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OTHER: Anxious about school trip
Article #: 255676
Category: Other
Original Letter
I am going on a trip with some friends at the end of the school year. I am nervous because I do not know everyone going. I am also nervous because my ex-boyfriend is going and I have not spoken to him since we broke up. I really want to go, however I am worried that I will be uncomfortable. So I am debating whether or not I should go.
Elder Response
Everyone in our group of Elders said, "Go for it!" Don't let your insecurities get the better of you. It's perfectly natural to feel some anxiety about going on a trip with some people who are strangers, and you can bet some others are feeling the same way. But it is always best to push past anxieties such as these and take a risk. Nine times out of ten, things work out well. There is an old saying that wisely tells us, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." Why cut off the possibility of a fun trip where you might even make some new friends?
As for dealing with the ex, we advise you to contact him beforehand, tell him you're going on the trip, and say you wanted to make sure things wouldn't be awkward when you came face to face. That should break the ice and make seeing each other go more smoothly. Also, think about spending a little extra time and money before the trip on getting a manicure/pedicure, a cool bikini or pair of jeans, or a new hairdo. Looks aren't everything, but feeling good can be a great confidence booster.
We wish you a great trip! Please write back to us to let us know how it went.
Best Regards,
Helping-Hearts