And now it’s too late to have my own life. Our elder has some ideas of how a letter writer can stop resenting her elderly parents and start building the…
Drowning in a whirlpool
A husband fights with his wife about once a year; he’s miserable but doesn’t believe in divorce. There is a way out, says our elder. You could try a legal…
How do I end my sadness?
A letter writer is experiencing random, unprovoked sadness. It’s a normal, human emotion, says our elder. Here are some things you can do to help – and please speak to…
Should I go back to Hawaii?
I love Hawaii but there’s just one catch – my drug-addicted ex. You were brave to leave and there’s not going back, says our elder. Now it’s time to focus…
School stress: can’t sleep
I spend 12 hours a day on schoolwork and the stress is unbearable. Help! Our elder, a former educator, has some tips for a student who’s feeling anxious about school….
Losing focus at school
A student is finding online math classes a struggle. I suspect you’re being too hard on yourself, says our elder. Open up to your teacher and start asking for the…
Should I just stay out of it?
I want to help a friend who’s having a hard time, but my mom says she’s just another one of my ‘stray dogs’. Who’s right? I’m with your mom on…
Will I ever really grow up?
Still struggling with childhood trauma, a letter writer feels like they are just existing. You are not alone, says our elder. Seek out a therapist as a first step and…
When BF’s bestie is a leech
She thinks her boyfriend is being used. He’s OK with it. While money may or may not be the root of all evil, our elder agrees it’s driving a wedge…
Dreaming my life away
Everyone fantasizes—but what happens when those daydreams end in real-life disappointment? Although you may not be able to achieve perfection every time, our elder shares his tips for envisioning the…