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RELATIONSHIP: Confused and hurt
Article #: 262510
Category: Relationship
Original Letter
I am in a relationship with a man who is still married but has been separated for 5 years. He still has pictures (naked) of her and other girls. What should I do? I am very hurt and he does not care.
Elder Response
I'm sorry that you are confused and hurt but sometimes that's the price of finding out that he isn't the one for you.
I know you've put time and energy into the relationship. It's understandable that it's hard to let go of someone you've given your heart to. Painful as it is, it's time to listen to your head. Your heart wants to continue but I think you know it isn't a good idea.
After five years he is still married. He still has naked pictures of her and others. And worst of all he doesn't care how you feel. Cry now, mourn your loss, then be thankful that you got away in time.
In answer to your question, I think you should drop him and think about what you want in a mate. I'm pretty sure he isn't what you are looking for. So remember that you can let go. It will hurt for a while but in the long run you'll be better off. Move on and I'm sure you'll feel better about yourself. I wish you well, your future is what you make it. Be an active participant and don't settle for any old thing that comes along.
Best Regards,
Papa-Dude