My boyfriend knows that my ex cheated on me, but he doesn’t understand my insecurity. Work on your communication, says our elder – and focus on the present, not the…
Is my school too expensive?
This student feels guilty for studying at an expensive college when her parents would like her to transfer. Think carefully, says our elder. You’re working hard, and a better college…
Overwhelmed by expectations
How to balance your responsibilities and stay optimistic when everyone expects the impossible? Set your own goals, says our elder. Be the best ‘you’ that you can be. Q….
I care for my parents…
And now it’s too late to have my own life. Our elder has some ideas of how a letter writer can stop resenting her elderly parents and start building the…
Drowning in a whirlpool
A husband fights with his wife about once a year; he’s miserable but doesn’t believe in divorce. There is a way out, says our elder. You could try a legal…
How do I end my sadness?
A letter writer is experiencing random, unprovoked sadness. It’s a normal, human emotion, says our elder. Here are some things you can do to help – and please speak to…
Should I go back to Hawaii?
I love Hawaii but there’s just one catch – my drug-addicted ex. You were brave to leave and there’s not going back, says our elder. Now it’s time to focus…
School stress: can’t sleep
I spend 12 hours a day on schoolwork and the stress is unbearable. Help! Our elder, a former educator, has some tips for a student who’s feeling anxious about school….
Losing focus at school
A student is finding online math classes a struggle. I suspect you’re being too hard on yourself, says our elder. Open up to your teacher and start asking for the…
Should I just stay out of it?
I want to help a friend who’s having a hard time, but my mom says she’s just another one of my ‘stray dogs’. Who’s right? I’m with your mom on…