. Thank you! Your help through this tough decision-making time was most valuable and appreciated! Sincerely, Kalista

Friend, WOW. Such excellent writing, too! Not only insightful points, but lucid writing. I think your points were too many, and I could not try to summarize. But what I learned is that I am not completely independent, and I should not try to be. I need people, I need my body, and I need my health. Enjoy my dreams, but share. That is what I learned. Thank you, my elder friend! Best, Ryan

Hello, First of all, I would like to thank the circle for taking the time to look through my letter and to reply to it. I am a student of engineering (2nd year ) and i thought that at this point in life , if I did not know which way to head, I was indeed a loser ( because engineering is not my first love). Indeed I do not know now as yet but I intend to wait it out. I would specially like to thank Grandma-Dan for her reply.....she has been very kind in her reply and she was so very correct in identifying the fact that I am scared of showing my emotions. I intend to follow her advice about making decisions.Indeed she has been most sympathetic and I am really glad I applied to the council . Thank you once again . Reetoditee (Kolkata,India)

THANK YOU!!!! You seem to know JUST what you're talking about! Thanks again....

Thank you so much for the valuable advice, feedback & tremendous insight. I think this elder has hit it right on the head, so to speak and I wanted to let you know. I might ask for more advice from this elder as I am going through a difficult time right now trying to stay true to myself while at the same time trying to have some level of patience within my relationship. Thank you again. Sincerely, Michelle

Thak you for your advice, I really appreciate it and I agree with you.. You guys really have a good thing going here, keep up the good work... Nick

This really is a good service. and its free also. i appreciate it!!!! its always nice to listen to what someone else older and wiser has to say. i am happy and i feel much better. it was very helpful. thanks a lot. Luke

Dear Rose, You are the sweetest elder I have come across...I really liked your advice. It was soothing and enlightening...Thank you.

I just wanted to thank you so much for your advice. I didn't even think of doing those things until you said it! I'm making an appointment with my guidance counselour to go over my information & schedule an appointment with my mother. I can't thank you enough! This really helped me. Alyssa

Orchids to you and to ALL the Elders. It was a great comfort to talk to someone who's had a few more spins around the block than I have. In exactly 20 more years, I'll be eligible to be an elder. Perhaps someday I'LL get to be one of you. What a great thing to aspire to. You are all heroes! God bless each and every one of you!!

Rose, I'm amazed by your brilliance. You know, all my grandparents are dead, and my parents just wouldn't understand. I have nobody to talk to about certain things, and in a way, you're sort of like my grandparent. So thank you for everything. Samantha

I just wanted to say thank you, it is truly amazing how you know the things you do. Thank you again for taking the time to answer my questions. Shirley

Lady Gallchno, Thank you I've taken your advice and I feel so much better. I moved in with a couple of my closest friends and I'm moving on quite well. Thank you for your time effort and for being there. I feel like i've been to hell and back, but i'm only back because of people like you. Thank you so much for your care. God bless. Mark

Dear Rose, Thank you so much for taking the time to read my letter and give me an answer that was short & sweet but not sugar coating it...I am indeed refining my role in my husbands family and have made decisions on who I even want a relationship with, it is not easy but for peace and quiet within my nuclear family it is worth it. Blessings to you and this site... Kimberly

Rose, Thank you for such a quick response! I was happy to see your advice, I had suspected some of the same issues, but couldn't seem to convince anyone else of what I thought was happening. Thank you for your advice, this is a fantastic service, I plan on consulting EWC in the future! Regards, Mia

I wish to thank you all very much. It just so happens that I pretty much came to the same decision. My husband and I are trying to work things out. However, your advice was wonderful. It just reaffirmed what I thought and I want to thank you for taking the time to help a poor soul as myself. Tee

Thank you so much! I think this web site is fantastic. I appreciate the advice and I think I am going to opt for protecting my skin rather than get a tan.

Thanks very much for the advice. Your advice was very good considering the short details that I gave. As I think about it I think the sex makes me feel good about myself and really helps me to compensate for other parts of my life that are not as fulfilling. Again I appreciate your advice and thanks for being there for me. Eric

Thank you very much for your precious advice you gave me. I will try my best to do what you suggested and revert back to you if I am not able to cope which I am sure wont be necessary. Thank you once again for the fantastic job you do. May be I will need your valuable advice again in future. Bye Khushi

TreeFrog, Thank you for your wisdom and the "right" reply. My husband read your response as well. He smiled and made him feel that he is doing the right thing. I'm sure I will call again on your wisdom and experience. God Bless you! Marla

Thank you, Thank you Rinchu. I am so glad that your response was quick, as soon as I read the first few lines I had to stop and cry because I have felt so very bad about feeling like I want to go on and live a full happy life with out Michael. I only fear that he will not make it easy. He is still here and we all three live in our own rooms. I'm looking for the right time to ask him to please move out. He did not give me any money to pay the house bills, so i paid them all. My next step is to ask my family for support and to help me move him out. Blessings to Rinchu and i truly thank you for your advice. The web site was God sent. I really felt Rinchu talking to me, Thank you! you have a friend for life! I"m going to be just fine!

Hi Jacobus, I wanted to let you know, I FINALY GOT LEGAL CUSTODY OF MY SON. I wrote you a while back, he was threatening suicide, and you said I should get him away from his alcoholic father. We got a lawyer and now my 15 yr old son is with us doing so much better, he is doing good in school! He is so happy! I just wanted to let you know, so you could have an end to this mess! thank you so much, I reccommend your group all the time. Thanks again, Connie

Dawn, Thank you, thank you, thank you for your wonderful advice!!! It was as if you knew exactly what I was feeling and your kind words helped me to refocus and remember what was really important! You're ight...life changes and circles of friends do as well and yes, she does still include me in things. I almost made a huge mistake but, thanks to you....well, let's just say that I will heed your advice!

Thank you so much! I feel so much better. I truly appreciate your advice, and I have definitely learned from this! Thank you for taking the time. Your service is invaluable! Lani

Rose, Thank you for your time. Thank you also for the advice. Your experiences inspired me to stay on the path that I chose for myself. Thank you for making a difference during a time when a decision seems impossible. It's funny how a stranger can help somone on such a deep level. PS. I love the name Rose. Joanne

Thanks for the adice , I shalll not try to remember or even bring to my mind wat had happened in his past... I guess you are right that I do not have any right to interfere in his past.. Wat ever happened was his past... n I will not let his past rule my present and spoil my life... Thanks for the advice...I shall always rememeber this advice... Thanks for guiding me once again. :) Regards, -Sonam

This is one of the most awesome ideas I've run across. I've worked in alot of Social Service settings and understand the wisdom available from our elderly; but to see it focused like this; great!

Dear Elder, Thank you for your advice. I will give it a whirl. I do appreciate the time you have taken to reply to my message. I have been at my wits end. Thank you again! Melinda

Thank you so much..you are right...I will move on and hopefully find a guy that is attainable and try not to set myself up for sorrow. You really helped me get things in perspective. Thanks

Thanks very much for your advice, it is just the encouragement I needed and I appreciate all the great tips. I will be trying all of them if I have to. Thanks again. Joe

Dear Heart of Texas, Thank you so much for your advice. I think you are right about me being scared after seeing failing relationships from family members and stuff. I agree with everything you said..and it feels really good to hear it from someone else. You are wonderful..thank you so much. This advice will carry on with me for the next relationship with a guy that i encounter. Thanks again! Kristina

Dear Annalore, Thankyou so much for your kind and thoughtful response to my request for advice. I think the advice you gave me is perfect and I willpray and really try to follow whatever the answer is. It is very hard for me not to care what people think of me but I will try to carry on by doing the best I can in whatever it is. I'll let u know how I make out in the coming weeks. Thankyou very much. Betty

Hello- This was an excelllent response and gave me great food for thought. I really appreciate it. Best- Jake

Hey, just want to say, EWC is amazing! -- I'm really glad this is up, and that so many awesome elders are off giving me advice. Lord knows I need lots! And don't get enough of them around here. Thank you all Christina

Dear Rose, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for considering my dilemma and giving me your advice. You made some very good points that I had not considered. I do believe I will go to dental school and I intend to reward my precious family in everyway possible for their sacrifices. I wish you and your family a happy and healthy new year. Best regards, Juli

Dear RINCHU!!! from the bottom of my heart I would like to thank you for listening and helping me with this situation!!!fells so good to open heart to someone who listens.you do a great job helping people by giving them real advice and just being there anytime we need help! God bless you for your kind heart! I will write about the situation to you as soon as I return home,you see I am going to visit my family in few days,but we still didn't tell the in-laws about the trip,coz I am afraid they will do somehting bad,fake something.we are going to send them sms on their mobile and after that phone them.the thing is they think that I just want to kidnap my own kid and run away,living my husband alone-the most pathetic thing I have ever heard!that is why we didnt tell them about the trip yet. anyway,Happy New Year to all who is always there for people like me:)

Dear Coog! I am in tears being so happy to get your reply so fast but more-that you really put your heart into my trouble and had really helped me with the desicion!!!Thank you so so much for being there for me when I really needen some help!I have chosed your site for I prefer to get help and advice from people that know more and I really don't know how to thank you for the help and good luck!!! Happy New Year to all and may this year bring you luck,helth,happiness and joy!!!

Thank you for your advice. I appreciate you understanding the difficult nature of this conflict. I took your advice and realized that I did not need this relationship anymore. At some moments I miss it, but for the most part, I celebrate myself and being strong enough to start the new year with only those people who are right and good for me. Thank you for your encouraging words and for providing the wisdom I needed when I needed it. Thank you!

Thank you so much this really did help and we talked yesterday and he siad he understood. thank u for helpin me and him. He now understands that he can't have what he wants all the time, especially sumthin this big from me. ~love always ~~Serena and Carl

I would just like to send my thanks to you. Having someone else, that has seen this kind of thing before, tell me that I am on the right path, truly helps ease the pain.

I cannot tell you how happy I was to get your reply. It was so generous of you to take the time and write, as well as give thought to a stranger's plight. Thank you and I will certainly consider it; it was very helpful and wise. Best regards. Juli

I just wanted to say to all these seniors thank you. My generation so often throws there grandparents away. You folks knew something my generation will never get to taste, self respect, goodness, honestness, faithfulness, real family, dicipline, knowing what helping your neighbor just because it was the humane thing to do feels like, just an all around bigger sense of respect in the full aspect of the word. Respect for everyone and most of all yourselves. It seems the trend today is the opposite destruction. I was raised by my grandparents and I would give anything for five more minutes! My name is Chrissy and I'm 25 and personally salute every one of you fine relics. The knowledge of life each one of you possess, the stories are worth more than all money and could never be substituted. So, thanks for giving out life's lessons for free!! And remember if you're all alone and you think no one is thinking of you. Someone is thinking of you and praying for you!!! God Bless

I would just like to once again thank Elder CHR and ElderWisdomCircle for their amazing service!

I just wanted to say thank you for your insight. It means so much to me to have such insightful advice, which I definitely will take into serious consideration. Again, I really appreciate you taking the time to help me with my difficult situation. -Christina

Thank you so much for your response to my problem. It is comforting to know there are people that we can ask for advise. I don't know what is going to happen, but I will take everything you both have offered into consideration and hope my husband sees the light. Thank you again. Loretta

Thank you so very much. Not only have you answered my questions but you have taken my breath away with your poetic response. I have felt that these were the signs but to hear someone actually put my thoughts into words really confirms that LOVE exists. Thanks again.

Jacobus and Elder Circle, Thank you SO much for your wonderful response. What an amazing group you have established. Jacobus, your advice, though simple, was powerful, and it was important for me to hear you say that there is not a malicious person in the bunch of us. That is something I need to remember about my friend and brother both. Michelle

Rose, Wow! The reply to my question was better than I had imagined! You said exactly what I know in my heart to be true, that I need to end this relationship I'm in, but I really needed to hear someone else tell me I was right. You provided just that reassurance- and went beyond! I was a little uncertain about using this service but it was incredible. Thank you so much! -Shannon

I just want to say thank you Michelle. Your advice hit on things I was failing to recognize. It is my own insecurity driving me and I have spoken with him on some of these things since I sent in my request. I am more aware now of the things that are my issues and not his. And I will take your advice about my visit. I had not thought beyond just seeing him again. Thanks again. I hope you are well. Sincerely, Rachael

Dear Jacobus, Thank you so much for your reply and your advice. I understand and realise that my thoughts about expressing how I felt to this man were infact born from a deeper desire to hurt him and theres no way that could ever bring anyone peace!. I understand that now. Thank you also for reminding me about the Serenity Prayer - my Mother kept a copy of it beside her bed so it's a great comfort to be reminded of it. Best Regards Gem

Kudos. Unfortunately, I was unable to wait for this very sane and intelligent request. I told my husband of my upsetment this morning and a very hostile fight ensued. When I received this reply last night, I read it to him and acknowledged we both were in the wrong. Me for being "cruel and rude", him for being a "blockhead". I hope I won't have to come back to your sight, which is unrealistic, but I certainly would. Thank you, when I didn't know where else to turn. Debbie

Thank you so much Pearls of Wisdom! I can't tell you how much it means to know that someone else thinks my instincts are right. It's a hard fight to fight. I appreciate your time & insight more than you'll know. Peace, Michelle

HA! What an excellent idea. I never would have thought of that in a million years... I'll give it a try and see what happens, Thank you :) Courtney

Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate your nonjudgmental reply. I just knew I couldn't ask any of my family and friends, they would only side with me, and that's not what I wanted, I wanted the truth as to wheather I was being selfish or if I had a legit. complaint. I appreciate your time.

My goodness, this answers the main questions I needed. I sooooooooo appreciate your kindness and your honesty in your response back to me. Even as I was sending the original message...I was ready to let her know the truth. My appreciation again. Much thanks

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I think I am going to give it a try. I am unhappy with my situation and I want to do somthing to change it. I'm just filled with so much doubt, it really helps to read your words. Thank you.

Hi to the Elder Wisdom Circle and to L. David-- I really want to thank you for your quick reply, but even more than that, for just being out there. What an outstanding resource you are! This is the second time I've consulted with someone at your site and both times were equally excellent. This particular response was so kind and so straightforward. I am grateful. Please keep up the terrific work. Your site and your service are very much needed and appreciated! All the best, Melly

Hi Helen, Thank you so much for your reply! Its funny, its like you read my mind. You are right,I definitely have to see where this will go. EWC is such a great idea! Thanks so much for your great advice, Temple

Thank you, despite getting it between the eyes, it was what I needed. I did realise I was 'cheating' but perhaps rationalised it as an amusement. The advice was fair, balanced and helpful. Thanks John

Thank you for your insight and for an amazing reply- you were great! M

Dear EWC, Just wanted to let you know that I became engaged last night!!! He had planned on proposing the past 2 months!! I also had my interview for school (PhD in Clinical Psych) and it went well. Thanks so much for your advice--you brought up valid points, but now we know that indecision was not an issue! Sincerely, Amy

Just a quick note of heartfelt thanks to Rose for her kind, intelligent, empathetic, and very reassuring advice!!! ~Alece

I would like to personally thank both elder Rose and Jacobus for their incredibly insightful responses to my dilemma. Not even have ever met these people, I feel like they have known me and those invloved in my situation for many years. They gave me pure, serious and piercing insight and truly helped me realize the best path to take. I truly thank and bless them both for their advice and heart-felt wisdom. Chances are they saved three relationships. Truly wonderful they are. Nick

In 2003 I wrote an email about my White boyfriend and his racist stepfather. I'm half black and half latina, and my boyfriend never had the guts to let his stepfather know. WO Owl said that Johnny (my boyfriend) had to learn to be a man and let his stepdad know about me. Well, it took almost 2 years but finally it happened. This Thanksgiving I went to his mom and stepdad's house. I was introduced to Steve (stepdad) and he was very gracious with me. He never made me feel any different and was actually nice. When we left, I gave him my hand and said "It was good meeting you" and he surprised me by giving me a big bear hug. I wanted to share that with you all and especially to WO Owl who took the time to respond to my mail. God Bless...Wendy

I thank you, and now I know where to turn for other issues that might come up. You are a great organization and if I had any money, I would donate as much as I could. Keep up the great work. You really put my mind at ease just knowing there is someone to talk to.

Dear Treefrog, I'm so greatful with your advice (so fast too!), that's exactly what I'm going to do, and what I needed to hear. I wish you blessings and hapiness. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Sharon

I would like to thank Rose for her kind and thoughtful advice. I needed to hear from someone with a fresh perspective and I received it from her. Thank you soo much! You are a beautiful person!

Hello EWC, I just wanted to say thank you to the Elders who answered my question. Both Annalore and Arianne responded and were both extremely helpful. It is always nice to get the perspective of someone who doesn't know anything about you, especially someone who is older and wiser with obviously more life experience. I think that the Elders Wisdom Circle is a great program and I really appreciate that it was available to me in my time of need. Thanks again. Sincerely, Christina

Thank you so much!!! That is better than any advice I could have imagined. You folks are REALLY, really good. I've started to tell my friends about your website, because I think it's amazing. To draw on a wealth of experience is priceless. A real gift. I was a little afraid I'd get some advice from you along the lines of telling me I'm just bitter and envious and "there's more to life than money." So, I'm glad you you didn't "rake me over the coals" and really, obviously, gave this problem serious thought. I try not to be envious. But, again, your comments are really "on target" and clearly full of wisdom. I will truly benefit from your help. And I'll continue to recommend your service to my friends. Thank you!

Dear Heritage, Thank you!! I love this service that you provide. Your e-mail has inspired me to get up and fight a lot more than I have been. It is worth a good fight. Thank you again. I appreciate you taking your time to discuss my situation and provide me with some great and sincere advice. Annette

I want to thank-you for this site. The answers to my questions have been addressed quickly and thoroughly. This was not the first time I've visited EWC and I'm sure it won't be the last. Thank you chr, for not sugar-coating my complaint. Mary

Your response was more efficient than I could have imagined! It's only been a few hours and you have already returned my question with an email. I felt like I knew the answer to my question, but hearing it from someone else reaffirms my belief so I can act without wondering if it was all in my head. I don't know if you understand how valuable your advice really is. Thank you!

Thank you so much Jacobus and chr. I am truly touched that you all actually take the time to impart your wisdom. I few words make the most the most unbearable situations seem tolerable. I wish you all all the best and will consider your words whenever I feel challenged in my situation. God bless you and thanks again.

This was EXTREMELY helpful and i can't tell you all how much I love this website. It is so helpful and everyone is so kind. this advice is perfect, i wish everyone knew about this site!!!

Ruth-Thank you so much, your words were very comforting. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else, that staying away from my mother is best. When they get me down I just thank heaven for my husband and children and that always lifts my spirits. Thanks again for helping me understand and accept my family problems.

Thank you so much Annalore, I'm 20 years old. And with your advice I think I will get through it.

This advice was really good, I needed this,it was straight to the point, not mean, but not sugar-coated either. I knew it all along, but just needed to hear from someone mature. Thank you so much.

Thank you very much for the reply. I found your response to exhibit wisdom and honesty. I appreciate the elder who took the time to answer. I appreciate the extra distance the elder went into explaining the examples of answers. Thanks a Bunch. Rob

Thank you sooo much for the quick reply. I am relieved and hopefully will get a good nights rest because you've put my mind at ease. :-) I will share your web site with my friends; I am glad I stumbled upon it. Sincerely, Lynn

Very insightful, thank you so much. I like the approach of building character rather than focusing on just academic achievement & all that ("pursuing brilliance"). I like your description of being a tiger, but only when asked for! And thanks for the reminder that we don't own our children, and for your experience. I'll share it with my husband -- Ann

Bravo! I'm very impressed and put at ease by your reply. Thank You, Alex

To the Elder, Thank you, I appreciate your time and the "pat on the back". Marjory

To Michelle Thank you very much for your advice, it reallly helped for me just to be able to clear my head by emailing you that stuff. Your reply makes so much sense and i will definatly remember what you have said as I feel it will really help me. Thank you again. Joey

Hi Nemo: Thank you so much for your speedy reply and practical advice. It was so good to hear from you and I will benefit from your wisdom. Thanks!!! -Michael San Francisco, CA

Man, the elders are a lot better than I thought. Your advice has truly helped me. I appreciate it very much. You just made my life so much happier. Dan

Thank you so much for replying to my questions. I really appreciate the advice and wisdom you have shared with me. Tommorow I am going to my first Toastmasters meeting! I think it is going to be a lot of fun to meet some new people here and improve my speaking skills. Thanks again, Mike

Dear Elder Wisdom, I am glad that you are generous enough to share your knowledge with others. Your advice was very helpful and I appreciate it greatly. You helped me solve a bad situation from becoming worse. In a culture that seems only to value youth its good to know that one can turn to age and experience for guidance. Respectfully, Richard

Thank You very much for your help!! This is a great service that I am glad I know about now. I will be sure to let my friends know about it. Thank You again! Laura

I love your advice, it really helps. I am glad I came to you when I was down. Many bad things happen to me but I really am never sad now because of my new friends and you guys. I rhank you very much. Thanks, Heather

Jacobus, Thanks for your wonderful reply. Life can be confusing when it comes to certain things. It is always good to know whether we are doing the right thing in the path of life. I shared your reply with everyone in my family. We all THANK you for your time and your words. Aneetha

That is the nicest thing I could have heard ever. Thanks so much you don't know how much it means to me to be reminded to keep trying. I don't know if you believe in God but I do and really this is so close to seeing a miracle. I wasn't sure if I was just being immature and wasting somebodys time, I could never express just how much your kind words touched me especially around the holidays. May God bless you for being so thoughtful, I am not a deep thinker or a philosopher but your act of kindness really will go a long way. Thanks

Thank you so very much for this and yes you have it totally right, I am not thinking clearly at at the moment and your right, I should give someone new a chance, it's a big wide world out there Thank you again Amanda

Dear Lady Gallchno, Thank you for addressing my concerns about attaching to my new daughter. I appreciate your gentle prompts not to compare my two daughters and to give our relationship the time it warrants to develop. I keep reminding myself that she and I have only known each other for 4 months and we have a lifetime to build a lasting relationship, thereby it's okay to build a solid foundation slowly. I appreciate your thoughts and willingness to share them with a total stranger in need of comfort. Many good wishes, Amy

Dear Bailey, Thank You so much for you reply. It was really nice having someone to reafirm what I was feeling, and just say that it was o.k. I really do appreciate your advice. Thank You so Much, Baye

You are very wise and I appriciate your answer! I really do feel better! Thank you! Ginny

Hi Elder I was wondering if I was losing myself but after your comments, I realise I am on the right track. I have decided to have a small break to see if she changes in anyway, I have my doubts. In reality, I do not think she has much true feelings towards me and intend to move on with my life. Thanks for your advice, it was greatly appreciated. Jeff

Thank you for your speedy reply. I really appreciate this. I have told my friends about the service you offer,(without telling them why I used it). I feel like I have a little family out there to turn too.. I forgot to mention in my original email I live in the UK (England), so you're helping me across the water :@) so to speak!! I will keep you updated on my current situation Thank you so much Jennifer

I am very pleased with the elderwisdomcircle community and their concern for others. I often daydream of visiting assisted living facilities or nursing homes just to talk to the older generations and receive the wonderful gifts of knowledge and experience they have to offer... but it just always seems to get pushed to the bottom of my priority list. I LOVE YOU!

Thank you so much for your advice. I feel better knowing that someone else knows about my problems besides me. I greatly appreciate your wisdom and I will be keeping in touch to seek more advice on issues that I may have through out my life. Sicerely, Valerie

Thank you. Your advice is really good I would like more to hear from you when I need advice. Again thank you Sincerely , Ana

I just want to thank Ruth for her straightforward advice. I recognize the truth when I hear it. It may be hard to hear...but it's real.

Thank you for you time Dawn, i appreciate your advice and I will keep trying. I feel very alone at times as feel that i'm burdening my friends with my problems and Iworry that i'll be judged for my actions. It is nice to have some neutral and grounding feedback, Thank you kindly. Yours sincerely Melanie

Thank you for the help. I greatly appreciate the fact that my elders are willing to pass on several more years of experience than I could have possibly have gained in my limited 21 years. I hope when I am of that age that I can make such a positive impact on the younger community as this site allows.

Thanks for the advice! I was able to re-evaluate my own fears and hesitation, spoke with both my supervisor and the director and after all that, I took the job and I start Monday! Your website/advice is fantastic -- thank you so much.

I want to thank Ruth for her words of wisdom. My mother passed away ten years ago and I miss her terribly and miss the advantage of having her wise advice. I had also mentioned the problem to a personal friend who is a psychiatrist and the advice I was given was not the sort of thing that would work well to keep peace and happiness within a family. I have learned from this exercise that someone like Ruth who has lived out a myriad of experiences in raising children and developing a family can give ideas and thoughts on how to handle a problem in a way that will work and keep the peace. Thank you Ruth. Jane

Michelle: Thanks for your very thoughtful and intelligent, understanding advice. IT was very reassuring and helpful. As a parent, you find yourself questioning everything you do when situations like this arise. You gave us confidence in what we were doing and what we thought.

Thank you for putting this in perspective, and thank you even more for not sugar coating your advice. I am going to give the relationship a few more weeks, while being myself, and if nothing changes, I will leave him.

Thank-you Dawn, I found your reply helpful, as it did not make it seem like I was to blamed for everything. I will take your advice and look for some help, I believe that we have slightly drifted apart, and I will keep you posted to what the outcome is. Again, thank you Sue

This truely is a wonderful web site. It has helped me by not only the response that I recieved but also by reading the responses of the advice that others have asked for. It is so nice to have extra grandparents on hand to share the wisdom and make this world an easier place to live in. I Thank you and commend you all!

Thanks so much for responding to my e-mail. your advise is well recieved, and make sense. I will be strong and keep my self open... once again thanks so much.

Dear Frank, I think I just needed someone to tell me what I already knew. You're right, it's going to be so hard, but I don't think I'm afraid anymore. Thank you so much for your compassion and understanding; what you do is really special.

I just wanted to thank you so much on helping me with this problem, the information you suggested was so useful. The other day, I shared this with a co-worker- that I wanted to meet someone nice, and she told me that there is a man who she wanted me to meet! I have also signed up as a volunteer in an environmental effort. Thank you. Sincerely, Haleema

Dear Ruth, you brought up a very valid point. I thank you for your wise insight. Your response was very helpful. Please keep up the good job. Thank you

Dear Elders: Thank you for the sound advice. At my age, great opportunities seem far and few between; I feel as if this may be my last big chance at happiness, but of course, that's silly. Yes, my heart is broken but all wounds heal in time. Thanks again, Aimee

Dear Michelle, Thank you for your heart-warming letter. I feel much better now. I am going to start counseling tomorrow and I have tried to open up more with my parents. It was nice the way you made me see things in perspective. Thank you very much. Love, Rowena

Thanks for the advice. It confirmed what I was thinking. I am glad I found your advice site and will tell my friends about it. Thank you very much, John

Dear Elders, I thank you all for your wonderful response. Even though I am not from your culture,you took a lot of effort to answer my query.Thank you so much.It really has made a lot of difference to me. I will do exactly as you say and try to work out. Thank you all. Regards, Mohit

Thank you so much for your advice. I will talk to my parents about this. I want to enjoy high school to the fullest even though I have responsibilities. I can't thank you enough for pointing a way out. I'll try to convice my mom and dad. Thank you once again.

Thank you so much for you timely advice! It has been an ardurous 10 years but the future looks brighter than I could have ever imagined. Your forhtrightness and direct response lent me courage in a time of trial and for that I am eternally grateful. Sincerely, Lara

Dear Sir, ... your reply made me cry....you are the only one I think that understands without telling you a whole lot more .....thank you....I am not sure that I can do what you said but the sincere feelings and concern is very well felt. thanks!

Thank you so much for your advice. I really needed someone to confirm my feelings before i made my decision. i appreciate your taking your time to help, and it was a huge help. many thanks, nikki

Thank you for your advice, it made me so emotional because it is so true... I am truly going to apply the advice you gave me to my situation and hope my boyfriend is willing to try as well, but thank you so much for the support. Thank you!

Thanks soo much for all your help, everyone keeps telling me i did the right thing but always in the back of my head i 2nd guess myself im really sure why?!? i'm going to talk to a counsler about everything! you guys are great and its great what yall are doing!! thanks Carolyn!

Thanks for the excellent advice. It makes perfect sense. I have already started to put it into practice

Thank you very much for your advice. I appreciate your time and I will certainly think very carefully about what you have said. Thanks again, it is really great that there is a place that has so many wonderful, experienced people to help others. I already feel better just having my concerns validated and knowing that they are accepted by someone. Thanks again! :) :) Jodi

I must say that I am delighted to have found your website. It is an absolutely brilliant concept! The response I received was logical and straightforward. I was looking for an unlikely miraculous panacea to solve my dillemma. What I got was a charming compassionate tossle on the top of my head and an answer like the squeeze of a hand to let me know I might be have the skill level to work this out. Grateful, Judy

Thank You so much for your advice! Believe me when I say, your answer has helped me lean towards keeping my job. Again, thank you....and what you guys do there is significant. I know it's merely a question but It's always nice to get outside opinions. Especially that of an elder. I respect and commend you. Thanks. Rose

You all are a real blessing. I am mailing a contribution to the work you do, because it is very important. I really needed to hear from you and I am glad that you were straightforward with me. Much Love!

I just want to thank all of the Elders who have so generously contributed your time and wisdom to help the rest of us. There is nothing that can take the place of wisdom learned through your experiences and the experience of thousands of people whose lives you have touched over the years. Just reading past advice, knowing how strong you all are, and thinking about all of the trying times and happy times you must have had in your lives gives me courage and hope that one day for my situation, and that maybe I too will have experienced as much in my life, and have a small pearl of wisdom to offer someone in this world on day. Thank you so much.

Thank you so much! Great advice and I will do it. Seeing someone else say it makes you really look at the situation and realize you are not to blame. This really helped, sometimes you can't involve other family members so this is great. What a wonderful website. Fianlly a site that is not trying to sell something, but really helps. Thank you very much :-)

Thank you so much for your advice. I left my horrible job yesterday and was hired at a great job with a wonderful boss today, and she told me if I do well ( and I will) that I will be considered for an upcoming assistant manager position. I start tomorrow! Your advice gave me the courage to change my circumstances right away. Thank you so much! Julie

When my best friend told me about you and what advice you gave her it was amazing how well it worked. Today was a very rough day, so I came to you for help and I know you will help me too.

Thank you , James and ElderWisdomCircle After reading the reply from James, I got some warm encouragement. At least I know I am not that lonely. I do appreciate your help. To share what I am feeling is really important. Fanny

Thank you very much for the advice. I am grateful that people like yourself are available to share their knowledge and wisdom with people in difficult times. For me, I gave my work place 4 weeks notice and soon I am free to find an occupation I enjoy. Thanks again, James

Thank you so much for your advice. I really do appreciate the volunteers who take the time to help people in need. Thank You ! Pamela

Greetings, What a great service you are providing. I got the answer from Gabrielle. She was right on target. Thank you. Vern

Dear Calico- Thank you for your heartfelt and kind reply and the thoughtfullness you put into the response. I have already told him, and he is not happy, but I feel sure of my choice. Thank you for your support and consideration. I will keep you in my prayers. You told me just what I needed to hear. Warmest Regards, Mary

Thank you so much for your reply.. It was right along the same lines that I was thinking. I truly hope this relationship does not progress any further, but as with all things only time will tell.. Thanks again I think you offer a great service. Shawn

Thank you so much for your concerned, and very kind email. I will take your advice. It is so very hard living like this, with someone who really doesn't care about themselves, therefore can't care about the other person. I will get help. God bless Diane

Thanks for the reply to this conundrum. I enjoyed reading it and found it very reassuring and encouraging. just what I needed really.

Thank you so much for your advice, I appreciate your wisdom and that's exactly what my mother told me to do. Jenna

I am very satisfied, and appreciate the great advice I was given, it really made me feel a lot better and for that I am truly thankful.

I would just like to thank Chr for the advice given to me. I am taking each day at a time, obviously upset but there is nothing I can do if his friends are more important than me. Anyway i would just like to say that after reading your reply it made me feel a lot better think I even managed a few smiles that day! Thanks for your advice.

Oh my God! You elders are angels. Many times I would need advice and didn't have anyone to turn to, although I have my parents but I can't talk to them because they don't understand...The fact that you are here to listen and offer advice I feel like I’m not alone…….....You elders are my guardian angels...........keep up the good advice because you are truly making a difference! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.......

You were very detailed in what you recommended!! Thank you for doing your job in giving me some sound advice, I appreciate it. The world needs more people like you!! Everyone just wants their opinion to be heard, but you actually listened. Sincerely, Kat

From the depths of my heart, I thank you. This is sound advice and I'm putting it to work right away. Bless you! Diane

Thank you for the advice. Looks as things are gonna work out. I am moving soon and have support from friends and family as well as Mike. We are going to separate and take things from there.

Thank you for your advice. I agree with your recommendations and am going to try my best to be patient. What a great thing it is to have something like the ElderWisdomCircle! Wish me luck! Derek

Dear Horatio, Thank you for your sound advice. I hope you are having a great day! I know getting this answer has made my day a lot better.

I absolutely love that you have created this website. My grandparents died before I was born. It feels nice to have this service to pose questions to people who have the experience that I do not have yet. Thank you.

A kudos is indeed warranted here. Many thanks for the sound advice.

Thank you very much for your wonderful advice. We talked and then my boyfriend got rid of all of the porn as soon as he saw how much it hurt me. He has since shown me that he is the same man I fel in love with and that he will never hurt me again. We are now stronger than ever. Thanks again.

Thank you for taking time to reply. Your advice was right on the mark! My husband and I are helping our married daughter and her husband remodel their house. In time, I know we will forge a new bond as we are committed to our marriage. Sincerely, Deb

Your advice is right on and what I have done. Living with someone you cannot engage in conversation or any activity is contradictory to human existence.

Thank you so much...I kept going in circles with this...and the way you explained it makes perfect sense. I can't say how grateful I am for an honest and open response..

Dear Mr. Horatio Victor, I wanted to thank you for the time you put into your reply. Your response made me think a lot about where my relationship was going. Thank you for taking time out of your life to help me. Sincerely, Michelle

Dear Elder Wisdom Circle, You are the true gem of the internet. Thank you for providing such an important place for those who have issues in their lives that need guidance. It is of great comfort to know that you are there and feel the benefit for the advice you have given. All my best, ~Denise

Dear Rose: I have to say, I am so impressed with the thoroughness of your answer. I found it to be very helpful. Thank you.

Thank you alot for your help. It's really good advice, and this is comming from a teen who gets a lot of advice. Thanks alot.

Thank you Dawn for your advice. I knew your answer before you sent it but it helps to be able to get it off my chest too. I will follow your advice and hope for the best. Thanks again!

Thanks I like your reply and the service is a great idea for both sides. I appreciate it.--

Thank you for your help Rose you are very helpful I really appreciate how you really do weigh the options. I agree "Joe" needs councilling, and I do too I dont want to live at a womens shelter but i have broken contact with one. Thanks Again I love this site!!!!!!! Kudos! "Connie"

Hello Tina, I just wanted to say thank you for your great advice I am now motivated to lose wieght thank you very very much.

Dear Dawn, Thank you so much for your timely response. It is a blessing to have ones such as yourself providing such a wonderful service.

Hello Sir Thank you for such a worthy and friendly advice....it's so nice to at last be heard sincerely..and know your problems are being addressed by such knowledgeable people. Infact i couldn't help reading your reply again and again .....not knowing whether I have hit the jackpot will be known soon when I am able to implement these simple and effective solutions in my life.

I am so glad to have found this place! All my life, I have had a soft spot in my heart for seniors. You guys show by example what life is about, and many times, as much of a downer as this might sound, you show us how to face the end of life with dignity. God bless you all a thousand times over! I will be a frequent visitor, and will come looking for advice, you can be sure.

I just wanted to thank Lady Gallchnó for your awesome reply to my "just stress?" letter. I felt completely overwhelmed. Thank you for your insight! Your response felt incredibly caring and, well, gentle. The ideas were right on target, too.

Dear Elder, Thank you so much for your reply. I know that the correct response is to forgive and let live Thank you for your objective advice. Best Regards, Terrell

Thank you so much for replying. We are taking your advice and we are going to continue it for a while. Honestly, I was very hesitant on using your advice website, because I was thinking that you would never reply, but now I am going to go to you guys for all my advice needs. THANK YOU!!! Mike

Dawn, You know the only thing that i can think to say is thank you. Its wierd that someone that doesn't even know me can make me feel like someone really cares. I see things a bit different now and i just want to thank you. Yes I will definatly keep you posted on how things work out. Forever grateful Catt

Frangi, Thank you for your advice. I'll be more practical in the future in these matters. Obviously, I needed to learn this lesson so I'll accept it. Thanks for your thoughtful response! Sam

Thank You Jacobus. :O) I never saw it this way until now. I really appreciate your time & your prompt response.

Dear Gabrielle, Thank you for your wonderful response to "moving mom"....wow....your response was so awesome and so what I needed to hear. Thank you for your suggestions, my sister & I will give your suggestions a go.......thank you for being so "right-on"...... Gratefully, Candi

Thank you so much for your reply, Dixie. You lifted my spirits and reminded me of what's really important. And I admire you for being such a vital, productive, person. Please continue to share your wisdom. Bless you, Donna

Thank you very much for your reply, this really helps my peace of mind. I will certainly write again! Regards Catherine

Asbury Friends, Thank you so much for replying to my question! I Now know what step I should take in order to make ME happy. Your answer was very blunt and I appreciate that. It was pure honesty. Good job, you really made a difference.

Thank you all so much. I feel like so much weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I have a clear path ahead of me. I wasn't sure if i could get a clear answer from this site but this was the most clear and rational advice i have ever received. Thank you again

Thank you for responding! I was very comforted, by your approach. Thank you! I hope more people in trouble will become aware of your service.

Heart of Texas, I really appreciate your view, and you are right - I will put it behind me and forget it.

Dear Tina, Thank you so much, I appreciate that you understood my side of the story, I don't feel like such a creep anymore. Thanks again, Kate

I will take your advice and suggestions. You have relieved me of the burden of doubt and insecurity more than you know. I will certainly contact the 'Circle' next time I need a shoulder or a voice to listen and offer suggestions. sincerely Rhondda

I am going to use your advice and see what can be done. Thank You for your help I really appreciate it. Sincerely, Ralph

Thank you so very much. That is some fabulous advice. I'll try my best to follow it. Once again, thank you.

Thank you Rose, for your response. You understand what I'm going through and that means so much to me. I will take your advice to heart. I deeply appreciate you taking time to write to me. Teresa

Dear Elizabeth, Thank you so much for your advice. It means a lot to me that you took the time to read my request and give me some good feedback. I really like your ideas. Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart. Sincerely, Nicole

I think this is a great way to offer advice, it's brilliant!

Hi Jacobus, Thank you so much for your help. I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice about my family situation. I'm so glad I looked for advice from your website. You have been extremely helpful. Thank you, FP

Dear Elizabeth, I wanted to thank you for your advice. It has taken me a couple days to see it, but it has become clear to me that you were absolutely right in your assessment. I absolutely must move on. Thank you for helping me through this time. -Ryan

Jacobus, I would like to thank you and the EWC for your help. I feel much better about my relatives and the decision to see them. I learned more about my "family" this weekend and next time hopefully won't be so tough. At least I hope it's not. Again, thanks for listening and your insight. Sincerely, Elisa :)

Thank you so much for your reply! This helped me a great deal and now feel I have a place to turn for advice. I am 42 and lost my dad when I was 3 and lost my mom when I was 38 and live in a different state as my sister and brothers. Thank you also for sharing a little bit about yourself. I will act on this now that I know I'm not being ridiculous and overly sensitive. Thank you - Thank you.

I really really appreciate that you shared a similar experience. Especially since this is a problem I never experienced before. It is very helpful at this time to have someone describe to me a similar situation from their own life. Thanks again. -Jamie.

Thank you for responding to my problems. I'll check with you next time i need help u helped me alot Thanks again!!! -Jessica

Thank you for your advise. I appreciate your kindness! Maggie

Hi Elizabeth, Thanks a lot ,that really opend my eyes on the problem that i am facing. U'r really great and thanks a million. U'r service should continue, for so many people who do suffer from problems like this. God bless u and u;'r team for this service that u provide. Take care and bye. Roshan.

Rinchu, I just wanted to say a very sincere thank you for your advice. I have been dealing with my mother-in-law's abuse since before we were married! You have offered me an intelligent solution to my dilemma! God Bless you!

Jacobus! Thank you for the clever way in which to handle such a rude question! I think it should really put things in perspective! Thank you once again!

Recently I requested advice and I was rewarded with a thoughtful reply. Thank you for taking the time to respond. Best regards, Bill

Dear Sir (treefrog), I have received your email and am extremely grateful to you for the advice you mention in it. I will write again in detail about myself and how I am progressing in life. Once again thank you for writing to me and giving me valuable advice. Yours sincerely Shahid

I just want to somehow thank treefrog for the response to my question. I wrote in that I was torn and the response I got was absolutely wonderful. This person shared their perspective and a personal story and I appreicate it very very much!!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!

THANK YOU for this wonderful service! What a great idea, whoever started this service. This is one of the best and most wonderful volunteer services out there, on the internet or otherwise. It is really, really appreciated!

Treefrog, Thank you for all the great gift ideas for celebrating a 40th Wedding Anniversary. Now the hard part is figuring out which one to chose!!!

Dear Aegis, Thank God for all of you. How wonderful is your care and your advice: Yes, those setbacks in life are just lemons. We'll pick them and we'll make lemonade until they are all gone. God bless you for your work. Sylvia

Ruth, I wrote about a 25 yr old nephew of mine that was causing me so trouble. I hope you remember. Thank you so very much for your response. I want to help everyone I can, but now I realize I just can't help some people.. Thanks and God Richly Bless You!

Treefrog I just wanted to thank you for your advice, you really helped and I can't say thank you enough!!! God Bless.

Jacobus I never did thank you for your comments. Sometimes I feel so alone even with family and friends surrounding me. I miss my Mom,Dad and Nana so much. I might be maudlin now but this is a great website which I want to visit often. Thanks again, Jacobus for listening to me. Mary

Dear Dawn, Thank you so much for your answer (to the letter titled "lacking direction in life"). I think you're right -- I just have to stay more focused on what I could do if I were in a better situation and practise the art of "one thing at a time" until I can reach those goals. Again, thank you for taking the time to help me out -- I really do appreciate it. Marie

This is one of the most awesome sites I've ever found!!! Keep up the good work!

It took me a long time to find a web site like this. I was beginning to think that no one cared anymore. god bless you for this site and for caring. god bless the elders for helping by giving their wisdom. thank you zen for your response to my problem..I love you...

CHR I wanted to say thankyou for being there to talk to ...... It was a relief to be able to tell someone how I sad I feel about my relationship with my husband... I am trying to keep things together here, only till my son is grown OR until I can afford to leave financially. You were right on when you said this is emotional poverty...and that must be why I am sooo empty at times..... I really appreciated hearing from you so very much...

Jacobus I wanted to write to thank you for taking the time to answer my question. you have helped me and given me something to think about! Thank you!

To Elder Dawn: Thank you for the superb advice, and I will try to do the right thing. Actually, I WILL do the right thing. God Bless You.

You folks are AWESOME!!!! I have gotten prompt and great advise each time I have needed it. I really appreciate your help and have told many of my friends. Keep up the GREAT JOB!!!

CHR Thank you for responding so quickly to such a looong email. Your short answer gives me a lot to think over. I love your similes about life and the concise answers to my questions. You are truly a circle full of wisdom and I thank you for sharing it. With deep gratitude, A.N.

Wow! I'm officially impressed! When I submitted my question to The Elders, I was at a total loss. I cound't see any possible way to deal with my family situation. But when you all looked at my problem with your fresh perspective and seasoned insite and perception, you were able to come up with a realistic approach that I think will work! Thanks for help with the impossible! -Holly

Thank you so much Elder Wisdom Circle! This site succeeded and surpassed all my expectations, which were high to begin with! I just knew I'd find great, unbiased advice here from people with a lot more wisdom than I have, and I was right! GREAT job on a great organization. I will definitely pass on this wonderful gift that you offer.

Bless all the Elders, where would we be without their wisdom & guidance?

Dear EWC, I have requested advice several times and have been very pleased each time with the reply, where do you find such quality Elders? Keep up the good work, I am sure all the Elders are super but special thank you to TreeFrog, Arianne & Cindy for helping me. Shelly

Where do you find these Elders? They are so much better than Dear Abby or Ann Landers it hurts! Keep up the great work. Anna NYC

To Whom it May Concern, This is a wonderful site, a great idea and such a true public service. The internet is filled with so much garbage it's nice to see something good.

Dear Treefrog, I want to be you when I grow up! Your responses are intelligent and witty and wise and funny. Thanks for sharing your life experience. Laura