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RELATIONSHIP: Boyfriend coming home!
My boyfriend (of 2 years) has been studying abroad for college in Spain for the past 4 months and he is coming home next Friday. The day he comes back I am meeting him at the airport and attending a small get-together with his family and closest friends. But I would like to do more for him. What are some ideas that my boyfriend would like to come home to? I don't want to go over the top and overwhelm him with items and/or activities. So, I was hoping to get advice from someone who has experienced coming home from being away for about 4 months, and what they received and/or hoped to receive in terms of the overall experience. Thank you for your time!Elder Response
From what you have already stated, it sounds as if your boyfriend was in a semester abroad program. Since he has probably been interacting with Americans throughout the semester, he probably didn't miss that much of home other than friends and family. He is probably more acclimated to the "ways" of the Spanish people. He may even like them so much that he will incorporate them into his own life. It is wise for you to be accepting and understanding of the changes. He will not be the same person who left four months ago.
I think in this type of situation, it is more of what you don't do than what you do. You are correct in that you don't want to overwhelm him but give him time to readjust to being home again. His family is going to want to spend time with him and want to know all about the experience. I suggest you stand by and listen and take your cues from your boyfriend. He will let you know what he wants by his words or actions. You should be able to read his non-verbal cues since you have been together for a while. Keep in mind that he will also want to know what you have been up to as well.
I would also suggest you not press him for one on one time right away. Let him get the rest he may want, and suggest he contact you. I remember coming home from some trips abroad and being extremely tired because of jet lag, the time change and excitement. My son also spent some time in Switzerland and he was pretty tired for the first few days after getting home. I remember one of the things he was happiest about was being able to go into our kitchen for something to eat!
That is the best advice I can give you. You sound like such a thoughtful girl. I'm sure your boyfriend is going to be happy to see you and spend time with you.
I hope my advice is helpful and that you will contact Elder Wisdom Circle again if you need us. We are always here.
Sincerely,
Terry-Anne