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Ms.Mary, Thank you so much for the great advice. I actually had saved the text message from our conversation of 2020 regarding the painting and used that link. I kept it simple as you advised and just asked if she was still interested and told her that the deposit was not a consideration. I told her that I am just curious to know if she is still interested in completing the project. Thanks again.
Dear Danray, Thank you so much for taking the time to write a letter of kind words and advice and I really appreciate you telling your story! As I sat here and read your letter, I took a long while on how I was going to have a conversation with my husband. Finally when our kids were asleep, we sat down in the living room and talked like actually talked for the first time in a long time and we even cried together. He admitted to me that he had been feeling quite low about himself and just couldn't figure out why he was feeling that way and that he felt ashamed and that because I am the one who works, he didn't want to put any more pressure on me. We talked and hugged things out but we both knew that wasn't going to be the end of the conversation. We both decided to go to marriage counseling and individual counseling for our pasts and honestly I think we're starting to get healthier than we've ever been. He was diagnosed with Depression and has since been put on medication. We both value our family and our marriage, in the last few weeks he's been more attentive to me and He's doing activities with our kids again. I know no marriage is perfect, and we'll more than likely have some more ups and downs but we're both learning to sit and listen to each other and learning to maturely and calmly work things out. Some people advised me to throw in the towel but if you truly love somebody you try your best to work things out. Sorry if I ramble too much but thank you for your advice, I honestly don't know if we would've made it through this if you hadn't wrote back to me. Thank u so so so much! And God bless! Love, Sirena
Thank you so much, this has given me some hope, you don't know how much your attention to me has made me happy, thank you again :) ~Almas
Thank you for your advice! I guess I know what to try now. Appreciate you help
With tears in my eyes and peace in my soul, I say thank you is not enough for the response. I won’t even try and use mere words to try and express my gratitude for this beautiful, sensitive, honest and perfect advice. You are a god send and an angel among mere mortals and I am forever grateful for you time, your wisdom, your words and your sincerity. Do you think it is possible and healthy for us to remain friends and in each other’s lives after I find my hobbies?
Elder Lincoln-Parker, Thank you so very much for your answer. All my related elders are no longer with me to share their wisdom, kindness, and warmth. Your answer, quite frankly, was both succinct and beautiful and gave me pause just because of how much it all made sense. I am so glad you chose to answer my question. I feel the sincerity in your words and thank you immensely for the wisdom. I am grateful that you are part of this group and I am saving your response to contemplate further each time I may feel myself gravitating back to the thought of kids. Thank you, again.
Thank you so much for your response, I’m feeling slightly less anxious after taking much time for myself. I’ve done some activities that I enjoy and went out with family for dinner. It’ll be hard not having my best friend here with me physically but I know I’ll learn how to manage.
Thank you so much. Your advice has made me think very differently, and I feel you are spot on. This option would allow me to retain some power in the situation, and still provide some financial support. I'm truly grateful. Take care.
Thank you so much for your valuable feedback. I really feel better after reading those kind words shared by you. Thank you again. :)
Thank you for the honest, kind hearted advice about my situation! It really helped clear up some of the confusion and indecision I was dealing with. Best regards- Bree S.
Thank you for the honest, kind hearted advice about my situation! It really helped clear up some of the confusion and indecision I was dealing with. Best regards- Bree S.
That was really kind of you to answer my letter! You answered it like you understood me! I felt like it was coming from friends or family!
Thank you Paul for helping me come to terms with what I already knew but was afraid to admit. I am deeply touched by the tenderness of your tone. I will heed your advice and focus on myself and make sure I don't make the same mistakes. Thank you!
Thank you so much for your advice Amma! :) After reading your response I spoke to my friend and i told her how I felt about the situation. She decided to let go and allow me to do what’s best for myself. She said that she just wants me to be happy. I will definitely try writing my feeling like you said to. I think it will really help in the future. Sending love and prayers your way. Thank you Amma.
Thank you very much i needed to hear that. Your advice has been a big help to me. Hearing that has made me feel much better. We sure take good care of myself more. Thank you.
That is the general consensus of the advice I have been getting online.
Hello, Thank you for the advice! I am sure it will help
Dearest Liz, Please forgive me for my delay in writing back I've been extra busy with my recovery and I've been going to therapy. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time out of your day to read and answer my letter with your kind and honest advice, it is very much appreciated. I still have a long road to before I'm fully recovered but I'm trying to stay positive and I think I'm going to get through this. It's a big adjustment but I'm going to try to live my best life possible. Once again, thank you for your wise advice! I hope you and your family are in good health and are living your best life! Love, Giselle :)
Thank you so much for taking the time to write back. It helped way more than you know. I am extremely touched
Hi grammy lin thankyou so much for taking the time to respond to my issue. You dont know how much I appreciate it! I am so thankful for your words they have really helped me more than you could ever know. I hope you are well. kirsty
Thank you SO MUCH for your kind words and wisdom. I feel more confident knowing that sometimes change is good, and to take that chance to experience life from a different view. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story and your sons'. I wish you and your family good health and may the guidance of the experience shine light on the wondering youth. -Josh
Thank you SO MUCH for your kind words and wisdom. I feel more confident knowing that sometimes change is good, and to take that chance to experience life from a different view. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your story and your sons'. I wish you and your family good health and may the guidance of the experience shine light on the wondering youth. -Josh
Dear Good-Listener, Please forgive me in my delay in replying to your letter. I just want to say thank you so very much for taking the time out of your day to read and offer me your helpful and kind advice. You have been very helpful to me and I really really appreciate it! I followed your advice and I can honestly say I feel a lot better and I even told him about my fake boyfriend and he seems to be backing off a little. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, I honestly don't think I could've gotten better advice anywhere else! Love, Willow.
Thanx a lot for ur response,helped me think from a different perspective. Happy news I am over this, and I am talking to my friends again. Soon, it will be all cool again. Thanx again.
Dearest Folk, I'm terribly sorry for taking so long in replying to your letter, I've been going through a lot of changes lately. I've recently got enough courage to step out of my house and I'm getting into therapy to help me with the loss of my husband. It hasn't been easy. My friend tells me that someday I'll be ready to date again but to tell the truth, I know I'll never love anyone like I love my husband and the truth is I won't be dating again but my friends say I have to, do I really? is it so wrong to not want to date again? isn't it my life? I think despite what happened and what my friends say, that I'm going to be okay and I'm looking into the future even if I'm not remarried in that future. I go to my husband's grave every saturday on my day off to talk to him and it makes me feel better because I could always talk to him about anything and in a way I feel like his spirit lives on in a way. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your advice! I honestly don't think I could be where I am now without your advice. I am so grateful for you and hope you are living a very peaceful, happy, and beautiful life. I wish nothing but the best for you and your loved ones! Love, Kassadi :)
While I was reading this letter it brought me so many things about my past relationship like you said good and bad and I thank you for it....Your letter gave me reassurance that there's a future for me and not get stuck. Thank you so much for your wise word
Thank you so much, I’ll try to just listen to her for a while and see if it gets better. This was some awesome advice, thank you Susan. I’ll definitely be writing to this place more often. Sincerely, Michi
Dear William, Thank you so very much for the advice! your advice really made me feel stronger and hopeful, I don't think I could find better advice anywhere else. I decided that I will go with my gut and talk to his girlfriend tomorrow and tell her the whole truth. I feel a lot better and I took everything you said to heart and I am honestly so thankful that you took the time out of your day to share your kind advice. I can't say thank you enough, I only wish life didn't have to be so complicated sometimes and that there was still wisdom like all of you have here. I have faith that I'll marry a great guy one day, but it's like I told my friends if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't, but I'm not going to go chasing after love either because I thought about it and I think that's when people make mistakes. I'm staying focused on school and my dream of being an author and I feel that's more important to worry about. Once again, thank you soo much for the advice from the bottom of my heart. Love, Diana :)
Elder Owl was able to tackle all of my insecurities without appearing harsh or insensitive. I applaud him/her for being able to give suggestions and immediate solutions. I am very much grateful for his/her insights. May God bless you!
I've read and reread this quite a number of times and I sincerely thank you for your time as well as your reply! It's enlightened me, and I realize that I have a lot to keep striving for, thank you again for helping me settle the doubt I've been having, you've given me a great new perspective to reflect on.
Thank you so much! Your advice really put things in perspective for me, and helped me view things from an angle that I had never considered before.
Thank you so much!! This has really calmed me down! I'm very happy I wrote to this website, and so grateful for the answer!! :)
Mr. Bill, you said everything I needed to hear and helped to validate my own thought process. I appreciate it very much and should this woman reach out again, I will firmly express that there's no need for our continued communication. Thank you so much for sharing your own story; your experience helps to inform my own. It's okay to have a full life, and a family tie is not a reason to forget to secure your own oxygen mask. Thank you for the kindness and understanding in your reply. I am very glad and grateful for your response!
Thank you very much for this advice, it touched my heart! Have a great day, be safe and healthy!
Thank you very much for your time it means a lot to me and has seriously made me reconsider talking to people about how I am feeling. I hope you have a great day because you have just made me have a better one.
Thank you a lot for your advice. I really appreciate hearing about how you've dealt with similar things :) its reassuring to know I'm not alone in all of this. I'll try some tactics to be less mindful of myself, and more considerate for others. Thank you again!
Thank you Splotch. What you wrote was really heartfelt and I feel so much better and more supported after reading it. I will try the activity. I hope you have an amazing day.
thank you so much for this. i didnt realize this is what i needed to hear. i've always had a problem with things like this. so thank you so very much. i'll definitely be sure to come back to you for more advice.
Thank you for your response. It's very helpful to think about planning to live a full life afterwards. I also think we have a few updates to do on the practical side. I also feel inspired to approach him again with my concerns for his health , but from a more lovingly emotional stand point. I just want him to understand how much I'm going to miss him. I also like the idea of helping others. Thank you for your wise council!
Thank you so much! I’m very happy to know you remember me as I see you as sort of a role model when I get older haha! I’ve been feeling a little bit better but I think i’d much rather take a break from them and just focus on me. Thank you so much Dot <3 I truly cherish your advice.
thank you so much, Elder Sage! although i have read it late, it sure helped me! it's going to be a long and hard process but i know i can do it. thanks again!
Hi Again! I just wanted to say thank you for your inspirational words of advice and I will try my best to follow it by starting with some breathing exercises and maybe get into yoga as I have always thought that it would be boring but I guess I thought I would never have the patience or time to. I think it would be useful to set timers on things that I want to get done in an orderly-manner and find the positive things in doing work at school instead of dreading it because it is something that I do not enjoy or am into! Again thank you so much! Kind regards, Jenny
Elder PJH, I greatly appreciate your taking the time to formulate and craft a personal reply intended just for me !!! I see things much clearer because of your doing that. I feel inspired to take a second attempt to a renewed effort to making my marriage better = THANKS AGAIN !!! CH
Thanks so much, your advice helped me and I have successfully gotten back my friend! We do fight a little time to time but we have come to know that friends fight a little and a real friendship never breaks over a small argument. Without this I wouldn’t have been here. Thank you for helping me out with my issues. I am doing way better. ~ Hareem
Dear Elder, was shocked into thought when I read this. You are right. I'm 47 and this has been going on for years. They are not going to change. In fact, another major family news update was again withheld from me since I wrote this advice request. It is what it is. But this time, armed with your advice I simply chose to be happy for them. Your advice was great, just the shot in the arm I needed. Thank you much. Sincerely, Sandi
hi. I'm so thankful you wrote back and the advice you gave seems more helpful than anything else I've gotten and I'm just super grateful for it. thank you for acknowledging me. and for all your help
hi there Lloyd, thanks so much for your sage advice - I know it's a first-world issue and not really a biggie in the grand scheme of things, but it has certainly caused me some anguish and then need for some self-analysis, as I am not by nature a petty, insecure or jealous person, and I am feeling a little ashamed right now. my partner and I have since talked about this, I have apologised profusely to him, and I think we are both relieved to bring up the subject. I will talk to his flatmate on Sunday when I am next there, and also apologise to her for being 'catty' - and I am looking forward to clearing the air. I don't know if I will be entirely comfortable with the situation, but I will do what I can to make it less uncomfortable, and try not to resent someone for a circumstantial thing.. thanks again Lloyd, from a grateful person many miles away, your service is great, and I did try a number of different online websites, counselling, etc.. and I don't know if we have something like this in Australia, but ifnot, we certainly should. Love and light and thankyou again to you Lloyd, whoever you are, you are kind and insightful, and you have helped me a lot, even though I kind of reached the same conclusion myself after my partner brought it up, and then again after penning my letter. cheers, Shell
Wow, thank you so much for the advice, I feel a lot better now that I know someone can understand what I am going through.
Thank you Grandpa-Bill for your thoughtful and heartfelt comments and advice. I will try all of your suggestions, bit by bit and slowly offer suggestions to support my husband during this time. I appreciate the time you took to reply to my query. It's special older people like you that help the stressed and inexperienced people improve their day. THANKS AGAIN
Thank you so much for the uplifting and kind words. I needed to hear that and have affirmations.
hi thank you so much for your response and honestly it helps a lot. i will hold on to your advice and im so grateful to you that words cannot even express. thank you so much for all your kind words x
Ah thank you so much! I’ve took a lot of consideration to this and you are so right. I appreciate this so much.
Thank you so much for your wisdom! It is not easy to hear and will definitely take some time to achieve but I am adopting the one day at a time mentality right now. It was going good until I slipped last night with my 14 year old. I am always on time and have a plan which is I'm sure b/c of my mother who was not in the military but treated us like we were. Kids were making plans and still not sure of what time they were getting together and at the last minute she finally decided she was ready. I didn't get upset but was like omg come on already and my husband immediately jumped in and said why do you care you are not taking her or picking her up (b/c I had asked that he do it b/c I knew this would happen yet I still got stressed over it) Ugh. I have to methodically plan what I am doing each day, what might I encounter so I can prepare how to act on it. I am truly trying to change the way I respond. I have started to focus more on me and I have taken that dreaded I must do everything for my kids mentality down several notches. Last week I completely let my kids get up on their own for school. That is one of my biggest ones. I told myself if they are late they will deal with the consequences the school has set forth. I also stopped making them eat when I want them to, another peeve. I honestly don't know why. They will eat when they are hungry. So far my stress level has dissipated a bit by not worrying about those 2 things. I am trying to be more positive and upbeat seeing as how my fam thinks I am mostly negative. I feel like I am a realist. I guess reality is sometimes negative. I need to be prepared for everything (that is the controlling nature in me I guess). I will read the articles you have posted and want to thank you again for your words.
I can’t express how much you helped me. As I was reading your letter I laughed and cried. I spoke with my mother and father and they understood me and the things I’m going through. My dad especially. Thank goodness I ended up with you being my advisor. <3
I undertsand my primary focus should be my family ( Robert and my baby) thank you for your response. Erika honestly has always been a bully, my mom knows that- the whole family knows that. But she loves her and wants us to get along. Im not going to apologize. Hopefully she mellows down. Thank you Nick
Thank you for answering my letter once again. I really appreciate it that you took the time to answer another one of my letters. I will try to take this advice to heart and accept my friends decisions. so Thank you again -Demi
Thanks for getting back to me!!!! I just love the advice you give that’s why I keep coming back for more because you give really good advice. I really do appreciate it
Thank you so much for this advice. Everyone was telling me to just let it slide and that didnt feel right. I know if you could have been strong enough to stand up to such things in a even more prejudicial time, then I truly have no excuse. I am so happy I found this site and was able to get the confidence I needed to do what I felt in my heart was right. Thank you!
Thank you so much Nick for helping me with all my problems. I’m really glad the school in the end decided to name it After Bayard in the end. I will join the gsa and talk to the teacher who runs it tomorrow. Also, you’re really right about the dating. Honestly I just kind of felt pressured because so many of my friends started dating as well, and I felt left out and lonely. I’ll try to be more patient and positive though. Thank you for giving such great advice.
Thankyou Sir George K. Your advice has given me a sigh of relief. Your advice not only shedded on communication with parents but also with the husband that to direct. I'm glad that I came accross this website. Lets see what life has got for me the other side. Thankyou so much sir for the fast reply & underdstanding the pain & giving a practical reply because I was broken listening to the stuffs like patience is the key in a relationship. But I believe Claps are the result of two hands banging. One hand can never be able do the clapping alone. Same follows in a relationship two people have to be involved and pay attention to each other. Thankyou so much sir your advice has brighten my day.
Hello Elder PJC, I just wanted to say I really do appreciate everything that you wrote. There are many times in my life i've thought it was all in my head or I was just too sensitive. I talked to my grandmother about it and explained how i've been feeling about what was said, etc. and it seems we are back on good terms but i'm going to try and follow your suggestions anyway about keeping distance and taking small monthly steps to get there, it's just hard because my grandfather and I are very close and he has cancer so i've been trying to see him as much as possible. My mother is already trying to act like all is well and move on without saying she's sorry or act like anything happened. So i'm still moving forward with keeping distance and slowly moving her out. She keeps trying to push for closeness though and I don't know how to approach telling her i'm moving on solo without her lashing out because I know how she always reacts. She plays victim right away. But I have sought out a therapist like you said and hope they'll be able to help as well. Again your reply was amazing and really had me emotional and thankful with how spot on it hit. Thank you times infinity.
Thank you for this sound advice. It was very much needed! I appreciate the time you took when crafting this advice letter; it definitely shows. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you for all your help. I'll to keep things professional, it's just really hard when I feel like I'm being pushed and pulled by her all the time. I'd like to think that it's because I do a great job that she singles me out, but I also fear that she does it because she knows how I feel and can use me. Either way I'll keep doing my job and keep it moving. Thanks again for helping me out.
Thank you so much for your advice. I am grateful to you! I will try my best to follow it and make the best out of the situation. I think I might decide to change my field and try to find something more suitable. I can't thank you enough for your kind words!
Thank you SO much. It's so hard to talk about this. Thank you for allowing me to express how I feel and for giving me some really great advice. I will definitely look into the ideas you mentioned! God Bless.
Hello William, Your advice was very thoughtful and appreciated. I love the idea of the Good Morning pictures. That is a unique and fun way to stay in touch. As a matter of fact, I think I will do this with my parents as well. Thank you for sharing that idea. I have started thinking of hobbies that I might be able to devote a little more time to. Thankfully I also have a church group that has events and adventures I might have the time for now. I'm sure my two kiddos at home will also keep me busy with all of their activities. After reading your reply I am grateful for many things: Technology to stay in touch, the ability to visit Camille in Greece, finding new hobbies, and the chance to embrace the time with my two kids still at home. This is a new season in life. Camille leaving to study abroad is a chance for her to learn, grow, explore and spread her wings. It is difficult to watch them leave the nest, but I have spent 18 years pouring into her so she would be prepared to successfully adult. This is bittersweet, but I wouldn't want it any other way. Thank you for reminding me that I will make it through this time. I also appreciate you reminding me that I still have so much to be grateful for. I look forward to cultivating new ways to keep in touch. Your compassion and kindness is appreciated more than you know. Warm regards, Kimberly
Dear Beacons-of-Light, Wow! I cannot thank you enough for your help answering my letter. I've spent a lot of time going over and over the pros and cons like you suggested, and came to the conclusion that going to school for free is an invaluable opportunity that I can't give up. There will always be more positions. The last line you wrote,
Thank you. I agree. She agreed to get help. She knows it's her mind and her past. Thank you so much.
dear Grandpa-Matt, i really appreciate you for taking your time in analyzing my situation and making my day. reading your letter actually brought tears in my eyes. i always used to consider myself inferior to others and this lead to my failure. i thought about my bad old days where i used to hide behind others and got my things done. i will try my best to stand for myself and that is thanks to you. when i have a breakdown again i will always come to you for assistance.thankyou once again.
Hi William. Thank you so much for your advice. It was really helpful to read your experiences as a parent and your point of view on the situation. I felt a bit stuck between pleasing my parents and wanting to live my life and be happy. This was definitely helpful. Thank you!
Thank you Lloyd, your advice was exactly what I needed. You are an inspiration and you helped me more than I can describe!!
I want to thank you for your advice but me and him have met before, he flew down here to see me, but obviously we are both to busy to be seeing eachother often. I think that maybe I'd been pushing my feelings onto his actions, and seeing them for something they weren't but thank you
Hi Nick, you give me this advise nearly 3 years if not longer ago!! and i'm a different person today because of it. i got into therapy and bascially that opened a lot of closed doors for me. and i got to see me for who i truly was. My life is better because you encouraged me to seek help. I really truly want to say THANK YOU.
Thank you for your honesty. I needed to hear it from someone else to make it real. With respect A.O.
Thank you so much for your response. I needed to hear it from someone cause I didn’t really have anyone to talk to about it. I think you’re right that that telling my dad will do more harm than good. Thanks again and have a great day.
Thank you so much for your response! Your kind words really eased my mind and my heart. It gives me reassurance that I've made the right decision. I'm trying to refocus on myself again, and I hope one day I will find the right partner. I will not settle! Thank you.
Thank you so much, this will really hep us.Not only me, being able to figure things out togetther with the help of you can really make a change in my relationships.
Hi, Jane! I just wanted to follow up with you and thank you for your advice. I ended up doing almost exactly what you said and it worked out great. He told me it was no big deal and that I was brave to tell him how I felt, but that he doesn't feel the same way. We're now on great terms (probably even better friends than before my admission, actually). He's moved to Texas now but we're still keeping in touch and he plans to come back and visit at some point. Thank you so much for your great advice!
Miss Gabriel, I don't want to be late in thanking you for the valuable advice, before my happiness for reading this response vanishes. I am extremely happy to get a piece of advice from a senior like you. I will surely note it down and carry this with me until I achieve what I dream and then I'll continue your legacy in advising young people. Thanks Again. May you have a happy and blessed life. Regards, Hamza Irfan
Hello Nick. Thank you so much for your words. I think its time I live my life the way I want. I have decided to pursue my education and I will do it with my head held high. Thank you.
Hey Nick, Thank you for taking the time to read my letter, and thank you for being so understanding and empathetic. No one has ever told me I have a gift of writing, that was so nice of you! I just tried my best to put my story into a perspective that I feel more comfortable explaining. Your story of your nephew is extremely motivating and I'll be honest, its nice to know that I'm not alone in this situation, I can relate to the zig-zagging thing, he sounds like what we call in Australia
Linda, thanks for your clear and quick reply. I think I knew when I wrote my question that this is really their responsibility. But my heart aches for the child - and also for the parents as they are so consistently disrespected and what they say is disregarded. But your response helped me see that it really is their problem. Thanks for helping me see the situation from someone who has a bit more objectivity in the situation than I do.
Thank you so much for you response, it really means a lot to me to have someone listen to me and give valuable feedback.
Dear Ketchman, I want to thank you for your response to my question about moving to Fayetteville. The thought of the move gives me butterflies of anticipation, but in a happy and exciting way, so I appreciate your thoughtful reply. Your advice about renting the house for a year before settling in permanently is spot on, and I think we’ll do that as we test the waters of a new city. Thank you again, and I wish you a happy and adventurous summer! Sincerely and with gratitude, Sarah
Thank you for your advice.
Thank you so much for your letter, oldly enough it helped. Definitely have alot to think about. Don't be suprised if i come back with more adivce - i tend to chose the wrong choices. feeling grateful for your letter so thank you again :) !!!!!!! X
You made me cry. This was exactly what I needed to read right now. Thank you.
Thank you so much! I’ll definitely take your advice! (:
I really liked your reply and it even moved me to tears because it felt really personal. I really appreciate the long and detailed reply and I think you gave me enough courage to finally seek some professional guidance, starting with my school counselor. I've been thinking about doing it for a while, but I never let myself think I need some help, so I sincerely thank you for your reply. It has been truly helpful.
I know it has been a few weeks, but I want to thank you for your advice that you gave me. The whole thing was helpful, but there were specific parts that resonated with me the most. Taking opinions that are honest and based on experience and discarding the rest is something that I will make sure to do. Also, taking life one year at a time seems a lot less daunting, which is great for me. And finally, I really will take to heart about being honest with myself and taking responsibility. That advice is probably the biggest takeaway for me. Again, thanks for your wise words, they will be taken to heart.
Thank you for your words of wisdom. I would surely do my best to approach my problem with a counselor. I hope you don't mind me asking for a second opinion. I like my options plenty. Once again, thank you! God bless you!
Hello.. Your reply meant so much to me. I’m really thankful for your advice on how I should continue with my path.. It’s really difficult but I decided I have to do it. I want to make her proud no matter where she is and you’re right.. she wants me to finish what I started. I just have to be strong...for her. Again, Thank you!
Excelsior- I’m not sure you’ll ever know how your kind words have calmed me. I really needed someone who would either validate my instincts or give me a compelling reason why they were wrong. I appreciate your openness and your graciousness. Hopefully I can reach out to you again sometime if I’m stuck in a dilemma. I thank the Universe for you. -M
Just wanted to say thank you for your feedback, it really did help. Also, would like to point out my mothers name is Linda so what a coincidence that was!
Thank you so much for the kind and understanding advice. I really appreciate the ideas you shared to help me in moving on from this change in my life.
Thank you so much for your prompt and kind reply, Sonora! I appreciate your encouragement and validation about my decision. With so many doubts pinging around my head and emotions in my heart, hearing your frank, gentle, and impartial perspective moved me to tears and washed me with a wave of relief. Thank you for being available to me when I needed you. Have a wonderful weekend! -Sonja
Thank you so much Nick! i will heavily take your advice into place, all i got from people was
Thank you for your straight forward advice and I’ll keep her away from the bad things. KMs
I just wanted to say thank you for your response. Actually it was everything I think I knew in my heart but needed to have confirmed. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. I really value your opinion and response. It actually helped ease my pain and provide some clarity of thought. Which was greatly needed. Thank you again so very much
Thank you and I’ll let him know he sounds like a racist
You really have helped me. Thank you so much. I needed a third party with advice and a perspective that I just don’t have right now. Thank you so much.
Dear Omasue, Thankyou for your advice and for the websites that have really helped me xx :)
Hello, elder PJH! Thank you for your feedback. I read it over and over again before meeting my therapist and I wanted to follow up with you after meeting with them. It did me well, he says I do not see the value in the current actions I do now (working full-time, going to school part-time, taking care of pets, etc.) and has sent me home to do exercises to give myself credit for them. It still hurts to think about my future, but though the anxiety hasn't left, I am grateful for it because it has surrounded me with many blessings. So many friends and family have gotten closer to me, I love my mother so much more now, and I am excited to say I will meet my academic advisor soon. I don't know if social sciences will be right for me since I have a lot of interests that I have never looked into simply because I didn't believe myself to be smart enough to pursue them. I am nervous for the future and it looks bleak at times, but I have to remember that growing up is painful and necessary. We'll see what the future holds. Again, thank you so much for your response. I hope you can have the best day possible!
Thank you so much, this really does help. It's good to know I'm not alone
Your answer was thoughtful and even creative at times. Also I liked that you were honest about what I said. Hearing a truthful answer, good or bad, helps you see it for what it is.
Hi Aondreaa, You answered my letter about pursuing further musical studies awhile ago and I wanted to thank you. I did go back to graduate school to study viola and found out that performance is not what I want—it is instead musicology (study of music in society). I found the best advisor I could ask for and have just submitted a slate of applications for PhD work. I'm doing meaningful work researching gender and racial representation in American orchestras and the future is clear and exciting. Thank you again for your wisdom. I hope all is well with you and yours. I am grateful to you for your time. Best, Elias
Thankyou so much Danray for that advice, it really helped me undertand that not all things are meant to work out. I moved on from the relationship and to my surprise he was willing to stay good friends with me!
Fantastic! This was amazing advice. Thank you very much. Will be acting on this one. Happy holidays from a thankful person. Sandi
Thank you so much for reading through my question and giving me such a thoughtful response!
thank you for everything you’ve said. You’re completely right that I shouldn’t have to deal with him and it really isn’t love. I feel like I do so much for him and I try to make it work and I keep forcing it. I am currently trying to move on from him even though it may take some time but I will for sure take everything you said into consideration. I agree highly about what you said. Thank you so much!!!
Dear Sageworthy, Thank you for the wisdom in your carefully crafted letter. I keep returning to it. It has give me some peace and self-reflection.
Thank you so much, even though my mom & close friends say the same thing, hearing it from a
Hey Craig I read your response this morning and I just want to thank you , you changed my view on a lot of situations that are are going on in my life And I have been relieved of alot of stress and anger , i really appreciate you taking time out and helping me , ur an amazing person - Anthony
Hi Blanford im very clear what I should do now as u said ill get ready to change the society around me and thank you for spending your precious time for telling me What I can do you changed my mind I would write a letter again to you after I do whatever is in my mind thank you from the core of my heart
Thank you so much
Thank you Nick... I was kind of desperate finding what is my problem and what could be the best way when socializing to my classmates and be friendly and truly to my closefriend... But the real thing that made me quite sad is
I've found a lot of reassurance in your reply, Mr Ketchman. I was also particularly happy with your warm welcoming. I've felt encouraged to fight back my destructive thoughts, and I'm grateful for the time you've spent writing this letter.
Thank you Elder Excelsior!
Thank you so much for what you wrote. I’m definitely going to take time to sit & think about it. I hope you have a good life and help other people too!
I never thanked you for this, but this helped me more than you could ever possibly imagine. Thank you so much. The fact that you took time to reply to me made day, and I shouldn’t thanked you on the spot. This girl and I went to cold stone and talked for over 4 hours. Slow and steady, but progress is being made. Not sure what the outcome will be, but I’ll try my best not to get my hopes up for anything. Thanks again <3
Dear “Lincoln-Parker”, I know it’s been a long time since this letter was written but, as funny as it sounds, I actually forgot about this site for a while! I’d just like to say thank you for your kind words and helpfulness - I ended up writing a very long letter to my dad, explicitly stating the way I felt and for the most part, his remarks have stopped. I thought you should know that I couldn’t have done it without the encouragement I received from you, which I thank you for. I now feel a little braver, which is nice. Have a wonderful day! -“Meghan”
Thank you Mrs. G, your advice really settled my confusion and my heart on a lot that was conflicting me. I appreciate the time you took to respond. Sincerely, Dana
Thank you Mrs. G, your advice really settled my confusion and my heart on a lot that was conflicting me. I appreciate the time you took to respond. Sincerely, Dana
GranJan, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I reread your letter quite a few times and I could hear my Grandad's voice. I'm taking account of what you have said. The volunteer work is exactly what I need, helping others and seeing people smile is the one thing that never gets old and always makes me so happy. I am going to get through this Yours sincerely Bella x
Ketchman, Thank you so much for your advice. I am going to make the move to Chicago and become the best educator I can be! I hope things work out and I know I will contact you soon. I always needs sound advice and yours was wonderfully sound. Thank you again, Emily
Thankyou, Nick. I have spoken to my grandmother, my mum's mum, and she has spoken to her for me and we're all working everything out. Your feedback really helped and I can't thank you enough.
Thank you. I know it's been quite some time since I asked for help but things have been going great and I feel like you person who helped me make it this far, so thank you alot.
Dear Terry-Anne, I apologise for the delay in writing back. I just want to say thank you for your lovely message and kind words. I really appreciate your help. You speak such true wisdom. I need to forgive myself in order to to become my best self. Thank you so much again for taking the time to write and for helping me. I will remember your kind words. Thank you again. I wish you all the best always. Kind regards. Cressida
Dear JoeF, I always value your opinion. Thank you for taking the time to share all of your great information with me. Your support, encouragement and advice have been extremely helpful.
Thank you very much for your timely and adequate response. You provided words i need, not the words i want. Hopefully many confused individuals would be guided by your wisdom as well.
I'm greatful for you, elder Sense, for your empathetic response and I appreciate the time you took working on such a response. After reading your reply, I feel more encouraged to assert myself. I'm also amazed as I've never been understood that far. Thank you so much.
Hi there. Thank you for taking the time to answer this. I will try the sites you've provided and see what I can find. And I'm especially grateful that you suggested to ask the school I plan on attending what kind of scholarships/grants they have to offer. I didn't think of that. Again, thanks:-)
Thank you so much for your reply. You’ve given me a lot to think about and I feel more confident now that I have heard an outside opinion. Thank you!!
Thank you so much for your reply. You’ve given me a lot to think about and I feel more confident now that I have heard an outside opinion. Thank you!!
Thank you so much. This is what i have been told but guess i needed to hear it from an outsider. Appriciate it. Have a blessed day
Thank you so much. This is what i have been told but guess i needed to hear it from an outsider. Appriciate it. Have a blessed day
I wanted to thank you for your letter. The article you sent me about the MLB pitcher who dealt with hitting a batter was very helpful. There isn't a sports psychologist in my area but I talked a lot with my coach and my parents and they helped me too. I pitched my first game since the accident last night, and although I had some jitters at first, it went pretty well. Thanks again. Tim
Thank you. Your advice made sense and I feel a lot better about things. You're right, what we have is special and we do things for one another every day that show our love in our own ways. Thanks. I needed to hear that.
Thank you so much for answering! Your response was a big help. I will definitely be looking into those organizations. Your response really helped shed some light on my situation. Thank you so much!
Thanks a lot Mr. NanaPopo for the advice. I don't know you personally but this advice is surely going to help me. I will consider it and will always be thankful to you. :)
Hi, Green Man I wanted to thank you for your reply its given the confidence needed to mention it to my parents from a young age a love of cars has been very strong and being a car finder is the perfect job for me and being my boss is even better. I can't thank you enough I appreciate your advice
Ahhhh.... I feel heard and this brings me relief. I feel validated and this gives me strength. Ahh. I wish I had YOU in my circle!!! I feel like I know what I need to do now. I will keep on going and and make more of an effort to focus on people who strengthen me as a person and who seem more quality than quantity.
Thank you so much for this advice! It strengthened what I’ve been thinking about these past few days. We saw each other yesterday. I’ve been thinking that I really still want to be friends with this person while I can while trying to get over my feelings. Thank you again!
Wow that was a really thought out response and very caring. Thank you so much. I read it again and again. The most helpful part was pointing out this is my actual life..not a life that could have been. Really thank you from the bottom of my heart. Emilia
Thank you very much for the advice you gave me. It really did help me a lot and I understand what I must do now.
Thank you very much for the advice! It makes sense and I've been following it now, and it really has helped a lot!
Thank you so much for your response. It felt great to hear your kind words. I talked to my mom about seeing a specialist and we are going to look into it. Your letter gave me so much reassurance that I never experienced before and I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to write to me.
Thank you so much for your advice! Sometimes it helps when you get an “outsiders” opinion. It put some things into perspective for me please keep doing what you’re doing! :)
Excelsior, Thank you for your prompt response! This is going to be a very important period of both of our lives, and your words were just what I needed to hear, as they provided clarity during this time of transition. Also, thank you for congratulating my graduation and my work. During this hectic time of change, talking with an elder is an invaluable opportunity. Sincerely, Matt
Me and my boyfriend talked about this slot over the year and your advice really helped and strengthened us so I would like to thank you
This website and the people that help you here are amazing. Thank you so much!
Excelsior, thank you. You’re right, and even though it may hurt her, I guess we all need to learn. You got it spot on, she does have problems with her parents, and expecting that from me, that was something I did not even think of. Again, thank you, this was just what is needed to hear. Jay
Thanks for your insight! It's so hard to leave someone you really love but I know it is probably the
Wow! When you say it, it seems so simple! Thanks soooo muchh for the help!! I feel a lot better!
Thank you so so so much. I appreciate this and i will continue to write in my journal. While I was waiting for a response, i have been writing and keeping my thoughts to myself. I have not talked to anyone about it and i feel less annoying to my sister and friend. Thank you again, this letter made me feel better and made me understand that what I was doing wasn't the best choice.I have also been gaining the confidence by slowly asking my crush questions. I feel more comfortable around him. Thank you Mrs. G!! Love, Chelsea
You replied incredibly fast and your advice was extremely helpful - I actually hadn't thought of reaching out to my alma mater. Thank you for the advice!
Thank you very much.
Thanks!! Your advice really helped me! I made a new friend already and my friend a grade behind me started hanging out with people from my class too!! Everything is working out great! Wouldn't have done it without you!!
Thank you, Treefog and everyone at Elder Wisdom that have given me advice on dating. And congratulations to you and your wife on your 53rd anniversary. Hope I'll be celebrating my 53rd anniversary someday! Also, in case you were wondering, I'm 26 (nearly 27) actually so I've still got plenty of years to find the right girl for me so I guess I shouldn't be worrying. I should just do what you said: be patient.
Thank you so much I appreciate the advice you have given me!
thank you so much :)
Your advice was amazing. We are now really good friends, and, because of your advice, he's not mad at me like I expected him to be. I just want to thank you
Dear Shorty, Thank you so much for your kind response! Your letter was very real and made me look at my situation from a different perspective. I really thought about the way you redefined success. Thanks again for your help; I'll definitely carry your words with me moving forward! -Christine
Lawry, I want to say thank you. I don't believe I can orchestrate how grateful I am. I believe in what you are saying, about thinking postive so I will be. Your advice is more then helpful. From, Bella
Thank you so much! Your advice is very heartfelt and doesn't make me sound so crazy. I appreciate your honesty and kindness. I hope to follow up with you if something can eventually work out in my favor! Again, thank you. :)
I just would like to say thank you. I really took a step back at the situation. He and his girlfriend broke up, and he told me he really liked me. And well now we’re dating. But if anything happens that makes me uncomfortable I’m getting out of it. Thank you though, like a lot. That was my first submission and I really enjoyed it! Thank you!!
Hello, I wrote you a while back about not knowing what career to go into. You might not remember but I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to respond to me because it was genuinely helpful. I have decided to double major in electrical and computer engineering. All is well and I'm enjoying what I'm learning. Thank you again, Your Friend From Afar
Hi! I just thought I’ll drop in and finally thank you for your letter. At first I was being very stubborn not to listen to you however after some serious me time, I realised that you were correct. I won’t take her back after all. Thank you again and happy new year.
Wow! Thanks a million! Simple and clear! The best advice I've got so far!!! I wasn't expecting it but this was great! Thanks again!
Dear Good Listener, Thankyou so much for your thoughtful reply. I feel heard and understood, I’m fact the opposite of how I Felt after talking to my friend. I wish you all the best And you are so insightful.. Warmest thanks, Lori
Thank you for such a swift and empathetic return. It really is nice just to have someone care when you feel alone.
Thank you so much . I really appreciate it .
Thank you, i guess you were right about being patient because me and her are friends now. Thank you for the advice. Your very good at your job!
Thanks for the advice. I asked a mutual friend since it was a while between the time I submitted the question and got your response and she said pretty much said the opposite of what you did. I think my path lies somewhere in the middle, to honestly tell him where I am emotionally and let the chips fall where they may. My thought is that he IS trying to reach out and, like you said, I shouldn't shut him completely down. I'm so glad for your input and this site. Thanks again.
Thanks so much, Ketchman! Hope you have a great new year too!
Thank you very much for your advice. It has helped me greatly and I will follow your wise words to help me with this and any future relationships.
Thank you so much, again. I understand your point of view of this situation, and I will really take it into mind.
Dear Mr. Bill, Thank you so much for responding to my inquiry. I found your advice on making diagrams and assessing my strengths and weaknesses to be quite helpful. After thouroughly assessing my options, I have decided that it is in my best interest to not play tennis this year, even though I know that this decision is probably going to make a lot of people very upset with me. But, after hearing your response and your advice, I've decided that it is the best option for me. And so for that, I wanted to thank you very much
That advice is so smart. I will ask him about his life thank you so so much for helping me
hello, this is nikhil again. I really want to thank you for your advice.Whenever i feel insulted i apply this 20 second rule and it does work and sometimes i need to go for 30 seconds to forget about this and feel re-energized thereafter. Thankyou for your advice.
Thank You Ms.Cairnie!! You are so right Gracie <3
thank you so much, the simple knowledge that you understand means a ton. I will always read this letter when I need!
Thank you so much for the inspiration!!!!!!! I am so happy, and I appreciate it soooooooo much. I will try to do exactly what you tell me!
Thank you for your kind words. As exams are coming up, I will do the best I can with the time I have, and perhaps try some of your suggestions.
Dear years-truly-Bob, I wanted to take a moment to thank you for your kind words. Everything you said was bang on the head, I will definitely have a sit down with my boyfriend and are seeking help - I wanted to say thank you. I needed to hear that, and you surpassed it. Thank you, Char.
Thank you Elder PicklesMaria, I read your response and actually giggles by your way of writing. It made me happy and a bit more motivated on keeping on going! I really appreciate your time to write back to me. I will definitely change my ideology little by little, and motivate my self. When I need advice on things, I love coming here because of Elders like you.I was able to clear up my thoughts a bit, and it is nice to hear that you have already seen someone go through a similar situation because you then know how it is like these years. Thank you for your help, I truly appreciate it!
Helen, Thank You very much. That is what I needed to hear,The hard truth of reality. It was just one of those things I knew deep, deep,down in the back of my brain but didn't want to admite. Thanks again.
Thank you so much! I appreciate your point of view and you gave amazing advice. It helped clear my head about this very important decision and I feel a lot better moving forward!
Thank you very much for your help. I can see that you really thought it through and gave me great advice. I really really appreciate it. I should not be afraid to try new things. My life is not over once I graduate, it is just getting started !! Have a great day, thank you!
Thank you Elder Hedwig for your frank and thorough analysis of my letter. What I got out of it was that I need to let things go and focus on the positive. I also got that there is more than one way to look at things so it was helpful to get your perspective as the daughter who enjoyed what auntie brought to the table. I was charmed by the lipstick legacy. Well, I will certainly try to maintain a more open mind and let the irrelevancies go while focusing more on what good there is to enjoy and do. Again, thank you and happy holidays. Sandi
Thank you. I took your advice and he ended up not proposing per my request. He still doesn't like the idea of my moving but this isn't going to stop me!
I want to take this time to thank you for taking the time to reply back to my letter. It was nice to read someone bluntly tell me to go for the counseling program and not torment myself about graduate school. I have a tendency to work myself up when I get stressed out and this tends to make me question myself. Anyways, thanks again!
Thank you very much for your time and for a heart lifting inspiring message, means a lot to me, thanks!
Thank You so much for your advice. Your words made me feel much better, i'll try my best to continue being a great friend and cousin and hope she'll one day understand that I she can count on me when she needs something
Thank you! Before I recieveed your reply we had a heart to heart and discussed clear and reasonable expectations. I think the plan we’ve set in motion is putting us on the right track and your advice solidified it. Thanks again.
Here-Indeed,thank you.This advice helped me a lot,and I'm going to invite them.Thank you again.
Danray, I wanted to reach out and personally thank you for taking the time to write me back on my current issue. Thanks again, Brett
That is the best advice I have ever received- seriously, thank you.
I'd like to thank you for your reply and your thoughtful advice! I'm glad i was connected to an Elder who understands what it's like to remain in the background and submit to others' will over how own. I will take your advice into consideration and thank you again for your efforts in helping other people with their various issues, whatever they may be! Sending Scottish love to you!
Thank you Wise-Old-Grandpa! I definitely feel better after writing this letter and receiving a message back! I know it's going to be hard in the years to come, but I'm hopeful. Thank you! And have a nice day :D
Thank you for the advice Elder Oslo. It has been really helpful because I never thought of all the good things they have brought to my life and instead of fighting their gestures, I should accept them. I will talk to my cousin and try to find a way to balance my life in order to make everything better for everyone.
Thank you so much. It means the world to me that you were able to supply me with this advice. I have now set my goals and I will defeat this jelousy within me. Thank you for your advice and I hope you have a good one.
Hawk thank you so much for the advice you gave me in your letter. It really opened up my eyes in some aspects and helped me relieve some of the stress that I was feeling from the whole situation. Im happy that I can come to a website like this and say my problems and have people respond to them in such a caring and supportive way. I will be taking your advice very seriously. I appreciate it all so much. Thank you!!
I hadn't thought of showing them a work schedule and it's a great idea. They haven't yet changed their ways but I feel they might do soon. Thanks a lot for your answer!
Thank you so much for your thoughts. Great valuable advice you have blessed me with.
Thank you so much for responding.. I feel a lot better now after hearing how close your children were. This gives me hope :) I will definitely take your advice on letting my dad know how I stand on being a godmother. I have relied on Elder Wisdom Circle for so many things and you’ve pulled through again. Thank you thank you thank you!!
Thank you so much for taking the time to give me an advice. It's just so much clearer to me now what I should and could be doing. I am so glad I have found this website.
Thank you very much Dave for the reply. Honestly helps me a lot. Don't have much support at home or with friends and family.
Thank you so much, Sense. Your kind response has been so helpful and has helped me to feel reassured about how to be a supportive friend.
Thank you so much! You were very understanding and explained the feelings I failed to explain well. It's such a relief having someone in on my feelings I keep to myself- and giving me good advice while assessing my thoughts from another perspective. Now I know I'm not alone, and that someone out there understands me. Big kudos to you.
Thank you for taking the time to offer me advice. It was greatly appreciated.
Thank you for your advice. Love it. You're wonderful.
Thank you
Thank you so much, the loneliness is slowly wearing off but your advice was very comforting and helpful to me, I hope it fully goes away soon. Again, thank you so much!
Thank you so much for your advice in this matter. Your advice has helped me a lot with determining how i should go about this. Thank you so much Sincerely Girl Caught in a he said- she said situation.
Thankyou for taking out your time to reply me. It means alot. I will sure be back anytime soon to ask for more advice. -Neeha
Thankyou for taking out your time to reply me. It means alot. I will sure be back anytime soon to ask for more advice. -Neeha
Very thorough and thoughtful response. I will act on it! Thank you soooo much Craig!
Thank you so much! I did just what you said and everything turned out great!
Hello. I would just like to thank you so much for your amazing reply. I do actually play multiple sports, including basketball, where I have found the most amazing friends you could ask for. They're kind, loyal, and like me for who I am. I'm trying to sit with them at lunch, and everything will be solved. Everytime I do think about sitting with them, I feel embarrassed and shy for even asking. But I'm going to do it, because I need to enjoy my last year of middle school. (8th grade) Anyways, thank you so much for helping me with something that I felt I couldn't talk to anyone else about! I will definitely use your great advice!
I know that some time has gone by but I just wanted to say thank you, Alexandra, for answering my letter. I think the advice helped more coming from a fellow Pentaholic because you actually knew what I was talking about! I have learned to ignore the articles, they're just people sitting behind their computer.. and everybody has an opinion. I have furthered my journey in my faith while listening to Pentatonix (their beat boxer, Kevin, has really connected with me) and I'm not worried about this anymore, thanks to you. Thanks again, I know where to come now if I ever need more advice.
Your wisdom is brilliant! Thank you, Excelsior! I made some adjustments to time and I feel a little better about my workload.
Thank you Linda for your dedicated response. I was not sure what to expect when I clicked on this website but I am happy that I did. Your feedback has given me hope for my future as it has been on my mind a lot lately. Again, thank you.
Thank you. I really appreciate your opinion.
The response was extremely impressive, thank you! I assumed it to be a difficult question to answer given the vague info.
Thanks very much, this advice is much appreciated. I have spoken to a few friends for their advice and they have said things along the same lines. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say.
Thank you so much, this really helped me. My friend has never been a very serious person so I have to be careful when I talk to her about this. But this truly helped me and made me feel better about myself. Thanks a million!
Thank you for your advice! She has been hurt before and she didn't handle well, so I just wanted to look out for her because she'd do the same for me. Thanks again for the help!!
Thank you very much! I am extremely grateful for not only your help, but with the realistic approach you took to advise me. I have taken yours, as well as others' advice, and have decided I will study in a city near my reservation that is well-suited to my needs and I am so very excited! I have a new perspective because of your help! Thank you! Aliilamo Haslak
Hello Elder Folk, Thank you SO much for taking the time to respond to my letter. I have been reading and re-reading it ever since. It gives me courage and hope in knowing that I am not alone. You ended your letter saying to contact you with update and I plan to do this when that becomes available. In the meantime, I have read your list carefully and found it very helpful. Thank you again and will be in touch as able. Sandi
Green man , thank you for your advice I really appreciate it.Because of your wise words I will continue studying french.I am going to afterschool classes for extra support and I guess french isn't that bad after all. Thank you again .
Hey, Ms. Mary :) Thanks for the advice. Much appreciate. I should have told her earlier that i wasn't going to school. Anyway, she's talking to me the next day after the incident happen. Thank goodness. So, again, thankyou for the lovely advice.
Thank you for all of the positive words. I definitely have thought things over, and I am willing to try again. I do sincerely like this girl, and I appreciate all the advice you have given! I hope you have a good day (or whenever you get this, I hope the rest of your day is good :))
Thank you Grandma Lucy for tor wonderful suggestion . I can't thank you enough . I have talked things out with my mum and he finally understand me but there are few ups and downs still ; but that's what life is , right ? Thank you so much Sincerely Guntas
Thank you, Ketchman, for your advice. I really appreciate your thoughtful response. I have now spoke to B about the situation and she's not too keen on moving out, but she's open to some options. I still have some things to figure out but you definitely helped ease my concerns about this situation. Thank you so much.
Thanks for your lovely message, Maia. You're a very wise lady.
Thank you so much for your advice it really helped me. I chose to take Physics for now and after I'm done I'll get into cooking. Really thank you. I probably can say you saved me the trouble of regret in the future.
Hello Hedwig, Thank you for your response.I actually stayed in my current company and currently moving to level 2, for the same reasons you explained it to me. Sure larger salary was tempting, but there are too many things which are much more valuable than those extra 20% in cash. Kind regards, Armandas
Thank you for your help, I've decided to give this friend another chance. While my other friend has decided to distant herself, your advice really helped, and I realized that this friend has at times been not so trustworthy, but then again she has gone out of her way to make me happy and to make me laugh. So I wanted to thank you for helping me see that.
Thank you so much Sir, you really inspired me and helped me out. You were deffinatly right about the practice practice practice , but I'm willing to put in that effort Thankfully-panpan
Thank you GJ for your quick reply and thoughtful advice. I will try my best to follow your advice that you have provided me. I am grateful that there are people like you out there in this world. God bless, S.
I hope that she isn't just talking to me again out of guilt. But at the same time, at least she is talking to me again so that is a way for me to be able to get back right with her. But our conversations seem to be going well, kind of like the old days. - I think I will just continue as we are now, like you said sometimes friendships evolve into something more and sometimes they just fade away. I've come to terms that if we don't work out, then we don't work out. I will just continue talking to her and see what happens. If we drift apart, then that is just the way life intended it. It will be tough but if I can get past the first week or two, things should be ok. - Thank you for all of the advice and the help! I do greatly appreciate the time and the thought. Thank you very much!
Thank you very much for your wisdom and kindness. I'm trying hard now to keep this man at arms length. His words are oh so sweet but I see very much now how they are manipulative even if he's not trying to be. I want to love someone wholey and completely and though I love this man in some ways, I refuse to give him everything and let myself get hurt. Thank you again :)
Thank you for your advice. We kept some distance for a few days and then went out and had a proper talk with some food and drinks and we're gonna just be really good sisters. Your advice was very helpful and much needed though
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom, I think you are 100% correct. This advice means so much to me!!!
Thanks for your advice, PJH. I really appreciate the depth of your response. You've given me a lot to reflect upon. All the best, Gemma
hello thank you so much for your response , im glad you understood and could reply back in a perfect way for me to put alot in perspective. thank you so much !!
Thank you for your advice Dave. It helped put my mind at ease. I'm going to be patient during this time, let things unfold, & do the best I can. Again, Thank you.
I really don't know how could I thank someone who devote their time and effort to help me and other people. I always feel more confident and releived after reading EWC's seniors' replies. I never get such support from my family. I just don't know what to say. Thank you
Thank you so much! You really went into detail and explained everything asked of you and I am very thankful for the people like you who sit there and read and type all day for the younger generation.
Pure-Sue, You replied to my question with such honesty and good will which I haven't been told in quite a long time. I am starting to embrace our prior friendship and am coming to terms with the fact that youth is a phase which we won't return to so it's important to say that something happened to me but I still got through it and I was really touched by your response. Thank you, Pure-Sue!
Thank you. After I read your answer I was filled with new inspiration and determination to move on.Thank you Hedwig, really.
Thank you for the advice it can be challenging sometimes but I know I can work through it I hope that we will stay good friends forever but I know people change and friendships change Think you again
Thank you so much, Alexandra. Your wonderfully diverse suggestions, and the kindly intent with which they were offered, moved and inspired me. Thanks - again.
Hi! I just want to thank you once again for your advice. I was finally able to kiss this girl and now we are in a relationship. The advice you gave me really helped me gain the confidence again to kiss her and I was able to do so. Thank you so very much!
Dear OmaSue, Thank you for the prayer and comfort words. Without knowing me you understood my cry and and figure out which kind of person I am and What am ready to give out.I´m not pregnant.
Thank you very much! I did as you advised and we're now back together! I'm so happy! Without your help, I would've made it! :)
Thanks a lot Mr. Bill.. Felt like you've known me for a long time. The 'Fear of Rejection' thing is definitely true. Indeed. Maybe, I wasn't taking any action thinking what if it goes the wrong way.. Not now. If it isn't meant to be, it anyways won't be. The least I can do is make sure it happens, if it is meant to be. Thanks a lot again. I would have just sat.. Your words were precious. I'll try and do my best. Regards, Gordon
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom i will do as you say Thank you so much
I'm speechless with how moved I was by your advice. You brought me to tears, and it's usually hard for me to cry. Thank you so much. I'm working to become more open with myself so I can be with my partner as well. Peace and many blessings to you.
I know I'm very late on this thank you letter, but I'm doing a little better. I really appreciate the response from you. It was so heartwarming just to see that someone cared. Thank you so much
After reading your letter, I wished I was actually able to donate to this website. Thank you so much for your advice!
A heartfelt thank you. Your advice was very helpful and I will definitely be using it. I'm not sure what else to say...I've been searching high and low for good advice but all people have given me is the everyday
Thank you so much for your kind words of wisdom and thoughtful caring. It does make me feel better knowing that there are people of good will and empathy out there. Thank you so much.
I can't really express how grateful I am that I got a real and constructive answer. If I could I would donate to this website. Thank you.
thank you so much for the advice! i know getting over it might take time, but your advice really helped. Thank you again!
Thank you Tutu-Debbie, I think this is the answer I wanted to hear as bad as it sounds, you've made it alot easier I can't thank you enough :)
Thank you so much... I've been waiting for a reply and I'm really glad that you did. I met him twice. And everything you said is so so true. The night after I sent this letter was the night when I asked for God's help. I didn't know what to do anymore. I set up an alarm before I went to sleep (4 am). The next day I woke up and I heard mom video calling my papa (he works abroad) about me having a relationship. I pretended to sleep but my head circled with thoughts. When I had the courage to face her, I stood up and she instantly spat words at me. All of them were true.I realized that I was too young, and that as long as they're my parents, I have to respect their rules and wishes. Because all of them were just to protect me. They're like this because they love me. Ah anyways, I feel free from all the lies and guilt. It might be tough and I lost all my mom's respect and trust... but I'm working on bringing 'em back. I have been selfish and unconsiderate about their feelings, and I regret all of that. But this time for sure, I'll bring back their trust, I'll focus on loving them more. After all, that's a child's purpose, right? I might miss him at times, but It's okay. It doesn't compare to the amount of hurt I brought upon my mom. And now I'm finally concentrating on building up my faith in God and my family. A week have passed and I am now on my way to recovery. Again, thank you so much for your words. May God shower you with his grace, and joy dwell on your heart.
Thank you! I'll definitely think about what you said. I appreciate your honesty! :)
Thank you so much Good Listener! This has really helped me. I wasn't sure if it was
Thanks you were a great help
Thanks for your help on that topic, and I probably should of sent a thanks earlier.
Thank you so Michelle for helping me, Irene! I'm glad you've answered both of my letters, as everything you said I'm my other letter really helped me with dealing with my sister. I wanted to thank you again for taking time outnof your day to answer my long question! You're great! ~Sophie/Sofa
Thank you Michelle, your words are very helpful. I guess I need to accept that I cannot make my brother do what I think is the right thing, I will just try to be a good aunt.
Thank you so much for your advice. The answer to the question is my husband did well in school and he was an outstanding athletic. He never had a father to encourage him. Thanks again,
Thanks so much for your advice. Its very helpful and i will definitely keep communication open with him.
Thank you very much Askmae, I truly enjoyed this letter and will take in every advice of it. I am now excited of all the new things and new people im gonna meet. Thank you, again, because now i am going to see how amazing it will be to make new friends and view my surroundings a bit better!
hey thank you so much, you really helped, it's kind of nice to know that i am not alone...
You were truly wonderful, Oslo. Your words were kind and made me feel much better. I'm going to do my best to take your advice :-) Thank you so very much.
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I felt the need to say that you've banished most of my insecurities with this amazingly written article for me. You made it clear to me that all of these situations don't matter and are simply relative and that I need to believe in myself rather than ignoring the scene. I thank you for reaching out me with such life changing words. Thanks again Chaitanya
You've given me a lot to think about, TwoBitsWorth, I will read your letter and keep those questions in my mind and try to answer them for myself as well as keeping a different perspective on things. Thank you, Kate
Thankyou for your reply, this is very helpful to me.
Awesome advice! Thank you so much!
Awesome advice! Thank you so much!
thank you for getting back to me I praise you highly .Your dad seems very wise and thoughtfulHe has done a great job in passing his wisdom onto you.x
I appreciate you listening and would like to thank you for your thoughtful answer
Thank you sir, you are a very inspirational man and I wish I had a grandfather like you.
Thank you for taking the time to give me advice. You are right, I just need to be patient and see how things unravel on its own. I'll be sure to keep in touch and let you know how things turn out. Again, thank you! It really means a lot :)
Thank you for your advice Elder Cairnie! I will take your advice and try to find a mentor within the office. Thank you for encouraging me to be proactive and to focus on my priorities and what I can do for myself. Your advice has given me peace of mind and confidence. Thank you again, I truly appreciate it!
Thank you for your wonderful reply! You gave me very good advice and I so appreciate your quick reply! I needed a new perspective on myself and you were so right on! Thank you for helping me feel better! Candi
Thankyou so much for your reply and you have gave me a lot to think about but I think at the end I will make the right decision. Thank yu much just for listening to me and giving me advice I really appreciate it . Love sammy
Thanks a lot. I really appreciate your advice. I guess only time can heal this wound.
Thank you for helping me out. You're completely right. I just didn't want to face the truth. Best Regards, Rory
I feel much better after reading your reply..thank you so much :)
Many thanks for your reasoned opinion. Much appreciated.
Thanks for the advise! I have declined Brody's offer and we've promptly forgotten the whole debacle. He and I have agreed to pretend it never happened. And then I found out he asked another girl out a few days later, so I feel as if I dodged a bullet. Thanks for the advise, I really appreciate your help!
Thank you! I really appreciate this advice, especially because I don't know who else to turn to. My mom is always busy and honestly, I don't need to hear her tell me again that I'm not ready to date, because I already know. I agree about my
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THANK YOU SO MUCH! It was a very helpful article! You're a very helpful person and I am super thankful. I had a difficult time trying to figure out what to do but you have helped me understand that I shouldn't try to make the future. I just wanted to say thank you!
Thank you so much for your advice. Unfortunately I think you are right and our relationship is ending. You were very helpful in making me face reality. With much graditude.
Thank you so much for your reply, this really helped me and put me at ease, this was very detailed and made me feel connected with your personal experience.
Thanks so much Sara. Your response was caring and to the point. So to the point that it made me read a book that a friend had given to me years ago called
Thank you so much for this advice. I will try the exercises you recommended. This is definitely something that I needed to hear. Thank you so much!
Thank you for taking the time to send your thoughts, I really appreciate having another perspective. I feel like it's the right thing to do, it's just really scary, especially since I'm doing this solo! One of those times where you have to leap and just hope the net is there to catch you. Anyway, thanks again.
Dear Excelsior, Thanks so much for your advice! I told my friend, and she said sorry, that she never wanted to hurt my feelings, just wanted a friend to vent to. I also talked to my parents about joining a swim club, and they said yes! Thanks again, Sophie
Thank you so much for your response! I wholeheartedly agree with your suggestions and I will try to take it easy on myself as I enter college. Once again, I appreciate you taking the time to answer my responses. Best wishes!
Thank you very much PicklesMarie, you've helped me let go of something that has been weighing me down this year. Also, you're feedback has given me far more guidance than I have received upon this concern. Once again, thank you!
Thank you so much for your prompt response it really felt as your nurishment of soul could detach me from.the pain.I will try to search more but I can not open to anyone I barely wrote you...I so needed some good words (I never got good words neither for remarkable grades nor for winning any contest or beauty contest that I won
Thank for the advice.. Things were getting really bad and I prayed really hard last night. I woke up this morning and knew I had to move on. I also got the idea this morning to wait a year until the order is up, get a lawyer and see if I can get this removed from record - I don't think I deserve this. I may reach out to her to see if she'll cooperate in getting this removed from my record once the restraining order is lifter, this way I won't be breaking the law. What you said just gave me a lot of confidence and I needed to hear that. I honestly feel a lot better now. Thank you for your advice Blanford!
thank you i think this will help a lot so thank you if i need any more advice i will defntley go to you
Thank you! I understand your point of view, and agree. Thank you again for giving me very good advice and guidance!
Thank you so much for your reply. We've decided to just remain as friends for now but are starting to video chat on Skype in order get to know each other better in a more realistic kind of way. Thank you for treating me so nicely, I was scared that you'd just think I was being stupid and tell me to get a grip but instead you gave me some really amazing advice and thank you so much for that. I'm really grateful.
I never thought of it like that Thanks alot.
I want to thank you very much for replying to my letter in such detail. I appreciate it very much and it has helped me a lot already with all that is going on in my teenage mind :)
Thank you for taking the time to help me. As for the entertaining business I really want to be a singer, actor, director, and a lot of other things so it's hard to say specifically what I want. I found your advice very helpful and will definitely use some of your sources. THANKS! :)
Thank you so much! Reading your letter gave me a much better perspective on the situation, and I took your advice and spoke with my boyfriend about how I was feeling uncertain about him moving away for university. I am happy to say that we have found a school nearby that he is happy with, our relationship is stronger after having talked it out, and that we have even gotten engaged!Once again thank you so much for your insight, it was extremely helpful!
Thank you for your answer to my letter. It helped quite a bit since I knew what I wanted to do, but felt guilty since what I want to do isn't really the healthiest thing for my father. But at this point he deserves peace and you helped me to feel less guilty about doing what I have to do to provide it. I just needed an outside opinion. Thanks again! So glad I found this website. What an awesome service to people!
Nick, Thank you for your insightful and detailed response to my questions and concerns. You helped me move closer to solidifying my future by reiterating what others have said to me. I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond, and will remember your advice as I move toward pursuing my future endeavors.
Thanks a lot! You are right that I wont regret ever finishing college. Because I would definitely regret not taking this opportunity to get my degree. I don't know why I haven't realized this. I'll do my best to achieve my goal. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my letter, it really helped me to put things into perspective, and made me feel a lot better about myself. It's amazing how people like you come together to give advice and help people no matter how small or complicated the problem. That's extremely reassuring to hear about your wife and daughter; I'm glad for both you and them that everything worked out in the end. I will try to talk to my mum, and once again thank you so much. Ariana
I don't know how to say thank you.your words are so magical that gave me the new inspiration and fresh view of this world and living .you acted like my mother and give me hope again.I am really happy that there are still professional people like you who are modest and still help to others .I candare to say you are like my family and I am so fortunate that I got familiar with this website and with you and all of the other Elders. Words are unable to say how much I am appreciated and I can just say thanks for everything
Thank you. Everything you have said fixed the puzzle which I couldn't understand. The advice is really good and I am working with it. I actually feel more free without talking to her constantly. Thank you once again. I really appreciate you helping me.
Hi Grace, Don't know how to thank you. I am going to sleep well after a long time. Thanks again. You have shown me a new path and I understand about myself more clearly. Best Regards, Madhus
Thanks man. Your perception and wisdom are truly commendable. ^_^
Thx, I really appreciate it, sorry not replying for such a long time
Dear Elder
Wise words. Its the harsh truth that I've been dreading but I needed to hear. Unfortunately she is going to have to play out this relationship until she comes to her senses, I just hope she isn't too damaged when its all over. Thank you so much for this.. it was very very helpful!
Dear Maureen, Thank you for your very thoughtful response to my question. I plan to follow your advice, by most likely writing this friend an Email explaining how I feel. I will make sure I am as kind as possible but firm. Thank you I really needed to hear an unbiased opinion of how to handle this situation and I so appreciate the time you took out of your day to answer me. Bless you!
Ty for making me feel better about my situation and answering me I pray this all works out Blessings
Thank you so much, this words are what is keeping me together at the time, I really appreciate your help, it has been a tough time, however you have given me a bit of hope, something to look for in the future, so again, thank you so much, it has been a lot of help to me this time, everytime I feel like giving up I rely on this letter. Thanks Lizeth
Thank you so much for your well thought out response. I really appreciate your time and everything you've written! I will work on getting out of my head and out of my own way. <3
Thank you a lot Lincoln, I didnt think it that way but it is totally relevant because I expressed clearly to the consultant that i did not wanted to be on the paint company, so either he wanted me to gain more experience or he wanted me to think the decision clearly and not in a rush. Either way, it damages the paint company because I woould leave a project almost halfway through, so im gonna call the second company in a few days to talk abour the offer. Thank you again my friend have a good day
Thank you for your time and thorough response it really helps take some of the weight off to know that how I feel is somewhat justifiable. I appreciate your careful perspective and fair outlook of the situation. I will continue keeping my children separate from the issue and wait for her to respond. God bless you for being so giving of your time.
Thanks for the advice!
Thanks so much for your advice on my A Rock and A Hard Place email. Even as I sent the email I sort of knew the right thing to do, as you suggested, to just keep after them for my pay and stay calm, but it always helps to hear it from another person. Thanks again, Rebecca Bradshaw
This is a rushed thank you as I am at work and lunch almost over, but I want you to know I found your advice to be very direct and it made good sense to me and I will follow it to a
Dear Ketchman, I'd like to say a BIG THANK YOU for your time and advice. Your answer couldn't come at a better time, well at least today. Would you believe it, a friend of mine recently dropped to my house a copy of the
I want to tell you thank you so much for taking the time to rwad my letter and for the advice and great insight into the best ways to approach our issues. I am deffinatly going tk apply these techniques to our realationship and hope and pray for the best. I guess in our time together and with the stress of life we both have forgotten to say think you for the little things and that we get so caught up in the way we want things we both have become selfish and forgot about the others needs. I appreciate your advice and will make a point to practice them daily. I hope that the result of all this is as many happy and wonderful years (patched with some rough times I am sure) as you and your husband. Again think you so much. I am ever so grateful.
Thank you so much for replying quickly and in detail! This was so helpful. :)
Homer, Thank you so much for your valuable advice. I can tell you truly have advice worth listening to and I thank you for your time in sharing that! Thank you again for your time and wisdom and I hope you have a great weekend, Jamie
Gives amazing advice.
Thank you a lot. I will take your advice and take it slow :). You have been a great help to me and for that I thank you. -Sincerely Kevin
Dear GranJan, Thank you so much for writing back to me. This letter has provided the insight that I needed to begin my journey as a 20 year old. I just want to let you know that I have the upmost respect for you being 80 years old and giving back to the community like this with your wise advice. Java Script is a very daunting language to learn. Haha, wait until you learn PhP and Machine Language coding if you get into it that deep (: I will definitely try and create something in my life, as well as give back to the community and just try to treat others as I would like to be treated. I think the best thing that helped me about your response to the letter, was the fact that it reminded me that happiness is not a lifelong thing to search for, that is it more like a little light that shines in a dark area. I now know that happiness is momentarily, that you cannot feel it all your life, but that it will come to you at times in order for it to be enjoyed. Thank you Gran Jan. I will keep you posted. I'm glad I was able to reach out to a wise elder. -Keefe
I just read your letter and I have to say I really needed this. Thank you for your insight, I think you made a very valid point that not trying is what really leads to regret. I'm going to continue my love of music with guitar and maybe someday who knows I may try a 2nd instrument but I'll do so now without the intense feeling of pressure to succeed. Thank you! p.s. If I ever find the gentleman with your sax I'll be glad to tell him he's over due for the rest of the money he owes you. ;)
You are absolutely right. I feel like i know exactly what i need to do. Thank you, you are incredibly wise, i hope someday i will learn all those lessons in life.
Thank you for your reply. It means a lot. Side note: Don't worry, Im not the type of guy to do one night stands. Im looking for a serious relationship that would last, so no need to worry. But all you said made perfect sense. I'll give it my best to follow the advice's that you gave me. Again, thank you for taking your time to reply to me.
thanks a lot for the advice, I often have a hard time asking others for help in these type of matters, and im 17 years old. thank you very much it means a lot to me. thank you.
Thank you. While simple, your answer and your advice made my decision easier, and has given me some peace over the situation. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you so much grandpa bill,you fed me with knowledge and courage
I would like to say a few words about this website. Firstly i would like to send a very big THANK YOU for taking the time to read my letters and replying to me with very wise words. I read the answears over and over and it's helping me very much to understand the issues my relationship has, let go and move on. I am so very satisfied with both answers i got from you. Very very helpful. This in an amazing site. I have tried so many other but never got the reply or sometimes only one sentence from it. Thank you very much for all the answeers you have given me. Regards Dimitra
Thanlk you very much for that kind advise. i didnt even look at this at the angle you tackled it and i think you are right about what you have discussed in this advise note and i do appreciate and i have never been much more sure that i should FORGET this guy and move on with life meeting real people who are not hiding behind their computers or phones and yet i dont know if they are even lying or telling the truth about who they are. yes a real perosn will have time to meet in person and not have excuses back and fourth. Thank you for that advise and i appreciate your time. atleast you have made me to look at this situation from a different direction.
Thank you so much for giving me advice. It helped me greatly, I will continue to be myself and find nice caring friends. Again I thank you
Thank you for your advice, it is good to have other people's opinions and outlooks on certain situations. You're right he is not a good boyfriend and I deserve better. It has been 2 days since we communicated and he has made no attempt to contact me which shows his true feelings towards me. Thank you thank you for everything.
Thank you so much for your amazing advice. I appreciated iit so much.
Hello, I would really like to take the time to thank you for your guidance and amazing advice. Still, these situations are problems I face daily with this being. Nothing I do is good enough, however, I have decided to no longer allow my energy to drop to such levels of anger, fear, defeat, judgement, etc. . Reading your advice again today has once more provided me with strength and the focus I need to continue bettering the lives of those around me. Be blessed always. Best, Indigo
Your response means a lot. You're completely right, and made the seriousness of my situation very clear. I could not thank you enough.
Thank you for your kind words. I have decided that it's time to move on and I deserve better. I did a mistake once but I can't let it ruin my life. I can't keep living in the past. It's time. Thank you so much.
Thank you for taking time out to help me with my problem. I found your words motivating and I will carry them with me wherever I go in life. It's great to have someone tell you how life could play out based off experiences that they've had. I appreciate you and will try my very best to make it in life. I will remember to stay flexible and not let the small things get to me. Once again, I am grateful for the advice you have given me and I hope that you'll have another happy 30 years.
Thank you so much, Hedwig. It's nice to have advice from an adult who has been adulting for longer than I have. I'm still not very good at adulting yet :)
Dear JHart, Thank you for your reply to my letter. You gave me a lot to think about. I have gone back and forth over whether or not I SHOULD try to work on our marriage, and it was really great to hear an objective directive to work on it, with some practical suggestions included. I just get knotted up in my head so much...Sometimes when friends tell me their troubles, the solutions seem to stand out clear and plain, but when I try to turn the logic on my own situation, I just get confused. I really appreciate how you took the time to think about my situation and write to me. Thank you very much! Essie
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Dear Dirk, Thank you for advice, it has given me more perspective and more to think about. I appreciate the time that you put into your advice. Warmly, Rachael
Thank you for your advice sooo much. I'm going to look for, like you said, a more correct time to sit down and talk to my parents when they're happy. But I sincerely mean thanks for the advice you've given today. I'll try and suck it up and just take on what I can for now!
Thank you so much. I really needed that push.
Thank you so much. You helped me a bunch and you sound just like my Grandad/dad (im adopted, hes dead). Thank u!!
I just wanted to say thank you. That is exactly what I needed to hear. I have re-evaluated myself and my expectations.
Thank you so much for the wise advice, it definitely warms up my heart to hear it and it inspires me to recover :)
I had my husband read your advice because it truly is the best advice we've gotten during this past year. It made me cry because so many valid points were made and sometimes it's hard to see them when you are stuck in the middle of the storm. I know this isn't going to be a easy but I also realize that my husband and I have to put our foot down for her for our boys the new baby and for ourselves! Again thank you! n
Hello Elder...your response hit the nail on the head as you seem to understand the situation exactly as it is. Thank you so much for your advice and will do my very best to use it toward making this situation better for my marriage. May God bless you and take care
Thank you so much for the insight! You really hit the nail on the head in a lot of areas of concern for myself. It's always nice to hear a word of encouragement; your words truly have made an impact on how I'm viewing my current circumstances. I read your response a few times a day because they're truly sincere and insightful. Thank you Alexis!
Sonora, Thanks so much for your great answer! It really lifted me up in a time of sadness. You keep it real and you're direct. Awesome!
Grandpat, Thank you for your positive affirmations, as well as your insight on this topic. Having a fresh outside perspective was very helpful to me. I have not heard many thoughtfully placed arguments that look at the heart of what the bible is saying. Mostly I have encountered negativity and blatant hatred and shame. My plan is to sit down with my roommate and discuss my uncomfortable feelings with her. I hope to receive peace of mind and that both of us can feel respected. I believe that it can be handled with grace and I am very grateful for your support in pushing me in the right direction of standing up for what I believe in. Thank you for your wisdom!
This was very helpful thank you in fact yesterday we talked about how we would like to be in a relationship and date each other, but we want to wait until we are comfortable and to be sure things are right. I am going to take it day by day though. We have another date on Saturday. thank you so much for your input, it was exactly what I needed to hear, and I agree with everything you said :)
Ms Mary, I wanted to thank you for advice and good thoughts! You are right. My uncle wouldn't want me to be upset over this. I am going to send positive thoughts and send her a card for her birthday. And most of all, I'll try to avoid on dwelling on the pain that I've felt from this. Thanks again for your warm response!
How wonderful it is to be heard! Thank you, Jane. I will do just what you said.
Thank you very much for replying and for the compliments you provided me. I decided to do the right thing and end the relationship before he became too attached. Again, thanks for the help. I appreciate it greatly. :) Sincerely, Hannah
Thank you for answering and you are absolutely right.
Thank you so much for the advice! Iwill definitely take a step and try to play my part on trying to get closer with my crush. Your advice was very helpful and has made me gain my confidence.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. As hard as it, I do believe you are right and I have decided to leave. I hope he does not make it too difficult. Thanks again, your letter helped tremendously. Meg
Shorty, Thank you for your words of advice. I did not expect to get such great advice, let alone from someone who had worked in the field. I truly appreciate the time spent in responding to my question. Thank you, and I wish you the best. Mark
Dear Jan4you, Thank you for helping me past this situation. I'll take your advice on it! Jason.
thank you for responding, and so quickly too!! I'm so confused right now, and I feel like I have no one else to talk to. Im so glad I found this site!! I agree with you pretty much 100% I just,keep hoping that since a baby's on the way he'll grow up. but I guess we'll see have to see after the baby's born. I've always been again people staying together for kids, until the shoe was on my foot, so I need to stick to my guns, and make sure the baby's in a stable happy home, not a broken one. I'm very grateful to hear your opinion, and appreciate very much!!
Thank you for your help and suggestions. I think I knew this but at times it takes someone else to remind you of it. And looking to the bigger picture. Thank you for the
Dear Good-Listener, Thank you so much for the response!! Life got a bit hectic so, I am just know getting back on here. I am definitely going to take your advice and give it a shot! Thanks again and Have a Great Day!!
Thank you for taking the time to write a response back to me. Before I was truly stumped and you helped me greatly. Other sites I have tried didn't work out like this one. They never answered so I appreciate the feedback. Keep up the good work. But remember that you might want to take a break
It has been a while but I really want to thank you. I've gathered the strength and courage to escape the relationship I was in. What you wrote back was exactly what I needed to hear. I truly appreciate that you helped me out. Currently I am working on bettering myself because I can't and I won't go back to that type of relationship. Once again I really appreciate everything. That relationship was beyond a clouded mystery and I'm beyond relieved that, that chapter of my life is done, it's on to the next chapter.
Thank you Linda, you said everything I feel! I am in the process of working on my own self esteem, self care and self love. It is up to him to build my tust and love back up if he can't be bothered to do that then it's time to let go.
Thank you so much, I was in desperate need for advice and you gave me some really good advice.
Dear Ellen, Thank you for your insight. I am going to take some time to try and solve this, and I'll put my dreams and wants on the forefront. Thank you once again, I appreciate the advice so much!
Thank you papa. I do love him and I always will. Its killing me to let go but deep deep down I know it's what I need to do.
Thank you so much Mrs.G. You really help me in more ways than you can imagine. Much love, avery katherine
Ma'am SuzannaRoseanna, I'll try and follow your advice. Thank you for responding and giving me such enlightening advice. Thank you thank you thank you. God Bless!
Thank you Ms. Mary. You are a breath of fresh air in a smog of confusion. As always the Elder really do provide excellent advice as we proceed with this journey we call life. Appreciate all your time and understanding!!
Thank you Ms. Mary. You are a breath of fresh air in a smog of confusion. As always the Elder really do provide excellent advice as we proceed with this journey we call life. Appreciate all your time and understanding!!
Thank you very much for your kind words and wizdom I truly appreciate it. I will take your advice.
You are correct. I am just afraid. Thank you.
Thank you so much, I will take everything you have said into consideration. You have no idea how much I needed an elder's wisdom. I wish I could talk to you all the time! Its so nice talking to someone who is not biased!
Hi Jan. Thank you so much for your letter. It means the world to me and put me in the right mindset to do what I have to do. I think it's taken me some time but finally I have come to realize what you said that I need to love myself first before anyone else. Thank you thank you! I am doing good today although I still am having a hard time breaking it off. Your letter is very comforting to me though and I am reading it each day and reminding myself of your words. Thank you again for your help. Jason
Hi Maia, Thank you..... Its been quite some time since i posted my question and you will be happy to know that i did not resort to any kind of violence , verbal or physical, in the mean time while i was expecting an advice. I shared the incident with my close friend who is bigger and stronger than me and he quoted to me this old indian proverb
Thank you so much for replying! It really helped a lot! Now my friend and I don't have the competition anymore!
Thank you very much GranJan, your advice makes a lot of sense and I will be patient. It has always been a virtue I struggle with. And merry Christmas to you too - Cheryl
Thank you so much! I listened to you what you advised and it turned out great! I told him what I really felt after a great night and he was very understanding. So we're just friends now. Thank you so much!!
Thank you Elder Maia. You've help me to break it down and it seems clearer to choose now.
Dear elder, Thank you for the advice. I am a very strong independent woman and deserve much better. You are a great person for allowing me to realise this. Thanks again!, Pseudonym
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Thank you, your advice makes sense.
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Thank you Elder Ketchman for answering honestly and not treating me like I'm an idiot. You helped me alot when I flet like I had no one else to turn to.
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Thank you because of this letter I learn that I should move forward and I will promise to share this site to my peers because it really is helpful
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Thank you so much. Knowing there is love all around is very empowering. You have been very helpful!
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Thank you for your honesty! Even though it's hard to hear I appreciate you being honest and telling me what I need to hear! Thank you!
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Dear charlie, Thank you so much for your reply letter. I can not begin to thank enough for help and sound advice... Yours sincerely, Geetha.
Thank you for affirming my positivity.I have nowhere to turn except my body and my mind and their receptivity to healing energy and healing prayer.Thank you , at least I know someone else believes I can heal.I'll also look into herbs and special foods.
The advice you offer was very warm, sound, and wise. I appreciate the feedback.
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Thank you Barbara-Ann. Your advice on how to deal with people who are angry was very informative. I appreciate you and the other Elders that take out their time answer my questions and offer advice. Thank you.
Thank you so much. You are very kind. I read the book you suggested last night and it confirmed a lot of what i was already thinking as I have had the mirror up close and personal from recent relationships with men! Am feeling I am making progress in appreciating myself and connecting within. Thank you so much again and I wish you all the very best.
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After reading our answer, I feel like I've written a happy ending to a troubling story that I've been writing for a long time. I shared your answer with my girlfriend and she was very impressed as well. Thanks for the wisdom.
Thankyou that was a great insight an gave me a lot to walk away with now it is up to me to get over it come out of my shell but i really dont know how i will do that but i will give it a go
Thank you so much for your excellent advise. It makes a lot of sense and I'll do just that. I hope you have a wonderful day!
Elder Sanjean, I don't think you understand how much I appreciate your response. Origionally, I was actually searching for a local therapist. Unfortunately where I live, they're extremely expensive. I came across this website and didn't expect much out of it. I'm surprised to see that what y'all are doing here is genuine. I will put your advise into action starting with work tomorrow. I appreciate it a lot. Paris
I just want to say thank you for your advice, after I sat and spoke to my mother I felt releaved, like a great burden was lifted even though she did already know. But I would like to say thanks for taking the time and reply in this hard time in my life. I have taken all consequences and I feel like my mother and i's relationship is to eventually grow. So thank you, and God bless you.
GranJan thanks ily so much & your support means a lot to me. & yes, i have always doubting myself & criticizing myself.. will try to work on it slowly. btw this website rocks, it move me into tear, having known that the really are genuine people out here that really care about us
Thank you. That was an excellent answer and a very unique answer. Your realism is freeing. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for your advise. I just needed to someone to tell me that I am on the right track. I appreciate all that you have said and will do what you suggest. Many thanks.
Thank you soooooo much for understanding me and where I'm coming from. I really just needed someone to tell me I was doing the right thing by wanting to go....I think I'm strong enough to do it now...honestly, thank you for keeping me from making the biggest mistake of my life. I appreciate it :)
Thank you so much Katrina. I am actually feeling a lot better and am starting to put myself out there again. I actually ran into my ex yesterday and can say that I honestly think I'm 95% over him and definitely wouldn't want to get back together. Your words meant a lot and I will particularly take note of the advice that I have to treat myself as a priority. Thank you again, Gemma.
Thank you Janna. It has been a long road and I have stuck with it but now feel I have come to the end of that road, and it is truly helpful to have an independent person validate my conclusion.
Charlie, Your assessment regarding the dynamics of my marital relationship was spot on and very helpful. Thank you for your candid and amazing insight! carol
Thank you Bella! Your the best! I hope I can be as wise as you some day! After taking your advice my friend decided to change because she didn't want to lose me. She's been doing better now and we've both been helping rah other studie. Were almos straight A students! Thank you so much!
I cried reading your reply. You are so right, you opened my eyes.
Thank you. I will take on this advice and it has helped me see this situation clearer. Thank you once again :)
Your advice on my letter was exactly what i needed and i dont think anyone could have given better advice. I havent talked to my dad since christmas but i invited him to go to dinner tonight and that we may be able to do that maybe once a month to get comfortable around him again and not so much attatchment. Thank you again for the advice it was so much apprecitaed!
Thank you very much, you've given me the resolve to act.
Thank you very much for your advice, Elder Ketchman. I'll be sure to do as you suggested and discuss the best options with my financial advisors, and hearing about your friend whose life improved during life on campus is very encouraging.
thank you so much, your advice helped me alot. you know you have friends that will listen to you but they wont really,and even though i don't know you and you don't know me it felt like you know me and you helped me so much thank you so much words cant describe. i hope you have a wonderful day and i hope you keep giving people advice your really good at it :D
Thank you so much! You really got to the core of it for me--I do want to move because it will be so much sunnier and cheerier. This is a wonderful service. It's so lovely to have an outsider's view. Take care.
thank you for your advice it really makes me feel better because I have been holding in how I felt for a very long time. I know its not always good to bite your tongue when something is on your mind. but I can say I will take your advice on being happy, successful,completing my education, and telling my mom that I miss her.
Thank you SO much, Homer! You have no idea how much you helped me out. The answers you provided are more than adequate :) again, thank you. -Erin.
Thanks for the advice. I actually have chosen to tell my ma. And its a little awkward but my mom is helping me to see my girlfriend. My girlfriend also says thanks. :)
Thank you. I don't talk to my parents anymore so it's nice to know y'all even exist. That makes a lot of sense.
Thank you so much! What I did was told him we needed a break...I needed a break to think about things. I've thought about it and I've decided to permanently end the relationship. I wasn't feeling good in it at all. Anyway thank you so much what you wrote me makes perfect sense and again thanks, I'm very greatful :)
THANK YOU!I think I just wanted to have confirmation on what I was feeling. I will definitely not communicate with him on this level again. I am sure that I will need advice in the future and will check on how to send a donation for The ElderWisdomCircle for I think it probably helps alot of people. Talk soon and thank you again. Diane
Thank you very much for reply this. Letter that make me feel better and great helpful. Thank again..
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Thank you for your excellent advice. This situation is very difficult and sensitive and it helps me greatly to see it all laid out logically. I showed my boyfriend your response and he agreed that it makes sense. This will make my decision significantly easier.
Your listening and honest feedback is appreciated and valued.
Thanks for your advise. I knew the child was going to be the biggest part of it. Your letter back gave me lots to think about. The father ditched her as soon as she found out she was pregnant. I don't know about her parents yet. Thanks again!
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Thank you so much for your time and advice. We came to the conclusion to remain friends, and leave it at that, for the simple sake that both of us have much going on in our futures. School wise, I'm just starting, and he's fixing to graduate soon, so its best to remain friends.
Thanks Barbara for your advice. I am on a road to heal it is nice to have this help. It is exhausting for those closest to us to listen to our woes and this site gives us an outlet to help us reflect.
Amazing feedback, so detailed made me really think about the stuff i was doing. Brilliant advice, cannot thank you enough:)
Brilliant advice!
Jane, thanks for a fast straight forward answer. It wasn't what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to hear. And for what its worth. I agree with your answer.
Your response had me in tears. I was afraid of what I was going to hear but when I was done reading I had, and still have, so much hope for getting better, feeling better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, I am so grateful for the caring I have found.
I do have to say it's such a lovely and brilliant idea to have this opportunity to interact with kind, experienced and wise people. thanks, ewa
This was a well thought out letter with great advice. Very insightful that you realized I was ready to move on from support groups into actual social settings. I will try the advice u mentioned. Again, it was great. And, thank you for your wisdom! Dana
Hi SuzannaRoseanna, Thank you for such a detailed and well-thought out reply. It was wonderful to get sound and realistic advice from someone who is not as close to the situation as I am. I now have my options and possible courses of action laid out before me and will consider what is best to do and keep your letter as a reference I will start by reaching out to the neighbor who has already contacted the noisemakers. Thank you so very, very much. Your advice is MUCH appreciated! Laura
Thank you so much, this was truly helpful and really made me look at my situation in a different light. I can't wait to recommend this site to my friends! I am going to go to the Facebook page as soon as I get home. Thanks again! Erica
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I wanted to thank you for the "direct" approach. Not only did I tell him to leave and that it was over..... I sought professional help. This enlightenment really hit home for both of us. Kind of an "Ah ha" moment. Our relationship is now on the mend and we are happy. You gave great advice. Thank you
This was more helpful than I can say. It enabled me to get past my hurt feelings and see things a little more clearly. I don't want to throw away a longtime friendship over this. Yes, i'm disappointed. But i'll move on. Thank you so much!! jo
Thank you so much. When I wrote in I was doing so with tears in my eyes and hurt in my heart. I finally mustered up the courage to tell him it's over and he needs to move out. He belittled me by telling me there is no perfect relationship out there, but your advice provided me with hope. The hope I needed to tell him that I have faith.
Thank you so incredibly much for your response. I honestly didn't know how well this website was, but just wanted to give it a shot. I could not have asked for a better response to this. It feels so incredible to have somebody that seems to understand my situation so well. Never have I had somebody to fully understand and give me great advice. I will be using every bit of this advice. I actually feel now like I have a good chance at resolving my problems. Thank you so much for everything. I won't forget it. -Jordan
Elder KatrinaK, Tonight you have made another human being who is very much real (in the U.K) feel that he's not alone and there are people who care. You have given me hope (and I don't even know you) and courage and strength that a lot of people turn to God for. Thank you and best wishes for everything.
I received an email two years ago from Elder Alexandra, it was in regards to University and struggling to make choices.. I wasn't in the best frame of mind and needed guidance. Thanks to Alexandra I was accepted to College for a Diploma in Higher Education (Business) and will be progressing into 3rd Year of my BA Hons in Human Resource Management and Marketing from Strathclyde University. I really just wanted to take this opportunity to let Alexandra that their advice really did help me. I plan to finish my degree and get a little more experience in my field before I decide to go travelling. This website has provided me with advice that will stay with me for many many years to come. What a joy to know that there are people out there that care and will listen. I thank Alexandra for the help they gave me, it has been invaluable in deciding where my future is going. Thank you, Susan
Dear Charlie I am really pleasantly surprised by your prompt, thoughtful response. Your kind words brought a tear to my eye. I have been for counselling in the past, but I think you are right in sayingthat I clearly need more help. Goodness knows, I am so ready to have this tooth pulled! What I found most helpful about your letter, was your question about my reluctance based on my marriage or the shooting. No one has actually ever put it to me that plainly. I think it was the marriage and not the shooting, which took place not too long after my divorce. I was heartbroken over loosing my friend, but he was an absolute gentleman who treated me like gold. Unfortunately, the same can not be said about my husband, who is also the father of my three children. Thank you again for your valuable advice. Kind regards
Maryanne, I greatly appreciate your understanding and willingness to share your advice with me. I really needed to hear everything you told me, because whether or not I already knew it deep down, it helped me more than you know. Thank you so much for giving me the confidence that I am doing the right thing. It gives me hope that there are people like you that are so willing to help, one day I will join this website and try to help people like you do. I will try to get her help with our school councilor and our church. It'll be very very hard but I know that I can get through it. Your advice means a lot and thank you very much for your kind words.
I came across this email I must have saved from almost two years ago. I read thru it again and remembered why I had saved it. I don't know if I ever replied or said thank you to Jackie. I find that even though my life is in a different place now than it was then, the relationship advice I received from her is solid and still applies today. Thank you for the uplifting affirmation, encouragement, and truthful advice.
Dear Charlie, Thank you. If you were in any doubt what you are doing for the elderwisdom circle, it is a wonderful thing that you do. The help you have given me is more valuable than I can express. Thank you for your insight, kind words and compassion Please take care of yourself. Sarah
Elder Charlie: I would like to thank you for your precious time in understanding my problem and providing adequate guidance in no time. My special thanks to EWC for offering such a wonderful service to people in need! I will recommend this portal to others who need help and will come back here again in case I need any advice in future. All good wishes to you Charlie. May God bless you. Best regards, Priya.
Thank you so much for what you did for me all those years ago EWC, I honestly was at the edge and I don't think I would be here today if it wasn't for your sincere and caring guidance and advice. Keep up the wonderful work!
Alexandra - I just want to thank the elders who answered my request for advice. I think their advice was well thought out, sound and correct. This is the second time I've used Elder Wisdom Cirle and I have told many friends about it. It really helps just to sit down and write your problems out. And receiving an objective opinion really helps you to feel not so "alone" in your problems. Thanks again. You guys are GREAT!
Dear Elder Alexandra - I'd like to thank you so much. You don't understand how much this actually means to me. Although I don't really like therapists ill consider giving it a try. You reply helped me give advice to a young man who's also under a lot of stress. And it felt good, he told me that I'm the only person he can trust and that I actually made him smile in the longest amount of time. That filled my stomach with this relieving or even somewhat of a serene feeling. It felt nice to help him. I'd say god bless your soul but I'm Buddhist so, I hope you have a blissful life ahead for you. I saved this email so I can remember that there are people like you in this world that were put here for a reason. You are truly an angel sent down to earth and I will never forget you, for as long as I live.
Dear Elder PicklesMarie - thank you so much for support and advice once again cause you people are the only hope in my dark days ,thank you for helping me.
Dear Cousin-B - Thank you so much -- it was so enlightening to read your words of wisdom. What a great service you provide! May God bless all of you for the giving of your time to touch the lives of others.
Dear Elder Jangela - Thank you for your advice, Jangela. That was exactly what I've been thinking, but hearing it coming from someone who's not emotionally involved in this situation has helped me feel like I'm being at least somewhat rational about all of this insanity. I wish I'd found EWC sooner. Thank you again!
Dear Elder Tell-Tom - Thank you so much for your words of wisdom! I know I deserve better-I guess I just needed to hear it from an objective third party. I think I will put this whole mess in the history books and move on with my life! I really appreciate your prompt reply and hope you know how much it means to me! It feels so good to get this monkey off my back:)
Dear Texas-Grandpa - Hi, I am so greatfull for your reply, you told me what i already thought however i think i needed to hear it from someone else. I will take on board what you have said, i think i will ignore this guy from now on. Thank you
Dear Elder BG - I just wanna say thank you for the help! Thinks have been really crazy and stressful in my life lately and I'm hoping what you said will help. I think I really needed someone wise to talk to about my whole depression. And when I'm ready, which I hope is soon I'm going to talk to my parents about what's going on. Thank you so much again.
Dear Elder Charlie - Thank you so much for your reply. It does give me some hope to hold on to. I just keep telling myself patience is a virtue. Sometimes more than once. But thank you so much. I often felt I didnt have anyone to go to I have friends and family but sometimes you need someone elses point of view. So thanks again. I will be writing back.
Dear Elder Aunt-Molly - Thank you, Aunt-Molly. I do appreciate your response and it has been most helpful. It is too difficult to talk to family members about this situation, and talking to you via this forum, has been just what I needed. I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate your help. Thanks so much!!
Dear Elder Alexandra - Hi I recently asked the ElderWisdomCircle for advice and opinions for a problem I had and I'm really glad I sent my email. The response was clearly well thought out and I'm really happy with the answer I received! Thank you for all your help - it's given me lots to think about and a totally new perspective on the way I viewed my situation.
Alexandra: Your advice helped tremendously. You really helped a lot. I know you probably give out advice to tons of people, but it really did help. You have no idea how great it feels to know someone cares. I literally had tears of joy in my eyes. If your job is to help people, you're doing a fantastic job. Thank you so much again for taking time out of your day to help someone like me.
I want to thank you all so much for all that you have helped with. You are such a blessing. I find myself with no one to turn to except God. And asking for advice from you all helps so much. Thank you for all the help. You all are so great!
Elder Web - Thank you. =) After reading your reply i started thinking that maybe it is time to gain the courage to tell my parents. So thank you so much.
Dear Joanie-Wise: Many thanks for your very wise advice. This has really helped me to put things into perspective.
Thank you so very much. Your advice indeed did cheer me up and I'm doing a lot better this week. I really appreciate this service and I'm sure I will talk to you again soon!
Hi kay, I would like to thank you for your swift reply and your words of wisdom, as i said in my letter - i do not have any elders to turn to in times of trouble........... but i now have the EWC to provide me with the tools and help that i need! Yourself and all others at the EWC are making a big difference to many people's life's and I beileve that you are a godsend, i no longer feel alone and helpless. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you, Cousin-B (and all the elders)! This is such a WONDEFUL service and each response has always been heartfelt, sincere, and not-generic. I've referred many people to you. :) Thank you again. I appreciate your response and will take your advice to heart. Have an amazing day--what you do is admirable, worthwhile, and much appreciated.
You guys are great. Keep up the good work.
Dear JanLynn: Wonderful advice. You make VERY valid points. I think I will follow, as I too have been thinking those same thoughts already. Thank you so much, sometimes it's just nice to hear someone else confirm my thoughts. I will be adding you on facebook, and taking the survey giving nothing but praise.
thank you so much for your advice.i really appreciate it and i'll keep it my wishes to all the members of your group......and behalf of those people who are also asking advice from your group we would like to thank you for spending and find time for us ....again thank you so much
[Note: This came 4 years after the advice was given.] I was going through my old emails and found this. I started crying reading it again. What memories it brought back. I just wanted to say thank you again. I followed the advice given. It took about 5 months, but I did it. Once I got over the pain in my heart, I seen things a little clearer and stopped blameing myself. I am happy now.
Thank you, i am feeling much better after this. and i think its nice to have some one the understands. i cant thank you enough. i have asked my mother to spend time together and now were going shoping together today. thank you![:
Hi grandma You wouldn't mind me calling u grandma will u? Its just i never really had a grandma before who would give me such suggestions. And really thank you so much. I hadn't thought the idea of leaving home all the way through and now i see how much dependent i am on my parents. And i never thought about me being loney either. I am going to do my homework of thinking through the pros and cons! Thank you so much. I feel like this huge stuffs has been lifted from my mind and i see the light coming through all the negativity inside me.
I would recommend you to everyone I know, all of your advice means a lot x
Thank you so much for your advice. I've read it several times and I am continuing to absorb it. I will think very hard about the things you have mentioned. This website is wonderful and the advice is very helpful. Surely I will email again! I'm happy these sorts of places exist because there are truly so many people who just need an outside source to give them some form of input.
Thank you so much for this reply, i will try to talk to my mum and even my dad about this because i now know it is the right thing to do, i really appreciate somebody taking the time to talk to me about my personal problems and i will definitely come to you if i need help again!
Thank you ever so have made me believe the decision i made was totally the right one....Thank you once again and much appreciated.
Hello, I just wanna say THANK YOU*** so much for your advice. Every single word you said was TRUE!! As much as it's kind of hard for me to forget everything and move on...that is exactly what i will do/ thanks to you:) ** I SINCERELY AM GRATEFUL FOR YOUR ADVICE** THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Hedwig, Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. Your line about "making right the choices that capture you" really resonated with me. When I first read your response I really felt that the response was exactly what I needed to hear at this time in my life. Like a guardian angel! I have used Elder Wisdom Circle multiple times and have always had such excellent advice. What a wonderful service. Thank you for your committment to caring!
Thank you for taking the time to offer your thoughts. You bring up many valid points. I appreciate your insight, your letter brought me tears.
I just want to thank you for your advice! It was something I needed to hear but had no one to tell me. I almost cried as I got deeper into the message, everything you said made complete sense. I just wanted you to know I really appreciate your advice and I'm going to keep writing this website when I come into problems that I need help. Sincerely, Mari
Dear Jacobus, Thank you for your very well thought out and wise advise, I really appreciate it! My natural reaction to the situation would normally be to just keep on keeping on because I am adding to their lives and it's so much easier to not rock the boat. I must now value myself more and care about my happiness as well. Thank you again for the reinforcement and encouragement. Karen
Thank you very much, that was some real advice.. Are you an angel ? Well you might as well be. I've filled out the survey. Take care.
Dear PicklesMarie, I cannot thank you enough this time. You are exactly on target with what you think my main issues are. Kudos for this wonderful advice. I plan to start experimenting with the tips you gave me from today. You are absolutely right about the shyness problem. Thank you once again, you're great :) Best Wishes Tanya
Thank you ! You are making such a difference in people's lives , make sure you know that! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
This is an exceptionally kind and thoughtful response to my dilemma. I will take your advice under very serious consideration. I am very glad that you were there for me. Be well and continue to do good work.
Thank you very much for this thought-provoking response, which I'm still re-reading...a lot of food for thought! I will write again and let you know how it goes.
Thank you very much, you are my life saver. I'm very thankful for your advices. You are the the grestest person that I've ever talked to. Once again, thank you.
Thank you so much. Your letter was extremely helpful. You basically said what I have been thinking all this time but didn't quite realize it until it was put in words by someone else in front of me. Your words have given me the courage to do exactly what you said. Thank you so much again! :)
Dear Michelle, I wanted to thank you for what you do at Elder Wisdom circle and for taking the time to do it. Thank you for reaching across the water (I am on the other side of the Atlantic!) and touching my heart with your wise words. It was very helpful for me to write things down and to read the calm clear response from you. Thank you again and I wish you the very best. Take care, kind regards
Oh, thank you so much! I just really love this website now! I really appreciate you taking the time, and also your advice is just so unbelievably helpful! I literally cannot wait to talk to him about this. Thanks for even considering helping me, I know that If I had spoken to anyone else in my life they probably would have thought this whole thing to be stupid and immature, even though it had really been bothering me. Thank you very much, you rock Wise-Old-Owl
Hi Mimi, Thank you very much for your kind words and very helpful advise. I feel at times you wonder if you have the energy to keep trying especially as we both have our own business and dreams to follow. Sometimes you just loose faith and question if it's time to throw in the towel. I have to say though that not long after I wrote to you things took a turn in the right direction and my affections for him seem to be building again day by day. Very happy at the moment and I think we are over the worst and the holidays should seal it, put the past where it should be, behind us! and like you said move on with our relationship. Thank you again. Kindest regards
I would like to thank you so much for your comforting words. They are things I have been trying to tell myself for the longest time, but hearing them from someone else truly makes all the difference. You really helped me find hope at the end of this, and it helps so much to know that there's someone out there that cares. So thanks again for everything(:
Hello Elder Thank you very much. As much as I don't want to accept your advice, I know that what you say is right. I know I need to move on and I am going to do it. It is going to kill me but I know that this too shall pass. I am grateful for your advice and I am thankful.
Hello to Elder Jacobus and all the Elders of Wisdom Circle, I would like to say thank you very much for your advice, it means the world to me and it has given me strength to move on. Thank you very much for replying me God bless you Elder jacobus and all the Elders of Wisdom Circle.
Thank you! God bless! You made me see the bigger picture! May you be in my heart forever with thanks that you helped me Jacobus!!
Dear Aunt-Bella, Thank you for your reply and the thought you put into it. I was glad to hear your advice and to have many of the good pieces of advice already given to me by others reiterated. Sometimes another voice makes the right words clearer. I will continue to try my best at the university and to gain new perspectives and ideas which will not only give me a better understanding of the world, but also help me to perhaps figure out what route I should take--maybe even one I hadn't considered before simply because I had not encountered it before! May you continue to live well and be able to give your advice to we who need it most!
Thank you so much for your kind words. I will take your advice to heart. If I have other questions I will ask you. Thank you- this is a great service.
I will definately take your advice and see a counselor. I don't have a job so electrolysis is kind of out of the equation for now, but I'm gonna look around a see what else I can find to help remove or permanantly remove the hair, and start saving up money for it. My boyfreind finally came home after a full 28 hours away and things have been "civil" i guess. We've discussed it and he doesn't want counseling but I promised him it would never happen again, and he said he's gonna try to spend more time with me. He even cracked a joke afterwards saying the "xbox 360 was his 1st girlfriend but he'd make time for me also." That's alot different than things were when this all first happened. Thanks for guiding me in how to handle this. And p.s. If you aren't getting paid for this, you should be. I can only imagine the stuff that comes in for you to have to try to decipher and help straighten out. Thank you again
Thank you so much for the prompt advice. I really needed some help on this particular issue and I was so surprised to see my advice so soon show up in my mailbox. Such wise, thoughtful and grounding advice! I feel so much better! Coming from such a dysfunctional family, I needed the advice of a wise elder! I definitately plan to donate to ElderWisdomCircle. What a wonderful site.
Thanks! This will definitely help. I have a debit card, and that is what I used last time. Now I know to only bring a certain amount of money, for what I need. Thanks Again!
Terry-Anne, I think I knew the basics of what you were going to say, and I just needed someone to say it to me. Thank you for the help, your advice may change my whole life around:) Thanks!!
Thank you so much! All of what you said clicked in my head and made me feel confident with it. It would be an amazing experience. I'm so grateful for your help and can't Thank you enough for helping me get rid of what was holding me back before.
WOW!!!! I read this response like wow you put the nail in the hammer. You are absolutely right. I have been tolerating this type of behavior for far too long. I appreciate the straight forward response. I needed that from someone on the outside. I think this is a great site, I am glad my friend sent it to me. I will be forwarding it to all my friends. Hope it helps them. I will definitely be back. Have a great evening.
Dear Alexandra, Thank you so much for your response. Your words were so reassuring. I printed your response and put it in my nightstand where I can read it on nights when I'm feeling low. I actually do have an appointment with a counselor scheduled for this week, so hopefully that will help, too. But so many people in my life seem to feel that it's taking me too long to get over my divorce; it's wonderful to hear someone say that it's normal to take this long (or longer) and to even say that I should feel good about how far I've come. Thank you again; I really appreciate you and the others who give their time for this service!
Dear RipRap, Thanks very much for your time and support; I truly appreciate your help. ElderWisdomCircle is such an awesome organization, congratulations for all the support you offer to people in distress, people facing their most critical life crises. Warmest regards, M.
Dear Elder Wisdom Circle, I am very proud and very happy for your response. I will always use the Wisdom Circle. Thank you again. Elder Wisdom Circle rocks!
Thank you so much for your advice it made me feel a lot better. I did talk with my dad and he apologized to me and my sister and he has been trying to not over react at things as much. Again thank you. Hope you're well
Joanie Wise,Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate your time. It may sound strange but I have NEVER put my feelings into words. Yourself and my fiancee are the only people I have opened up to in the world. Both in the same week and it does feel like a weight off my shoulders.I am in the process of seeking professional help with the support from my partner. So, this is a big thank you, personally, from me to you. I wish you all the best, and will personally recommend your website to anybody who may find it helpful. Thanks again
I want to thank PicklesMarie SO much for the deep thought she's put into her message. Just to have someone hear me, understand and BE there was priceless. I am definitely making a contribution to your site. Thank you!!
Thank you for your words I appreciate them greatly. So far you elders have helped a lot this year. May peace, blessings, dreams and hope follow you all in your lives.
Thank you very much. I will most definitely let people know about your services. You are a blessing to have, I was blessed to have come across you. I really needed advise from someone and I found it here. Thank you
Thank you! I've asked my friends this question but I think that outside advice from someone who doesn't know any of us helped the most. I did choose Guy Number One, and I instantly knew that he was the right choice once we started to act more like a couple. :D Thanks again for your advice, I definitely will be coming back to this service if I need advice with anything ever again.
Thank you very much for letting me realize that I'm an okay person. I am sure that many other people appreciate your kindness and time you take to answer our question in our time of hardship. I hope that you can help a lot of other people who need help as much as I do. Thank you very much!
Words can not express how touching this letter was to read. You are absolutely right I'm going to apply! You words are a true blessing to my life and I thank you for taking the time to care.
Dear Wise Old Owl, I wrote to you asking for help and advice, but you also gave me something else, you gave me courage. I have taken your advice, and have now been referred by my g.p, for counselling, and no words of mine can truly express how much thanks I owe you. Many kind regards,
Thank you very much, Helen, for helping me. Your response has given me pause for thought; much to consider in fact and although I may be wounded for a short while, I will not forget what you have written. Thanks once again.
Thank you very much for your advice. It is very touching and I feel that you have listened to all I have written. Your advice is very wise. Thank you so much. My parents situation is more complicated as they share a business together however, as you said, this is for THEM to work out. I feel lighter having that reassurance and I can't tell you how much I just want to be a 26 year old and enjoy this beautiful time in my life without taking on my parents issues. What you have shared with me has made so much of sense and I will work hard at leaving their divorce to them. Thank you!
Thank you so much for the prompt response and a very thoughtful advice. I'm grateful to Terry- Anne for sharing her life experience with us and showing us that there are choices we could make even when we find ourself helpless and heartbroken. It will be hard for us to cut the chord, but we must do so. Thank you so much for understanding our pain. God bless you.
I would like to thank Grand-Jete for this very considered and thought-provoking response. It brings to life so many things I have thought about myself, yet been unable to put into words. I thank-you for your care, and it warms my heart to know that there are people in the world who will take the time to understand and help with another person's problems. I have a lot to think about, but thank you for helping me to channel my thoughts.
This is more than what I ever expected. Reading this has been like talking to someone I've known and trusted for a long time. I pray that I may remember your goodness and support you as life goes on. Thank you EWC.
Wow! This helps a lot. I didn't really look at it from his perspective. But now I realize that I should have. This helps a lot, and I want to thank you! It opens up my mind A LOT( :
Thank you SoCalJim; for your quick reply, for your kindess. Your response was well received. The timing of receipt was perfect and the support so desperately needed...I had just gotten off the phone with my beloved and was crushed yet again by an inability to talk without fighting. In tears I sat down to think about things and to just...well...sit. Your email came in then. I will proceed with my counseling and make my prayers each day that all lessons will pass as quickly and painlessly as possible. eyes will see clearly what path I should take. Thanks again for all you do for the people who write...when I'm an elder...I want to do the same. :o) What a rich exchange. Warmly and In Spirit,
I have to say thank you for the words of wisdom. I'm back on track and doing 100 % better than I was 3 months ago. You're an amazingly beautiful human being and I want to thank for saving my life. I've never meet you or even heard your voice and yet out of all the people that has come in and out of my life, you were the person who got through to me. I thank you with all my heart and soul for the help and kind words. If there are actual angels and there is a heaven, you would be a guardian Angel for many people. There should be more people in this world like youself. I hope and wish all your great hopes and dreams come true for you and your family. :)
Thank you, Texas-Grandpa, your advice makes a lot of sense... I need to find ME again. I can honestly say that your response has given me a little more strength for this, and a feeling of reassurance. It is such a wonderful thing that all of you have established a website for people in need of advice, and I want you to know this because I would hate to see "elderwisdom" go away one day and not be around help all the others down the line. There is no way i can explain how much better i feel.... maybe its cause I'm from Texas too, don't know.... but thanks.
Once again thank you for your wise words - I think I need time to reflect and think about the words you have written, but so appreciate the time and consideration you have taken, this alone gives me hope in my fellow man, Thank you,
Dear Tom, Thank you so much for your letter! I know that the wisdom it contains hit home because by the time I was finished reading it, I was wiping away tears -- the good kind of tears. I will print out your letter and keep it in my nightstand, where I can read it whenever I'm confused. On a side own beloved grandfather passed away thirteen years ago. It was wonderful to receive a letter from a "cyber-grandfather." I think that my dear Gramps would heartily approve of this advice -- and I know he would be grateful to you for helping his granddaughter. Thank you again. I wish you and your wife every possible blessing.
Thank so much for your help!! It was you that help me prepare to move forward. I can't thank you enough. thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Tthank you so much for your response. It was truly helpful to me, and I think I will try to make a list next time I find myself feeling anxiety about a situation. It's something I'm trying to work on day by day, and I know that if I just learn to breathe and accept the fact that everyone can't like me all the time, but that the ones that like me for who I am are the ones to keep, I'm sure I'll be able to gradually become more and more comfortable letting people into my life. Thanks, again! You're truly inspiring
Thank you. I read your response multiple times and cried, knowing that these are the exact words I need to hear. I cannot tell you how grateful I am for your wisdom.
Thank you so much for helping me with my situation... Thanks again for talking to me about my ex. I really needed somebody to come to and talk. Im gonna come to you for any further problems I might have. Thanks!
Wow Who ever you are you are amazing. I thank you for your advise from the bottom of my heart. You are an angel Thank you
What a lovely, helpful letter which I will read, again and again. I am just waiting to hear of Mum's apt at the Hospital next week and then we can begin discussions. In the meantime, I am trying to pull myself together so that I am strong for both of them. Your expert help is much appreciated Gillian
I have used this advice system a few times now, when I felt life was getting overwhelming and I couldn't turn to my own family for support. The older person in my family who I always went to for advice passed away almost 10 years ago. You guys have been great. I love being able to ask you questions about anything and never feel judged. Thank you for being honest and blunt. You have been like another family. Thank you
You are truly amazing! My sister told me about you and I am grateful to be able to share. My little angels! Thank you once again! Vanessa
I would like to thank the gentleman who helped me understand better my marital situation. Although it's not easy or pleasant, his advice is really what I feel is correct, and I would like to thank him profoundly for being there, in the most difficult moments of my life. Thanking you. Llly
Hi KayKay, I just wanted to say a heartfelt Thank You to you. You have showed me something that I was not able to understand or accept. In this last message, I just want to tell you how grateful I am for your help and what good you have done to me by giving me your elderly advice. Thank You, M
I wanted to thank you. About six months ago I emailed you about how depressed I was because I was over working myself. Now because of you and your advice, I feel a lot happier. You fixed my life. Thank you SO much.
WOW! Its exactly what I need. Thank you sounds so little for you. You make this world GREAT!
Hi, I would like to give a great big THANK YOU to EWC member, Tell-Tom, for the thought provoking and informative response that was provided to my question. It gives me great insight on what I need to do, in addition to giving me a couple of options on which way I can go to get where I need to be. Thanks so much,
Hi again, I am very pleased with your response! It really was most useful and it has helped me generate some ideas of my own. I would love for me and my partner to get back together, I just don't want to put my life on hold while I wait for her. I will certainly try and keep myself busy and try and do new things to help bring some excitement back into my life. I would certainly recommend this service to friends if they ever needed it. I can't thank you enough!
Your advice has really helped me see the light, I had a long heart to heart with my boyfriend and I admit it was incredibly emotional. Your words have been very supportive and if I need advice again I'll definitely know who to go to. Thank you for your help. My counsellor told me that going to ElderWisdomCircle was the best idea I've had in ages. I'll definitely write to you again xxxx
Dear Helen I just wanted to say thank you for your advice. This has been a very painful week for me and I really wanted an outside opinion. This meant a great deal to me. I do know in my heart that this relationship wasn't right, in fact, I think deep down I knew it all along. Thank you once again, this site is really a great thing
Hello Ruth, I want to thank you for your advice. This site is very helpful! Speaking from someone who was VERY close to their grandmother your words are appreciated! I wish more people could get wind of this site. Alot of our problems today would be solved if we listened to our elders and the wisdom they have gained. My son has Autism, he is high functioning but I was thinking that may have something to do with his behavior. I will check into it. God bless you for what you are doing for other like myself who may not have that elder in their life to turn to. You are a blessing!!!! I will keep you in my prayers. Thank you,
Dear Hedwig Thank you very much for your advice and feedback. Something I will definitely take away from what you said is that when standing at the fork in the road, I should not focus on what I'm losing but rather what I am gaining by making a choice in one direction. That is going to help me so much - that simple truth. Thank you!
Thank you so much Elder Helen for finding the time, and making an effort, to take on a rather challenging question. I appreciate your feedback and I think you're right. Sharing your experiences with me is a reminder for me to believe in myself, trust my instincts, have faith in the grief process, and perhaps even see a day when I can reflect back and appreciate these life lessons. Wisdom is a gift. Thank you for sharing it. Please take care of yourself!
Thank you so much Elder Hedwig for your wise feedback. Others have offered essentially the same advice, so there's a consensus. So, I’m going to let it go and not sweat the small stuff. Thank you for reminding me of this important life lesson by sharing some of your experiences. I hope the best for you. Take care of yourself
Dear Frank, Thank you kindly for your words of advise and wisdom. The community service that you provide is valuable and it does make a difference in people's lives. We will continue our courtship and I won't be scared to give her a ring if this continue going this well. E.
Dear KayKay, Thank you so much for your advice and volunteering your time. Your kind and wise words were refreshing and incredibly helpful. I needed to hear a voice of reason from someone who is not directly involved in this situation. I wish you the best. Thank you again, Sara
To all of you! I have more questions too! We do not give our elders enough voice in the world today. In many other countries an older person is respected to have much knowledge and advice. In our country getting older is not appreciated. Not listening to the voice of our peers is showing in our younger people. You guys rock!
Dear Gold-and-Wise, Thank you so much for your great advise! Your suggestions are greatly appreciated and I feel like there are many possibilities and options that I was overlooking. Thanks again for taking the time to help me! Sincerely,
Thank you Ron. I give you props on this, it's not easy to answer a question to someone's problem especially when you can't sit face to face with them and discuss it. I really appreciate you taking the time to answer my question. I often don't ask help from anyone and by doing that, it just sulks and eventually explodes. So thank you again! Have a wonderful year!
This email was exceptional help! From the moment I read it it helped me to get over him. We are still friends but I don't feel the same way I did before - obsessing and contantly thinking about him. I needed to hear the truth. Thank you!
I thought maybe, possibly, with as many that come to you daily for advice or help, you might not have had time for me. Reading your letter put me to tears only because a part of me knew in my heart that would be the answer. I just needed to be sure. And I have lacked the courage to do so. It's just hard to face. I'm still at this time with him and with your advice hopefully, before it goes any further or gets any harder I'll do the right thing the next oppertunity I get. Thank you so much for what you do. You took the time to respond to me personally and help. I will write you again telling you the decision I made and how I am, once I have made it. Knowing that there's someone out there who cares so much means the world and I don't feel so alone. I know what I need to do. I just want to thank you. God bless.
Dear Grammy-Lin, Thank you for your thoughtful advice and quick response! I really appreciate your help and kind words :) I am really glad I used because it helped me believe that there are people in the world that may not know who I am, but truly care and listen to me. In the future, when I am troubled and need someone to talk to, I will for sure send an email again! Thank you SO much!
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for your kind reply, Alexandra. This really meant a lot to have no idea. It made me feel like I might perhaps be a normal person experiencing normal things and not this crazy girl who feels too much. Have a great holiday season and maybe I'll write again when my life is interesting enough to be written about. ALL THE BEST!!
Thanks so much for your help and speedy reply! What a wonderful service you provide - and for free. I'm simply amazed. Best wishes, Jeff
I'd just like to Reply with a Thank you. I honestly did not even expect a reply thinking your website is a hoax. I have read your message over and over and it really hit me with what I should do. Your website is a god-send. I will not look back on the memories between her and I. It wasn't worth it to give myself up to her.
Sweet!!!!!!!!!!!! This is exactly what I was looking for, even the picture looks like it! I am so jazzed, thank you so much for your help. I read your advice letters alot, especially when I'm down in the dumps. I've been disabled and haven't been able to work or do much of anything for 3 yrs and then lost a son suddenly. But its great to know that there are nice giving people out there, helps my attitude alot. You guys do great work. Again thank you for your help. Sincerely
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I found your site accidently on Google. But I believe it was meant to be.
Thankyou for your response. You have helped me look at things in a different perspective. I think this is the best advice I have received out of everyone. I will love my son regardless. Thank you soo much for your time. It was a big help in my life right now
Thank you SO VERY much, Annie. Good advice!! . . . And, by the way, this is a fabulous service you are providing through the Elder Wisdom Circle.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my letter. What you said makes a lot of sense and you seem to understand the situation. I am going to be mulling over this & proceed cautiously. Your advice was very helpful. This is a great site. I am glad I found it.
Dear SpiritSong, I wanted to thank you for the words of advice and encouragement that you gave me. I look forward to trying these tips that you gave me. I have more hope and excitement to try to understand others and myself. I can tell that you spoke from experience and the heart. Thank you, again, for taking the time to respond. Sincerely, Kimberly
Thank you your advise was very helpful. You were one of the most helpful people to give me advise in my life thanks.
Thank you, Terry-Anne!! For you to take the time to write such a caring, heartfelt, detailed reply is amazing to me. Plus because you have been through the same experience as me (almost exactly!!) then I know that you meant every word - it was wonderful advice. You have no idea how much I appreciate it. Thanks - I will re-read and re-read your answer and definitely take your advice to heart.
Thank you very much for taking the time to answer and think about my questions. I appreciated your response and am thankful for the advice! I hope you are continually blessed through elderwisdomecircle. Thanks, have a great weekend! Matthew
Dear Terry-Ann, Our heart-felt thanks for your response. Your advice really hit home with me and validates what we think we need to do, but has not yet done. It is clear your advice comes from someone who loves her sons and has practiced what is really hard in parenting. We are grateful for you sharing your wisdom with us in our time of great turmoil and need. God bless you.
Purple-Finch, I just want to thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for all of your advice. I never could have asked for more. I have decided, with your help, to break any and all communication until we can see each other face to face again. My hope is that we can figure things out once we both have had a chance to clear our minds I hope you can appreciate exactly how much your kind words have helped me through this. When I say I have no one to talk to about this I mean it. I have not talked to a soul about this, except you. I know you suggested talking to a therapist, and I thought about that too, but I just don't have it in me. Maybe One day I will learn to swallow my pride, but not today. Thank you for your wisdom, your understanding, and your insight. I won't forget this. You have my utmost respect and undying gratitude. Sincerely, Robert
I wanted to thank you very much for this. Its nice to know I'm not the only one and that its not ME that just has to completely change my ways, do you have any idea how many times I've heard something about how i have to come completely out of my shell and that no one will notice me if I dont put myself out there. My thought has always been that, if I'm not that type of person, why would I want someone who didnt notice me for the real me? Anyway, thanks again, you really did help me out.
To BARBARA at the EWC: I really liked what you had to say and how, basically you helped me give myself permission to have these real feelings and not keep playing into the role I've been assigned in the family. Just being able to hear someone say that you are not crazy and validate my emotions and anger and confusion, she gave me great comfort and being that i don't know her it is amazing how well this site enables people like me to say things with the veil of secrecy, anonymity, that frees me up to think about what is bugging me without having to worry if it will go farther with gossip or with a person not being honest about keeping their word to you and then going around blabbing to everyone. So, A huge THANK YOU to BARBRA and everyone there at EWC. You ROCK!
Dear Baer, Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much I appreciate your timely and encouraging advice. You touched on some very key issues here like my belief that "I can't do it". I also liked what you said about taking on an attitude that I am "in control of my life" and not "at the effect of it" I know that it's going to take some hard effort to begin again and change my thinking patterns but what have I got to lose, right? I'm pretty sure I'll be reading your advice to me over and over again. So thanks again for doing what you do. sincerely,
Dear Elder Thank you very much for the comfort, advice and support . I'm moving on, life has so much better to offer. Take care ! Love Crystal
Thank you so much for your advice! I even shared this email with a friend of mine. I asked for her advice (and it was good), but after I read her what you wrote, she said wow and her eyes opened big. She said how deep you went with the dishonesty part and agreed. Your advice truly is wise. I am highly grateful for you! Thank you! I love your forwardness and being transparent and so loving! Be blessed! Im sure I will need you again.
Thank you for your considerate and kind reply. I feel well understood and supported by your answer -- and the fact that it comes from a place of empathy and compassion makes the advice so much stronger. I am very grateful, and will carefully consider everything you said.
Dear Hedwig, Thanks for your affirming and encouraging emails. I have confidence that I will find those pineapples at some point, and in the meantime I'm just trying to do the next right thing. It's good to have a reminder that there's a world beyond the one I'm (for now). I just have to remember that the dark places are temporary, Your being there through Elder Wisdom Circle is a real life-saver. I hope I have the privilege of passing on some of the support you've given me to someone else one day. Alll best wishes-- Danielle
Hello Ruth! This reply is very helpful & so quick! Thank you very much. I did in fact call and say we would love to have some news of them and my son replied today! It was lovely. However, he didn't offer to come over. I'm thinking about the 'meal out' as my husband will probably manage it. Anyway, I really appreciate your advice; you are very wise, Best wishes, Carole.
Thank you so much! Wow! You are very wise, I agree with everything you said. I hope things will be okay and I pray that God will keep us strong. We do not see each other often and he respects me very much, this is what amazes me about him. We really hope to have a second chance in the future. You have no idea how much better I am feeling now. You are awesome! Thank you again for replying to my email. Thank you, thank you!
Hi Larry, Your advice really moved me to tears. More than you know your words made a difference in my life. Thank you so much! God bless you!
Dear Aunt Molly, Many thanks for your astute and concise ideas below. I think you're 100% right, that I have given too much emotional power to my ex-husband. I need to move beyond caring what he thinks. As long as I act in accordance with my own (high) standards, that's all I can do. I think I was beating myself up too much about this and trying to be the best and most blameless ex-wife I could be, when all I really need to be is the best PERSON I can be and not be so hard on myself in the ex-wife category. Many thanks, many thanks for opening my eyes to this! It was really and truly helpful. Thank you! Best wishe to you and the other good folks at EWC . . .
Thank you so much for your advice and for sharing your early marriage experience!! I was so afraid to open the e-mail, but now I'm so glad I did. I wrote my entry when I was feeling very depressed about the situation, and then I was scared that it made me sound crazy. But thank you so much for being so kind and understanding! I'm still thinking everything through, but I even just feel better about everything, after sharing it with someone. God bless you!
Dear DeeBee, Thanks for the advice about my crush. It was the best advice from Elder Wisdom I've ever gotten. Just thought I'd let you know that my crush is now my boyfriend :). Just saying your advice influenced that, and that's a good thing. Thanks!
Dear Elders I am writing this from the city in Germany. And I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart, specially for this very important line : ' It’s too early to start thinking about backup plans.' If you only knew how just telling me that took a load of my little, overthinking, microplanning shoulders. All the best to you all.
Dear Ms. SuzannaRoseanna,Thank you very much for your well thought out response to my questions. It really helped me put a lot of things in perspective, especially as I have been doing a lot of reflecting lately. I will definitely be looking into the books you suggested for further guidance. Thank you for your help and insight.
My message is for Grammy-Lin who made me feel like someone wrapped a warm blanket around my soul and not only listen but shared and gave thoughtful and insightful answers. I really was more than I ever expected in it's powerful statement about "changing the channel" and being the master of your own thoughts. I thought I was doing that to some degree but felt at a loss when triggered sometimes. I can't stand falling into that pity party, woe is me yuckiness. The thing is she really touched a place that is in (I believe) my cellular memory, bloodline... because I am 1/2 Japanese and use my meditation daily and my Father is a master of mind over matter (he is the Japanese half...Mom is Swedish)...I tell people that at our wedding , half the family was throwing rice and half was catching it!..little joke, anyways...she is RIGHT! I thank her for "reminding" me to use what I already have and extend it to my painful thoughts, or bubbles...and just the fact that I got it off my chest and somebody cared enough to send me such good useful info make my heart sing. My blessings and good intentions to Grammy-Lin and all of you for being such a helpful and, I think, spiritual connection over this Internet madness. You are all wonderful for your capacity to care for complete to all Sincerely,
Hi Alexandra, Thank you so much for your reply. I really needed to share my feelings with someone and for that person to be a neutral party. I wanted to let you know that I really appreciate your answer and the help/advice you have given me. Before writing my letter to you, I felt alone and lost. Part of me was trying to figure this out logically and part of me was not. Reading your response has helped me understand what I was feeling and why.
I wanted to thank you SO MUCH for your wonderful advice Tom. I shared this correspondence with Ed, and I believe this has given him hope. Its one thing for the love of his life to hear and understand him- I'll back him up on anything. But for a source that does not know us to say these things makes all the difference. Ed will seek counselling immediately, and we thank you so much for your time and consideration. Take Care!!
Loved this advice. Loved it. Thank you for being very specific. I am learning about myself again and I surely don't want to be in a wrong state of mind when a good man comes along so I need to be patient.
Wow! Thank you BG for your very thorough response. Its obvious you really took your time and thought about how to reply, I dont even get that kind of attention from my own family, LOL. You covered everything. I have always wanted to be an xray tech, and learn MRI and then if I had time later take another year for Nuclear Medicine. But it always just seemed a little out of my reach. Thank you for helping me realize that it isnt and for validating my thoughts, and for your great advice!
Thank you so much! Your advice came at a perfect time! This helped a lot and you suggested some things that I never would have thought of! I really didn't know who to talk to about this because some people who know him don't want to help and I couldn't tell anyone who was that close to him without running the risk of him finding out too much.
Thank you so much!! This was very helpful :-) Exactly what I was looking for
Thank you very much for this solid piece of guidance. It's exactly what I needed, and what would have been hard to find elsewhere. I'm still quite upset, but this helped me more than I thought it could have. Thank you so much: you and everyone else at Elder Wisdom Care are doing wonderful things. :)
It has taken me a while to get around to writing this, but I did mean to for a long time. Michelle wrote a lovely email for me, and everytime I have had a hard few days I have re-read her response and it gave me a little hope. It's answered everything in such a sensitive, wise and logical way. I'm extremely grateful to her, she is really someone to keep! Thank you so much!
...I would like to say a HUGE thank you for your wisdom and kindness and wonderful advice and ideas. I am following them up as soon as this leaves my computer. You deserve many blessings for giving your time especially as you obviously have your own family problems to deal with. Thank you - I think you are an angel, sort of in disguise.
Thank you so very much. Your advice on the situation has definitely helped me to see things from a less biased perspective and clear my head a bit. Thank you so much for taking the time not only to read and reply to my question, but to reply so thouroughly and thoughtfully. It helps, so much. Much more than I initially expected. The world can't ever have enough people like you, and the other Elders. (: Sincerely, Jessica
Thank you so much Aunt Molly for your comforting letter. You make such good points, and I'll try to remember them as I deal with this. Thanks for reminding me too that I shouldn't expect everything I say to "take hold" right away but that the process is necessary.
Thank you for the advice I was given. I am not with my boyfriend anymore. The advice helped. Thank you. I would use this website again. I can't thank you enough nor tell you how much it did actually help me : ). Thank you Kenti.
Thank you so much for your advice! I just got back from the beach (I went alone, without him!) and it was great to get away and be by myself. Upon coming back we had a talk and are officially now broken up. He is now actively trying to "win me back" and is being extra kind etc but I'm standing strong, and we'll see how long the extra kindness lasts anyway... Everything you said was very insightful - some were things that came across my mind before, but I quickly denied them but I guess I was just denying the truth. Thanks again so much for you help and volunteering your time to be part of the elder wisdom circle. Every person whom you converse with is lucky to get your insight!
Thank you, thank you so very much for your advice. Between the time I first sent this query and receiving a reply, I had made the decision to do what I wanted, whether for good or bad. Thus far, things seem to be turning out just fine. I suppose I should have listened to my own advice a long time ago, but upon reading yours it really showed me that ultimately everything is my own decision and no one else's.
Dear Aunt-Molly and the Elder Wisdom Circle, I wanted to thank you so much for your response to my question. I am not sure what kind of reply I was expecting in return, but I do know that what I received exceeded all of the expectations that I could have had. I was delighted by the advice that was given to me. As Aunt-Molly stated in her reply, I really already knew the answers to my questions. I guess I was unknowingly seeking out someone to validate what I was feeling. Aunt-Molly not only supplied that, she gave me some wonderful gems of wisdom that I am going to save for future reference...things that I can apply to so many areas of my life. Thank you again. What a wonderful, wonderful service!!! April
Thank you SO MUCH. Thats the best advice I think I've ever gotten. I never even thought about linking "living in the moment" and my goals in one. I also never thought about how I'm not living to the fullest now, I'm waiting for it... and it wont come unless I do something. I didn't see that about myself until you told me. This is the greatet website ever! I'm going to recommend it. =] Thank you
Thank you so much, once again. When I get really sad i look back at your advice and it helps me realize what i can do to help myself. I'll be trying my hardest to work through this, and talking to you helped. Thank you.
Dear Elder Wisdom Circle: Thank you for the straight talk that opened my eyes to the simplest of solutions. As a result I am happily washing the dishes for my Dad every chance I get, which is almost always these days. Also, I am extremely grateful for your collection of "water shortage" information. This is exactly what I was also hoping for in your response to me, a convenient bundle of germane news on this topic to help me share with my Dad (and others along the way). I'm making a donation via your link immediately to you for your invaluable, helpful words of wisdom and guidance. Furthermore, I shall be heralding your good work to everyone I know! Best regards, Andrew
I justed wanted to say thank you very much, your advice was very reassuring, and I really needed it =). I hope to keep working on composing while I'm at Tech and learning about computers. If I ever have any other problems, I know exactly who I'm going to. Thanks again! Alan
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for your reply Jangela, which is so insightful and comforting, and to the creators of this awesome website. I'll be sharing it with many, many people and will be returning for more great advice. I simply cannot say thank you enough. I come from a broken home and I was not raised around elders to offer guidance. This website fills a huge need in my life. It also makes me more respectful and unafraid of aging. Thanks again. Best,
Thank you so much for your reply and your caringness! You have no idea how much your reply helped me! When i grow up I want to be apart of things just like this because they are amazing and help people so much that are in need! It answered my question completely so thanks so much again! if i'm ever able to donate I will! and will definately refer others to this site when i can't answer their questions! God Bless! Thanks Again Sincerely,
Thanks so much for helping me! I feel like you really mean what you say and care. You have helped me so much! You probably have helped alot of others! You have a wonderful gift. Thank you!
I am currently a 19-year-old male going into my third year of college. I just want to say that I used Elder Wisdom Circle a few years in high school. It helped me to get my first girlfriend and become friends with a kid with whom I had NOTHING in common. I recently requested some advice on a very important problem of mine and I am so excited to receive a response because I just know that it will help regardless of the responder. Thank you for your support and essentially redirecting me away from difficult paths in my life. You have no idea how appreciative I am of your group.
Dear Helen, Thank you for your kind words, and helpful advice. I am so very glad that elderwisdomecircle is available for individuals like myself that do not have family or supportive environment! Helen, I hope to write again, for now I shall heed your words until I need a gentle ear to turn to. Thank you, Margaret
Thank you so much. I really do feel better and I will always keep these thoughts with me. You guys are very helpful and I'm very apppreciative. I'm glad I have someone to talk to who willl give me advice because I cant really talk to my parents. I'm glad I found this website.
Thank you so much! I'll show my parents my letter and your reply as soon as I can, and I'll let you know what happens after that. It really helped hearing your advice! I'll keep in touch
Please thank Terry-Anne for her comforting advice. It's just what I need during this exciting, but scary time in my life. Her words just reaffirmed what I feel in my heart. Hearing this from wonderful people with wisdom and life experience helps me not be so afraid. Thank you
Terry-Anne, Thank you Thank You! Your sincerity and understanding of this situation is tremendous. I have tears in my eyes. You have totally understood and given me the best advice I know in my heart I must step away and live my life. I will forgive and move on. Bless you,
Wow! Thank you so much. This helped me a lot! I appreciate the time you gave to answer my question. I think I'm heading in the right direction now!
Dear Terry-Anne, Thank you so much for your quick response to my letter. Your advice has greatly helped me in my situation. What a blessing to have a response from someone that experienced the same thing I am going through. I thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience and to give me the advice and insight into this matter. Thank you for the idea of keeping a journal, I did feel a little lighter after putting it all down in my letter to Elder Wisdom. I will use your excellent advice to get me through this time in my life. Thank you so much,
This is the best website I've ever come across! Thank you so much for your wise words!
I am so appreciative of this insightful and kind reply from Terry-Anne. It actually touches on many aspects of the situation that I have considered in recent weeks, particularly God's love as the strongest support we could ever know. What helps alot is your message that worrying about the future may take away from what we need to be focussing on today. And that your life may have been easier, but not better, if your son was not disabled. Thank you for helping me understand and be more aware of what our children might need, and not need, during this trying time. I have to wonder how the Elder Wisdom Circle found the perfect person to give me some answers. Jayne
Dear Hedwig: Thank you for your quick and kind response. I felt so much better being able to "talk" to someone about this and "hear" what you had to say. I take comfort in you telling me that each stage we go through is different and special, but since my mom died - change - has overwhelmed me with fear and sadness. That has been my stumbling block. My daughter is wonderful and I think we will be or at least I hope we will be close, like you and your mother. You have helped me tremendously. I just have to make myself be okay with change. I've read your email about 5 times now to help me get the courage to face the change that the future has and realize that it isn't necessarily a bad thing. I never thought of the fact that I am also maturing. We can do this together - you are right. Thanks again for everything. Have a wonderful day! Sincerely,
Hello Texas-Grandpa Thank you so much, it did help a great deal. I am going to seek someone to talk to, but getting this email helped me so much, and has given me clarity to see what my personal feelings could not let me see. Again thank you so much for your advice and for caring enough to provide this service, it means everything to know there is always somewhere that you can turn to. Kind Regards
Dear Jay63, Thankyou so much for your advice . It is really helping me with some tough decisions. It was also great to tell someone and know that someone cares and that i'm not alone in this . Thankyou again bless you
I would first like to begin by saying thank you for taking the time to answer my question. The response that I received was more than just helpful; the words are so true. Your honesty and obvious wisdom about life reminds one of what we can control and what we cannot...and learning to understand the difference between the two. A willingness to just let some things be. Your words,simple but so true, have made a greater impact on me more than any other help I've sought. Thank you so very much. I will put to practice some of the things you mentioned....communication with him, inventory on me, and appreciating what we do share. Thank you.
Pickles Marie- Thank you so much for the amazing advice! "Mr. Right" and I have since ended our relationship since he wasn't sure if he saw himself marrying me (and to be honest, I think I feel the same way), but I'm optimistic about my future now and meeting the person I am supposed to be with. Thank you and again and I'm thrilled I found the Elder's Wisdom Circle
Thank you for the reply. I can tell a lot of thought and consideration went into my problem. My first inclination was to not go to the wedding and stand by my son, but the sadness of the whole situation cast doubt in my mind. Your input will help strengthen me to do what is right for me and my son. Everyone else will have to live with the choices they have made. God bless you all. The Elder Wisdom Circle has been there for me before and I appreciate the fact that I have a caring circle of "friends" to gravitate towards in times of need.
Dear Terry-Anne, Thank you for taking the time to reply to my questions. I did not realize this would actually be a legal matter but, after reading your reply, I see it is indeed so I will consult with someone who can help me draw up an agreement.Thank you for sharing your wisdom in this matter.Sincerely, Sandy
Thank you so much for your quick response to my question. Finaly a place that makes sense. You guys are great and it was great advice.
Thank you so, so much. I'm just in tears, so grateful for this wise reply. I think you're right. He called me this morning. We agreed we have work to do. I did ask him if he would go to counseling - before I even got this - and he said yes. Your reply confirmed what I was thinking and went so much further. He means so much to me, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I will keep you posted! Thank you for your kindess, your wisdom, and your generosity in sharing what you know.
I'm amazed at how comprehensive and insightful the advice was. I can't thank you enough.
Thanks for responding. I am so glad that I discovered your website for giving advice. I feel much better getting a second opinion. I wish you the best!!! Thanks so much for responding!!! I really needed a second opinion and thanks for validating my feelings!!!
What a wonderful service. Thanks for the advice. I'll take it to heart and talk directly with my brother. I think it's good to sometimes get advice from an unbiased perspective. My other brothers and sisters are too close to the situation and personal feelings can skew the logical course of action. Take care,
Thanks very much. That was some of the best advice I have ever received. I appreciate it very much.
Thank you so much! When one is inside of an issue it is so hard to come up with a good compromise like the one you suggested below. thank you again. I will definetly talk to my husband and see if we can arrange a family meeting and suggest that. I really sounded as if a real person answered my question and not a automated response like some websites. Thank you again. Your advise is greatly appreciated!
Thank you so much! Aunt Molly:)..I will keep in mind your golden advice always. Following your advice things have already changed between us. I am very happy now. I really appreciate your replying to my problem. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Cheers
Dear Hedwig, Your response helped me tremendously! Thank you very much, I actually started crying when I read it partly because now I know the answer and partly because I realized I was not being understanding and supportive, just angry and hurt. Thank you very, very much!
I thank you for making me understand. It is really hard being friends but I am sure it will all work out in the long run. After all everything in life happens for a reason and it is always for our best. I keep telling myself that and it really helps. You have been so kind and understanding and I really appreciate all the help and words of wisdom. Thank you again
Bobbi Jo, Thank you so much for your advise... I really needed to hear it worded that way. I love my best friend and I love my god son... I don't want to hurt them! The love I have for them is more important then I the love think I have for my ex! Thank you so much for snapping me back into reality!
Dear Aondreaa, I would just like to thank you so much for your advice. Many of the points you raise are things I had thought of, but was unsure of whether I was reading things correctly. Your reply has helped clarify this for me. Your advice to me is greatly appreciated. Kind Regards
Dear Elder, Thank you, sometimes you need a friend who can understand what I might be going through. It’s very comforting to know, I have someone to ask for advice at Elder Wisdom. This is my first time visiting your site and I am very pleased, I will tell all my friends. God bless you.
Outstanding! So much better to get advice from someone on the outside looking in. Thanks so much. You make lots of sense. Why should I make any decision. If it comes to that then I will cross that bridge when I get there. Things so often fall into place as they were meant to be. Thanks for all your help. You are certainly wise. Not so confused in Miami....:-)
Dear Texas-Grandpa, Thank you so much for your kind and honest reply. You are absolutely correct about the trust issues and right that I should end the marriage anyway, separate from my feelings for the other person. Your advice has been so helpful and I hope that I have the courage to end my marriage. I know you are right about taking time out for me and I will do that if I end the marriage. It is a hard thing to do, my marriage is comfortable and my husband is my friend but there are also serious problems. Thanks so much for your honesty and kindness you have no idea how helpful it has been to be able to talk this out and hear your advice.
As I read this reply I am speechless. I hardly scratched the surface in my email and your reply convinced me that you could read between the lines. I completely agree with this response and need to figure out why I can't let go. Time is wasting and I have so much love and kindness to give to someone. Perhaps the fact that my father passed away when I was 5 has contributed to my downfall. I remember waiting by the front door for him to return even after I was told he had gone to heaven. I thought if I had been "better" he would have come back to me. Such is the simplicity of a child. Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response. Perhaps you saved a life today, certainly a soul. Michele
I would like to say, thank you for giving me a direction. I was so lost in this mess of problems that I didn't bother to think of a way out of it. I know that only I can fix myself but I didn't know how or if i should in the first place. I will keep this as a checklist to improve myself and put some of these ideas into action. I now realize that I have to keep looking forward and that this is just the beginning. If these aren't my true friends then I'll use the experience to learn how to socialize. I have to keep my head up and not let my negative thoughts slow me down. I would like to thank you again for your help.
Thank you so much for your advice. I was very confused but your advice has helped me tremendously. You were 100% percent correct on all you said. What you do is great. I really appreciate the help you give me and many others.
Dear Annie, I really can't thank you enough...I can't believe how much you wrote and how much better I've been feeling. I'm sorry I can't write very much back, I'm very busy with school/scholarship work. I just wanted to say thank you so much for your time and effort.. I won't forget this letter. Sincerely, Will
Thank you very much for your advice, I not only found it very settling but helped me to curb my paranoia (admittedly). I actually at the end of your letter had a little chuckle to myself for being such a droll guy. You have seemed to hit the nail on the head and I will be heeding your advice. ".. but you will preserve the peace best by playing deaf as long as you can." Thank you again to help put my mind at ease, and my peace, love and joy be with you Aunt-Bella and all the Elders. ~Mark P.S. EWC is a fantastic web site, its great that people care enough to help others by offering an un-biased "3rd party" point of view and advice. I honestly felt my issue would be considered trivial (although to me it was not).
Thank you so much for your suggestions. You made me feel so much better and now I feel like I have a starting place. I think that was the hardest part, figuring out how to begin. All of this can be overwhelming. Thank you so much for your help. You have such a nice way about you that I found your email both very constructive and consoling. Take good care.
It seems to me that the Elders at EWC are ANGELS from heaven above trying to alleviate the pain that folks like me go through in this world.
Excellent advice! Of which I am following TO THE LETTER. Because you are absolutely right - in every way. Your reply has helped me understand this situation on a completely different level - and now I see! Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. I feel alot better now and agree with everything you suggested. If I'm ever faced with a tough quandary like this again in the future, I will definitely consult with you first! God bless and thank you again!
Hi Barbara-Ann Thank you for your valuable advice it is most appreciated. I will definitely be looking at the things you suggested. You have given me some ideas I would not have thought about. Thanks & Regards
Dear Elder Wisdom Circle, Thank you so very much for your suggestions. We'll try one, but not sure which one yet. I know we will be having quite interesting conversations over the next few weeks. This is such a sensitive subject especially during the Holidays. Your website is wonderful. It's comforting to know that you would take time and careful thought into a stranger's dilemma. Happy Holidays to you and yours. And again, we thank you for your time and great suggestions. Virginia & Tony
Dear Aunt-Bella Thank you so much for your truly thoughtful reply. I have read your response many times already. It is filled with such wisdom. I can't even express how I feel, because I'm still digesting it all and rolling it over and over in my mind. It's almost a blueprint or a map of where I need to go. Please don't stop giving your insights - you obviously have a gift. You definitely touched this strangers life. Thank You, Sandy
Thank you Rafiki. I had nobody else to talk to without bias. Your objectivity without judgement was appreciated. You helped more than you know.
This site is amazing it is so nice to have someone give advice just because they want to help. I will be telling all my family and friends about this site, I am so impressed with the response time. 10 out of 10 thank you so much x
Thank you for your advice, it is really helpful, I am so relieved. I thought maybe I didn't try hard enough or I was doing something wrong. I am so pleased by your email. I really felt understood because you even mentionned things that I didn't write in my email. I kept those things silent but you said it as you were here, living with him. I am greatful. Thank you again and may God bless your organisation.
PicklesMarie, You know what, you are right this advice isn't what I wanted to hear. BUT IT IS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!! and I appreciate it and it makes perfect sense. Thank you so much. It is nice to have advice from an outside source that doesn't know our family and hear an unbiased piece of advice. I really appreciate your feedback and help it means alot and I will take it to heart!!!!! Thanks so much Nichole
This is a follow-up email from advice sought over 3 years ago. If possible, please forward it to the elders who wrote to me. The careful and thoughtful responses you gave helped me to see the term through to the end. I wound up with a passing grade and less than $50. However, just knowing that I had other resources available, and that someone was thinking about me, was enough to keep me going. I got a job in my field that allowed me the time to work around my school schedule. I borrowed more money to pay for tuition, and the department gave me a small scholarship. The divorce was finalized within a year. One girl went to college, one girl went to work, one boy went on an exchange trip. The younger boys are still in Scouts. I met a Very Nice Man, with whom I have a tremendous friendship. And, I graduated this June with a degree in Chemistry. It was a long, hard time, and I kept going in part because of the caring words and real advice that I received here. A thousand thanks!
I'd like to thank Candy for her great, comforting feedback. It made me feel much better about the issue I asked for advice about. Because of her helpful advice, I will continue to use this website and recommend it to others. Thanks again, Sam
Oh thanks, this was extremely helpful, logical and encouraging advice! I really appreciate your response and I'll share your perspective with my son Izaak. It's kind of like having a wise grandmother to go to - and is very valuable to me as I don't have one of those. :) Thanks again so much
Thank you very much, Wise Elder. It's all in a nutshell for me now. I just needed to hear someone else tell me that Nothing is New, and to go on with my own life. Thanks for the reality check. I really needed that. Regards, Kathy
You are probably the most helpful out of ANYONE I have come to for help! You definitely know what you're doing. Thank you so much! I'm so glad I stumbled upon the EWC. You tapped right into my mind. I can't thank you enough! Love, Justine
Aondreaa, Thank you for your response. I am thankful you took the time to answer my questions and concerns. I agree with everything you have said. I feel I may have been blind to the simple things you stated. I do plan on pursuing further emotional assistance with a therapist. I am thankful exists. Thank you again.
A few years ago, I sent you a letter. I just wanted to say thanks for you honest straight forward response. He never changed or was willing to compromise. I am no longer with 'Mr. Me Me Me!' and now have am married to a wonder man who is all about 'we'. He and I were married on Valentines Day in Vegas! It was wonderful and I'm so grateful I heard you say what I knew - I needed to move on and I did. Thanks again. The new 'Mrs.'
Hello M-Sharon, Thank you kindly for your reply. You have given me some very useful advice. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said I might be suffering from depression - I will be seeing my doctor next week and will discuss it with her. I did have some counselling for depression in the past and it helped me for a while. I appreciate your help - you are amazing and what you are doing is so great. Regards, J
Dear Aunt-Molly (for you are dear to me), Since no one else in my life has the courage to speak "directly" as you did to me, I am grateful for your thoughtful response. I have gleaned several things from your letter, but the one that is sticking out in my mind as I go through my day is "We teach people how to treat us." I think that one thing will change my demeanor in just about every circumstance I encounter. When I meet someone really special, I treat them really special. I do feel more hopeful that my friendship will endure if I let it and if I'm a little more trusting. It is hard not to let the past determine the future, but seeing it in black and white makes it sound really second rate. Thank you so much for taking the time to make a difference in my life. Love, Sue
Thank you purple Finch! That was wonderful advice. Your right if I am contributing to the community I live in then this is good and also I should be open to experiences because this is what I need to learn from. From reading your advice I am going to explore some new ideas. Maybe I need to make the most of everything I have - not start again but build on what I have and am learning. Help is out there so I'm going to join some classes, appreciate my family and invest more in my community. When things are ready to move it should be a simple decision because it feels right. I still have loads to learn here it's my ego saying I need more. Thank you
Dear Aunt-Molly, I cannot thank you enough, yourself and all else of the Elder Circle. What a wonderful thing you all are doing here for others. As I read your response to my letter to you, I got choked up and felt tears welling up. You've made it so that I won't allow this very important moment to pass by. A letter full of feelings and good memories is exactly what I'll set to work on immediately upon sending this to you. I can't express enough gratitude to you for your advice. Truly, my heart feels so much lighter already. Love and thanks to you all, Anna
Thanks so much- I do feel less guilty now and the Elder's charming response had my husband doing a lot of nodding and saying, "See? I told you so!" We agree it isn't often he can say that so he's certainly happy : ) and I am too. I think I'll lose Patti's phone number. : )
Wow thank you so much. At first glance you are right. It's not what I want to hear but thinking about it now it makes complete sense. I've seen it, I mean since I sent that last letter I have laid off and things seem MUCH better. You guys are great, honestly, thank you so much.
Dear Aunt Molly- Thank you for your kind words and wisdom. I guess I forgot that this, like everything else we go through, is a phase. I just worry about the raised stakes, and the choices my daughter makes, which have long-lasting consequences. I really like the idea of finding something else to release her creative side. We're going to paint one wall in her room with chalkboard paint, so she can draw to her heart's content. If my parents were alive today, I think they would have said the same things you did. So I thank for for filling in for them. Your words gave me much comfort, and lots of things to think about. With love, Janet
It felt light after speaking my heart out and i felt even lighter after reading your reply.Thank you for your reply.
The advice you have given me was a tremendous help. I wish I could siphon all your many, many years of combined wisdom into my daughter's head. You, Carolina Friends, have very practical, sound knowledge. I thank you so much. I have already practiced some of what you have advised me. It is working. Have a wonderful day. Ann
Hello Thank you SO much for your help!! I've tried alot of other advice websites and stuff but none of them helped! I love how you show that you really do care about me and my situation and problems and it seems like you put alot of effort in writing back to me with your best advice!! Your advice worked great! He still does have self esteem problems but we're still good friends and we're working on those problems together! He does still love me alot but I told him that he should just be greatful and happy that we're still friends and that I'm still in his life and that I still do care about him but, like you said, more like a brother! Again, Thank you so much!
I want to say thank you to the elder for sharing his perspective and words of wisdom. I received his reply several weeks ago and have gone back to re-read it several times. I am sure I will continue to refer to it in future weeks/years as this is an ongoing situation that my family is dealing with. It was truly helpful to get feedback from someone who was not directly tied to this situation because they presented an unbiased view. Thank you so much, Elder Wisdom Circle, for offering this invaluable service. For those of us who cannot afford professional counseling, it is a Godsend.
Hello Dawn, Thank you very much for your advise. I tried a few of them already. I will give a try to the ones I have not done yet. Thank you very much and keep me in your prayers. I will keep all of you in my prayers for the wonderful job you are doing. We, young people (I am not sure if I still fit the category) need advise from mature and experience people like you. Again, Thank you
Thank you for the advice. That really did help me. Im glad I asked you because everything seems to ease up. You know, like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Thank you, once again/ ~Breanna
Hello - thank you for this most helpful and quickly answered 'advice'. You have offered many suggestions, and I do know you are right. There are no other boy cousins, except one age 1 1/2. You've given me 'food for thought', and we still have the better part of the summer to work this out. Thank you so much again. It's been a pleasure hearing back so quickly and w/such an in-depth explanation. God Bless you. Sincerely, Carol
Thank you so much! A lightness came over me when I read your advice. I think I needed permission to play. Thanks very much.
Once again, thank you Web for your sage advice....I wish I could carry you around in my purse and consult with you when I have a bad day! Arlene
Dear Dawn, Thank you so MUCH for responding on the holiday!!!! Your advice sounds like something I can do. Yes, I will print off all of it. God bless you for your encouragement and empathy. It means a lot when a person is discouraged. And, yes, I do need a physical. Seems like I feel worn out all the time. I felt like walking for one mile today, for the first time in weeks. Blessings and every good wish to you!!!! Sincerely, joyce
Hi Ruthie; Thanks for the reply. Since I did just get out of the hospital, I am not supposed to be out there messing around with my garden, but you just cannot hold back when you love your garden. My husband put a chair there for me to sit with some sheers, and I cut the old blooms off. As a matter of fact, I already saw new blooms coming. I realized at that point, that that's what I saw in the spring, and so I knew the tall stalk with a few flowers on the top were already spent. I was glad to get your email to help me decide what to do. Thank you! By the way, I live in IL, so hopefully I will get another couple blooms. I remember having flowers most of the year last year. Thank you too for your kind words about my surgery. I will get my daughter to put more Miracle Grow on the flowers. Thanks again! June
Dear Hedwig, I just wanted to say thanks. I asked your advice a few months ago and this is what you sent me. I followed it, not exactly as closely as I should have, but nonetheless I distanced myself. Occasionally Sxxxx texts me when he's drunk (I ignore those), but other than that I have little to no problems with him. Even though I am now dating a close friend of his brother's. All in all, thank you for your advice. Thank you for listening to me. And thank you for helping. An unbiased opinion is often all anyone needs to realize the reality of a situation. So thanks. -Annie
I am writing to thank the elder(Web)that answered my question. Often common sense isn't easy to come by when you're down. Reading the elder advice always cheers me up, and my elder's proved no exception. So, thank you a million times, my elder. Thank you for your patience and your wisdom. Claudette
Dear Emme, Thank you for all your help and support. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't let this out to anyone. I will take all your advice and try my best to get throught this. Thank you( x 1 000 000 )
I am so thankful that I had found your site. I am facing the world on my shoulders and I had no one to talk too and no where to turn. It gives me hope to see that there are people out there with time and experience that will offer advice to those that are lost IE me. I made a foolish mistake with a girl and I am still paying for it now. I left her for a job and she found someone else. I told her how I felt and she said she has no feelings for me. But from the advice the elders have given others there is nothing I can do and I must do what I never wanted too and " move on " I thank you and I hope this site stays up forever it has help keep me in balance that there is someone there that I can talk too. Sincerely, Michael
Dear Kay Kay Thanks for responding. It is very relieving to hear from someone who has felt as I do. I think I'll take a page out of your book, & talk it out about the wedding, it can surely wait an year. What you say is true. Once I go offtrack, it will take uncertain amount of time to rediscover myself. That is what was gnawing me, but I was not able put my finger on it. Many Thanks.
Hi there. I just want to say thank you so much for your help. it really helped me sort out alot of the things going on in my head. i think sometimes its good to have an outside opinion as u get stuck and only see a small picture of events happening around you. everything u said made alot of sense to me, and it really helped to have someone not involved in some way with one thing or another to speak to. yours sincerely G
Dear Aunt Bella, Thanks so much for your beautiful letter. It made me cry. It's so nice to hear from an impartial, experienced person. I don't know why I feel that I have to "save" people but I do have a history of getting into relationships with less than healthy people and hanging on for dear life. I think you hit the nail on the head. I couldn't save him from his own fears even if I devoted myself to it 27/7 and it's such a "set-up" for pain in the future. I also loved the "you can't get enough of what you really don't want." That describes me to a "T." Perhaps it's time to start going to al-anon! And I do grind my teeth! You knew! And I have for years!!! I even have one of those plastic things that you have to sleep with. Of course I don't wear it. I think I can control that too, I guess! Anyway, thanks from the bottom of my heart. You have much compassion and you are not at all judgmental. Best wishes....D
Elder Web, Merci beaucoup, for your advice and kind encouragement. You are smart enough to have lived to be elder, and I can tell from how you write that you make the best of every day. It is a beautiful Saturday here in Ohio and I have been listening to my eight-year-old practice the piano. I will think of you as I hug my two girls and my husband tonight. I will make a donation to the Elder Wisdom Circle. Thanks again.
Dear Aunt-Bella, I just wanted to thank you for taking the time in writing me back and helping me understand some things. No one has ever made me see things as clear as you did, and for that I want to thank you. When you said you have seen a lot of life from others and yourself, you were sure right, and I dont think any other person could of said it any better. Thank you and I will definately try to take these things into consideration, I was actually thinking of talking to the pastor while I sat in church today, so thank you so very much for your kind and intelligent words of wisdom. God Bless you Aunt-Bella!!! Sincerely, A
Thank you for the reply. A comment for the Elder who responded God blesss you. I really appreciate it and I will make a donation.
Thank you so much for you advice, Elder Web! It means a lot to me, and even made me shed a tear because I don't really have a grandparent figure in my life-- both my grandpa's have passed away, my dad's mom suffered a stroke a couple years ago and she has never been the same since, and my other grandmother is still overcome by grief from her husband's death (so much so that she would rather talk about how lonely she is rather than my personal life). In any case, alive or not, they are all overseas, so I see them maybe once every two years. Although I am almost fluent in my mother language, and understand by and large all words, it is sometimes hard to communicate with my grandparents on the phone because terms are often hard to recall when I barely use them in my life. So thank you for your thorough response! You don't have to reply to this but I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated your e-mail. EWC is truly a Godsend! P.S. I'll let you know how things go :)
JanLynn, I want to thank you for your replies to my messages with your honesty and wise words. It has helped me a a lot. Regards to your first reply to my message, I appreciate your honesty and it helped me to see what happen and what is important as some can lose sight when going through something like this and after reading your message I have a better understanding and I respect and appreciate your help. Thank you very much JanLynn : ) Have a wonderful day!
I would like to say thank you for helping me because I forgot to say thanks in my recent advice request. I would like to donate when I am older because my parents will not allow me. I hope this website stays alive and I wish you all good luck in your own lives.
Aunt-Molly, Thanks so much for the advice. I've printed out your response and I'm very excited to share it with my boyfriend. It seems like today's generation fails to see the importance of "asking our elders". You have truly made a difference and it's greatly appreciated. Sincerely,
Hello, Thank you so much for the insightful response . Following your advise and a few days of my own thinking , I opted to tell the guy involved that I will no longer go out on dates with him. His overall lack of communication was apparent but, the passive aggressive possible issue came into my mind too and I'd rather not find myself in a dysfunctional relationship.. Better safe than sorry and I'll cut my losses at this early stage. Thanks again and you all do such wonderful work, much appreciated. Best wishes from sunny Helsinki, Finland. M.
Wow! Thank you so much! As it were, today I followed your advice and "Joe" went to a local coffee shop with me. I love Elder Wisdom Circle and I appreciate the advice. KUDOS, KUDOS, KUDOS!
I rave about this service every chance I get. Thank you so much. God help me be as strong as I need to be. All my love, Aija
Hey Barbara, Thank you so much for your advice. Your letter was warm and made my decission even more strong not to quit this job. After all only I have to go through the pain and no one else. I will strongly follow the "the work for myself" bit. Thank You again
Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful and i totally appreciate the fact that you took the time to write it. I have taken your advice on board and will act on the guidance given. Thank you so much
Thank You so much JanLynn your advice- rather words of wisdom - are truly inspiring to me. I have been really down lately and this was kind of a pick me up and a kick in the pants to really let go and stop dealing with it. Thank you again.
This is so helpful and insightful, I never thought about what you said! Teachers always just seem like they're upstanding, but I completely forgot about the ones that really aren't. Thank you so much, I'm going to talk to my parents about it. :)
Dear Elders and John G, Thanks for your kind and prompt reply. It is true, perhaps I am involving myself too much, and while I can be loving and warm, it is really up to the parent. I won't be helping either party by overdoing it. Best wishes,
Once again, thank you so much! You know, I was angry for so long, I mean I couldn't even yell at him or tell him how much it hurt me. I didn't have a best friend to turn to to complain about the situation because he WAS the best friend. But I'm becoming closer with my other friends and just learning you can't always trust everyone. THANKS AGAIN <3 :)
I would like to thank Hedwig for her advice. I visit ElderWisdomCircle when I don't know where to turn and found them to be prompt and caring with their answers. I had previously purchased the book from ElderWisdomCircle and will make a donation for this wonderful organization. Thank you again, Hedwig. The most important thing is that Chris sees his family after so many years.
Dear Elder Circle: Thanks so much for this advice. I feel much better. If I speak to a friend, they would spread it around or make fun of me. With Elder Circle I have privacy and confidentiality as well as true wisdom, not just the next person's opinion.
Thank you so much for the quick reply. Although I realized that I already knew the answer in my heart, I was refreshed to hear it from an unbiased party. I know I have a tough decision ahead of me. Now I just need to take the first step. Thank you very much for your kind and encouraging words. All the Best, Jennifer
Hello Ruthie, I wanted to thank you for the sweet and supportive reply you gave me. It's nice to read such an encouraging piece of advice :) Thank you again! Annalina
Thank you, Your advice is really wonderful to me and I would rather hear the honest truth, since I just can't do it myself. I do think I need to leave him, which is what I am going to do. Thank you so much.
BG Thank you for your time and effort in helping me understand better what I have heard from my counselor and other friends as well as my mom. I can hear her words about getting busy and getting on and repairing my relationships with my kids. I have a lot of growing to do and plenty of time to learn. Your words come from your heart and I appreciate them so much. Thank you for your advice.
To All Elders: Thank you , I can't tell you how much I appreciate your advice and how much it has helped me, sometimes all you need is someone to listen and the replies are always well thought out and not just oh ur doing fine, I can't thank you enough but here is my Thanks!
Elder Web, Thank you so much for your reply. I knew someone would reply, but honestly I expected a few sentences. I really appreciate the time you took to write back and share your advice and your life with me. Your letter made me realize I really have been looking at this from a funny perspective. This three-month relationship seems like forever to me, because it is the first time I've ever had a three-month anything! But it is tiny in the scheme of things. Thank you so much for your reply. Your advice basically gave me 'permission' to do what I thought I should do anyway, and on top of it you backed it up with some experience of your own. Next time I'll know to trust the little voice inside. Thank you again, Stephen
Thank you for the advice! I just want to tell the Elder Wisdom Circle thank you. What you guys are doing is selfless and wonderful. You all are a wonderful blessing and I appreciate greatly what you are doing for other people. It's nice to have another perspective on my problems from people who are wiser than I am. God Bless and take care. -Karli
Elder JanLynn, thank-you so much for your advice. It resonated so deeply, that I made the decision there and then. The burden of stress and anxiety has been lifted from me. I leapt out of bed this morning! God bless you, Francesca, in the UK.
Elder Michelle, Firstly i would like to thank u so much for everything. I cannot understand why your organization won't get some kind of funding because it has really helped me in my time of need. When i felt that i could not speak to anybody else about my problems your advise really helped me through my pain. From the bottom of my heart i would like to sincerely thank u so very much. Its hard to find genuine people out there not asking for money and because of that i will definately donate to the EWC because you guys deserve a lot more. I will try my hardest to put the advise i was given in my head, its just going to be very hard.. The way Elder Michelle put it to me was in a perfecte way, even giving me a perfect example. I strongly believe u guys do a better job than paid professionals! Thank u so much and i will definately be in touch soon. Jess
I have used this service maybe 3 times and I just want to tell you all that you guys are amazing! Your generosity is priceless and the fact that you are doing this out of the kindness of your heart is incredible. Thank you.
I would just like to thank you very much for your advice, it was very, very helpful! I appreciate that you think I have made a good decision . You pinpointed my exact reasons for dropping out & gave me just the advice I needed, that I believe will get me through. After reading your answer I've decided to contact a counselour before hand & inform the bootcamp about my anxiety issues/ homesickness . I just wanted to let you know how very helpful you were & how I am very grateful. Thanks again, & God bless you. With much relief, Meaghan
Elder Dawn,Thank you so much. I am not positive what I'll do from here just yet, but having your insight is really helpful. Often when looking to a peer for help, it's hard to find someone who will not only listen, but will respond with wise intuition. Your wisdom that comes along with age and experience is something I truly respect and admire. Your response was not only helpful in content, but structured without any offensive assertions. Thank you for your time and help. I really appreciate it.Melissa
Thank you for having the same Elder respond again I just want to thank you for the thoughtful response. It may seem like a small thing, but your responses really helped me put things in perspective and actually confirmed some of my inner thoughts. This is a great service that you offer. I am sending a very personal kudo and sincere thanks to the Elder who answered me both times. I also wish you much happiness.
Thank you, Elder Candy. Three of four siblings are in agreement with your advice! Thanks again for your kind wisdom. I am very impressed with this service. I love the idea of bouncing things off of others and what a neat program this is for all concerned! I will be making a contribution!
Uncle-Tony, Thank you so much for your reply. This has confirmed my latest feelings about my situation and I guess this has given me a bit more confidence in telling these two boys my plan. Each time I use EWC I get great responses. I'm very glad that I found this as a resource and hope that it will continue to grow and help people. Sincerely, Rayna
Barbara, Thank you so much for your response. Your understanding and advice was perfect. I haven't got back with my ex, but we are back in contact and on good terms. Your thoughts were true. Because of what you said, I was able to understand how she was feeling and contact her with a clear head. I have also started to look at myself and my own problems. I don't know how things will end up, but since I read your email, I have been a much happier person. I am replying to your email to let you know what a huge difference you have made. There are very few people out there like you, so I would like to say a big thank you. Its hard to show the impact of what you said in an email. After your advice, I saw my ex a couple of days ago. At first, it was very awkward. And horrible seeing a good friend look so uncomfortable. But with your advice in my head, we talked and I saw a huge smile on her face appear. You made someone happy. Thank you. Regards, Kevin.
Hello, Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it, and will take your advice, and stay here so my children do not have to move again. Your advice means so much to me at just the right time. Noone here ever talks this blunt and straight to me, and I really appreciate it. My sincere gratitude, love and blessings to gpa-and-gma. hugs too!
Thank you for a beautiful and well written response to my question. It made me cry and smile. Sometimes I feel so alien and your advice made me feel normal and ok. God Bless You and Thank You from the bottom of my heart, Joe
Dear Michelle, I just wanted to write to you and say THANK YOU! The advice that you gave me was truly helpful. It's like you really sensed/understood what I was (still am) going through and it so touched me that I cried. I will take your advice and focus on centering myself, not make any serious financial decisions now, do my utmost in forgetting the past and will try to live in the now and take joy from everything I can. Once again I truly appreciate the advice given and I thank you so very much! Fatima
Dear Elder Jacobus, I would like to thank you for the very helpful advice. I have come to this site once before and I can't help but tell my friends and family how nice is it to have someone to talk to that is able to see the situation from a different perspective. The advice and time you've taken out of your day is truly appreciated. Once again, thank you for your time and truly helpful advice. I am beginning to see the situation more clearly and I know that this all had to happen for a reason. I hope that you are having a nice day and I really do appreciate your advice. Thank you, Mallory
I was surprised to read your advice to follow my instincts and re-read my own email. But I did. Wow! What a shock! All the answers were there. It was so clear that I didn't want to go through with this and that there were so many problems already. I realized I knew what I needed to do and I had been ignoring my gut for a long, long time. This was a good lesson in trusting myself and knowing what's best for me. Since this email last week, I have started counseling, I broke up with my boyfriend (who seemed more upset that I wasn't going to take care of him anymore than that we were ending a relationship) and I'm feeling really strong and am listening to myself much more. Thank you.
Dear Web, Thank you so much for your very thoughtful advice. Growing up I never had grandparents to turn to for advice so I really appreciate the wisdom and experience that you bring. My sister and I have a great relationship and I'm trying to get the courage to call her and try to mend the situation. One thing that you said that stood out was "a reprimand is not a punishment." Maybe I could mention this to my sister and hope that this advice could help her. Again, thank you so much for all your help! Best regards, Rowena
Wow Michelle!!! I didn't expect this response. I would like to thank you for your time and wise advice... I expected "wake up and smell the coffee"... Give love a chance... Brilliant advice. You are right he has had a rough life and I do love him. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
Wow! That's really awesome! Your info is a BIG help! I'm so glad I used this service! I will recommend it to others and make a donation!
Thank you sssoooooo much, your response made me cry. I was double guessing myself and running everything back through my mind. I feel so much better now. You don't need to respond - you said it all - :o)........................and as a side note, my Husband agrees with me. He's not happy with the situation but believes that we didn't do anything wrong. PS....and you are right - I am blessed with really cool folks who are just the best!!!
I have got the best response from my question about my boyfriends issues with marriage. you have helped me so much just by simply opening my eyes. you are the best for taking time to not only help me but to use your wisdom and knowlege to help others too. many thanks, elizabeth
I want to say think you to the group of Elders who replied to me. Although it is in the depths of my email inbox buried under college emails and facebook notifications, that advice has stuck with me. I was having issues with two men who were dear to me and I finally listened to what you told me and am incredibly happy. Thank you.
Thank you a million times Shekinah! I am completely ready to do what i have to and i feel better knowing that you have come out the same situation happier knowing it was the right choice. I believe we should always trust our gut intincts and i thank you for giving me the nudge ;-) I love this site and the whole selfless attitude it promotes. For this i will be making a donation as soon as i get my wages!! Tahara
Dear Wisdom Circle; This response more than answered my inquiry, it touched my heart with deep and honorable truth, thank you, my donation is on the way. Marsha
Elder, I literally cried when I read your advice. You see , everyone is afraid to tell me what you just did and what I so needed to hear even though I have ask and ask for advice from everyone. You were right on the money on this one. I appreciate your advice and will most assuredly take it and smile while doing so. You have taken a great weight off of my mind and a lift off of my shoulders. I feel so much better. This service is wonderful. Thank you so much for being my sounding board. I hope you have as great a success in giving advice to others as you have to me. Thank you for the uplift, No more used , abused and confused Now: Unused, wont be abused and very amused ! I will be able to say NO !
WOW. Your response literally brought tears to my eyes. It was a huge comfort to know that you and your son have both served for our country, and I have the utmost respect for the both of you. After reading your response, I feel much more at ease with what's going on in my world. Thank you sooooo very much, and it's nice to actually get an unbiased opinion. :D
Elder Terry, What terrific advice. My wife and I will remain in contact . As it turns out his wife doesn't know he spoke to m and I turn with my wife. I will have to let him break the news to her that my wife and I know that something is up. What a great service this is. Thanks Dave
I want to thank Helen for responding to my email. It always helps to hear what we "think" might be true or things we forget when we are in the thick of it. I'm going to save Helen's response and print it out to read when I'm feeling down at work or shakey about my choices. I love this service! There's lots of us out here who either come from families too dysfunctional to be of much help, or in some cases, those who don't have family. Thank you again. It was just what I needed to hear, honestly. :)amber
Dear Buttercup, What a lovely and thoughtful response! I really enjoyed reading your email. You seem like a soulful lady who has enjoyed much richness in life. Good for you!! And thank you for being so willing to take the time to share your thoughts. I spent a lot of time alone this weekend and it felt great! I agree that many people can enjoy a lifetime with various people and that there is not one "soul mate" for every person. I certainly enjoy this guy and want to keep exploring our possibilities as a couple. Thank you so much again. It sounds like you are not at a loss for enjoying your own free time or finding ways to enrich the lives of others! Your kindness is much appreciated. Your new friend, Jennifer
Dear Elder Oliver, Thank you for the advice. When I read that what I needed was emotional support my worries calmed and an AHA! moment arrived. That is exacly what I needed I had just been to worried to accept it. Just reading that someone else believed that was what I needed, in some sense gave me emotional support. THANKYOU SO MUCH I feel like I just regained my strengh the same kind of strengh that a hug offers. This site is a blessing.
Dear CHR, Thank you so much for responding with such positivity. I felt better the moment I read your reply. I actually had not looked at the situation that way or thought that perhaps it was in my best interest that the relationship ended with minimal damage. The idea of someone somewhere who takes time to understand is really wonderful. Thanks again and know that you made a difference in my perspective. Brooke
Dear Candy, your kind words after putting my beloved cat "to sleep" were of great comfort to me. It was very difficult and I needed to hear what you had to say. It still hurts, but I am so grateful for you... and all the elders. What a kind and loving world I live in! Thanks again! Kathey
Dear John-G. You are absolutely right. I know what I have to do I'm just putting it off. I praise you all for the service you provide. It is kindness on another level that you will give up your time to help complete strangers with their problems. It's a real help knowing you are there. Kindest regards Emily
Dear Buttercup, Thank you SO MUCH for your advice!!!!! (#125736) I tried what you said and talked to my mom about it. She said that she was sorry and that she would try harder. she didn't even raise her voice! I am SO EXTREMELY grateful to you. Oh, and by the way, I had a sleepover the other night...and YIKES! I'm glad that my mom is mine. thanks again!! Brooke
Dear Helping-Hearts Thank you so much for being there in my trying times. I just wanted to share the good news with you that all issues have been resolved and we are 1 happy family again. The guy looks extremely remorseful and I guess deserves 1 more chance. Though I've decided to keep an eye on his internet activities on regular basis. Thank you once again for all the support advice offered. Regards Jyoti
Hi Elder Jacobus... You responded to a letter of mine about my decisions concerning a new and first relationship... I felt so grateful for your advice, and it made me feel more connected and hopeful in humanity. I hope you can understand how much I appreciate your time and effort, and I hope that I can talk to you again and ask for your beyond caring advice in the future. Thank you so much again, I had nowhere else to turn, and I think in my own way I found a guardian Angel that I never used to believe in. Best wishes, and take care always. Ashlee
Thank you for taking the time to consider and respond to my dilemma. Work related events in recent months had taken a greater toll than I had fully realised making it difficult for me to consider my immediate career options clearly and unemotionally. In the time between sending my question and receiving your reply, I decided to take a proactive step and visit my (potential) new employer at his worksite. It was well worth the four hour round trip. I was most impressed and heartened by what I saw. The new organisation is keener than ever, now, to have me on board. I know that I can accept their offer on my own terms and for a duration convenient to me. I am deeply grateful for your assistance and somewhat relieved that we reached the same conclusion. I have yet to sign a contract, but negotiations are underway as are plans for my own enterprise. Warmest wishes, Renata
Dear Elder Wisdom (PicklesMarie) It has been nearly a year since you offerred me this excellent advice. I followed your recommendation and the response by my wife was overwhelmingly positive. I know it has taken a long time for me to reply, but I wanted you to know that I appreciated your advice, and my wife is even more beautiful than ever - hairdo and all. Thank you Bill D.
I received a reply from Elder John G. re: letter 123233. I want to say thank you. The advice and insight were very helpful. Deep down, I know the matter at hand is with me and is something I need to work on. Elder John validated this. The additional information about the loss of a relationship is spot on. I grew up with this other person so, in a way, I feel like I've lost him. This has now become a chapter in my life I must close and move on.
Tell-Tom, Your advice was really on point! Thank you so, so much :) It's Monday and I've already sought out help from various shelters. A few have denied me as they have no space for a new born but I've atleast begun the process. This is a hurtful situation for me in every way but I'm on the road to safety and security. I truly appreciate your firm words and direction. I knew the right thing to do already but needed confirmation. Keep up the good work and God bless you. The Elder Wisdom Circle is surely appreciated. Takeya
KayKay Thank you so much for your advice! I think everything has been straightened out and I owe it all to you. =)
Elder Web, I wanted to tell you how much your recent reply helped me! First, thank you for your insight and advice that was exactly on target! And the last part!! I really liked that you said 'If you wish, let me know how things are going.' That small statement made me feel like I mattered even to a stranger. I am starting to put my plans in action and taking my life back. I have discussed my problem/plans with my sons,they are ready to move my things to safe storage on a days notice. I would like to let you know how it is progressing from time to time if that's still o.k. ?? You have been an amazing amount of help to me! You are very good at this! I am glad I found this site!
Dear Aunt Molly: When I first read your response to me, I wished so much that I could know you. But then I realized that I do know you and always have. You are the essence of love, caring and compassion that we all carry within us. I do know you, even though I sometimes forget I do. Thank you so much for your response. You asked if I had "ever shed those tears?" After reading your response to me, indeed I did release a lot of hurt and emotions that, like you suspected, were bottled up inside of me. I will save your message to me forever. Thank you so much for your understanding and for sharing your wisdom with me. I lost my Mom about 4 years ago to a nasty bout of cancer and I've felt a deep void since. But now I have an Aunt Molly. Thank you for being there for me! With aloha, Eric
I want to thank Aondreaa for the wonderful advice. Her response was comforting, insightful and caring. She helped me a great deal. After reading her response I felt immediately better about my situation. I would definitely recommend Elder Wisdom Circle to my friends. Thank you so much EWC and Aondreaa.
Thankyou to Dawn for your prompt advice. I didn't answer right away, as I tried everything you suggested. I was really stuck for awhile. I am pacing myself a little more and I am definitely not as tearful. This service is so great-helps you get a prospective that is confidential and heartfelt and sincere--just what you need in a crisis. Thankyou so much Dawn. Sincerely Donna.
THANK YOU....this morning was an unprecedented low point in my life of late and this response was just wonderful to come to work to. I will take all your advise to heart and I will indeed keep you up to date on how I'm doing. Thank you again and God bless you as you have blessed me! Karen
Cheche-your letter touched my heart.To have someone call me awesome is especially encouraging I am going to takeyour advice and when my thrift shop dream is a reality I am going to make a generous donation! Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my letter and I will keep in touch. With much gratitude Tonia
I wanted to thank KayKay for her excellent advice to my dilemna. She gave me advice from a personal as well as professional objective and it was just what I needed. The included poem was so truthful and thoughtful, I forwarded it to all of my friends and family. KayKay gave me the stregnth to raise my head up, take care of my son, and move on with my life. Thank you.
Gpa-and-Gma Thank you for your advice with regard to mending a long time friendship. From the few people I sought advice from, you were the only ones who told me that I was wrong and that I needed to take the first step to mend my friendship. I am glad I listened to you, as my friend and I are again on speaking terms, and I think we both learned a lot from this experience. Again, a heartfelt thank you. Darcel
I wanted to say thank you to your site and especially to Cheche. Insight and understanding from someone who has "been there, done that" helped me to stop feeling so sorry for myself and realize that I am not alone and can reach out for support and receive it. Thank you for being there for people who just need someone to relate to. Many thanx, Tarra
Many thanks for your advice Dawn you truly are a wise lady. I have now made plans to take my son on a short holiday in the summer just the two of us, as you so rightly said he will be gone soon enough, its takes someone else to put things into perspective for you doesn't it? With kind regards Angela
I would like to say thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it. It was really comforting and helpful. Want you to know, I decided Im going to move and have a life, and one day a REAL love with a real person. Once again, thank you so much :-) Cyn
Dear Kate, Thank you for the advice! It really helped me a lot :) Now, whenever I worry about my life remember what you said. Thanks!
I'd just like to say Thank You so much to you all for doing such wonderful work you're all angels! You all should be so proud and give your selfs a giant pat on your backs for helping so many people in need! I'm so greatful to PicklesMarie responded so quickly to my email and what great advice she gave me. From the bottom of my heart thank you sweeti and bless you. I would love to give you a big hug right now!!! Hope to speak with you again soon! Love Linda
Thank you for answering back so quick. Your advice sure cut deep but it's o.k. I wanted and needed the truth. Yes, you are right....we all make choices. But sometimes the choices are not always the "right" choices. Like with my decicision to start smoking at age 16. And with my daughter's decicision to marry this man. As for her being happy.....she says she is but her actions do not prove it. She is depressed most of the time and her demenor shows it. But I will stay out of the rift between my 2 daughters. I guess I knew this all along, I just needed to have an unbiased person to say it. Thank you once again from the bottom of my heart.
Elder Web, I can not thank you enough for your help. There is great comfort in the experienced guidance of those who are my senior. Having recently lost my Dad, it was extra special to me to hear advice from an elder male on the issue I am facing. It was like receiving a gift wrapped in wisdom. I feel relieved and better able to do the right thing now that I have heard from someone who has clearly given careful thought and insight to some of lifes bumps in the road. Thank you for providing a gentle sense of direction for me. I will forever be grateful and hope I can grow into earning a place in the special circle of sages one day. (Insert smile here). Thank you so much Web! Deb
THANK YOU sooo much. I'm so surprised at how much thought you put into your response and I couldn't agree more with you. I loved your insight and it is nice to get someone's opinion that doesn't know me inside and out. I'll admit I'm still confused about some things, but I definitely agree that I wouldn't be good for anyone ... I've been telling my best friend this for a couple of years - You probably already guessed that something happened in my past that has made me Overly concerned about MOI (me). I think that since I'm comfortable being alone, I'm just going to stay that way. Again, I am so amazed at the effort you put in this, you are truly a good soul. Take care, and thanks again. Cindy
This is the best advice i've got on this site thx so much i feel loads better. thanks so much
Thank you what a great service you guys are wonderful. Great Advice! Every best wish. Hope you are all able to prosper from this wonderful service you give the world.
Thank you so much!!! it really helped me out alot especially the part that says that i am still president of my class and varsity basketball starter! Thank You so so so much....i just wanted you to know that I hope you will be truly blessed because of your effort to help others! Thanks again, Brooklyn
I feel so fortunate to have found this amazing resource! I sent in my request not really knowing what to expect. I discovered a reply which was compassionate, intelligent and soothing. Now I can come back down to earth and live my life on a more real level and toss away the superficial luggage I was carrying around. Thank you!
I have an unusual problem and didn't know what to expect from your site. Kenti's answer came just when I needed it, and she helped clarify my mind. If she is an example of the quality people you all are, this site is a treasure. God bless you all. James
I would just like to thank you Texas-Grandpa for your advice. It seems so simple to understand my situation now somebody has offered an unbiased opinion. The advise given was so hepful, I don't know how to thank you (except to make a donation of course...which I am going to do!) I shall also be recommending your service. Thank you again...I am extremey grateful for your help.
Elder Web, I'm not quite sure what to say except ive never had such amazing feedback from someone i have never met. the advice i received was spot on and i have ALOT to think about in the next few days. i just want to say thank you so much for your kind yet eye opening response. god bless! -kate
Hello Tell-Tom, Thank you for your prompt reply. It is good hear from someone who has had a personal experience that is so similar. God Bless you for your support. I especially liked your term " defiantly independant but lacking in judgement". That hits the nail on the head. I will re -read your reply when I feel overwhelmed. Thank you, Linda
Thank u so much for your advice, it is down to earth and made a lot of sense. Thank you for not judging me :). He has made effort and I probably overreacted, but your advice put a lot of things in perspective for me. Thank you ,Elder Dawn! This is a wonderful website!!!
YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!! You've given some of the best advice on relationships.It has helped me alot! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
Thanks again for all of your help for my needs of advice. I was never any good at solving problems by myself. Having the elder circle makes me feel like I have more options and a better chance at making the right choices in life. Thank you all so much.
Elder Barbara, Thank you so much for your heart felt and thoughtful advice. I felt so much better after reading your response, almost like I wasn't so alone in this world. I like to inform you that I did find a better job, paying and otherwise, and that I am working on healing the "me" inside. I am working on standing up for myself. It is hard work, but it is nice to know that you were able to do so in your life. That gives me hope for my future. I will inform everyone I know about your wonderful service. Thank you Thank you thank you, and may you be surrounded by blessings and joy. Nicole :)
I just want to thank you PicklesMarie for the advice you gave me about one year plus ago. I'm not sure if you can remember now. I talked about an exam that I took which I did not succeed at initially and this gave me problems. I felt I had failed in life. But you advised me on how to cope and that helped a lot. I want you to know that when I re-took the test that December, I passed with just a little itch and now I'm progressing with my studies. I also want you to know that I'm now experiencing a better quality of life much of which is because I learned from my mistakes as you advised and I also discovered a lot about myself through that trying period of anguish, pain and depression. Maybe if you try and look back, you'll remember me. Thank you very much once again for all the help.
I wanted to thank you for assisting me through an intense personal struggle. It was really great to have someone neutral to listen and be there to help through a difficult situation. I really appreciate that Elder BG shared their heart and soul at my time of most need. Thank you Thank you Thank you...
When times were especially tough I wrote you a letter. Someone gave me some very good advice (I can't remember who). My wife and I are happy now and we are living a beautiful small town with a new job. Thanks! jim
Thank you so much for the advice! It really helps to have someone (or many people) who have had a lot of life experiences to offer advice and wisdom. Thank you for your help, keep doing what you are doing because it's so nice to have someone to talk to. You guys have helped me though some really difficult decisions and tough times. It's people like you who make our lives better and help us get through those tight situations. Thank you, I really can't say enough. I know I will probably have difficult times in the future; it's comforting to know that there is a community out there of people who care, who offer advice to better the lives of those who are a little misguided.
Advice from this website has now helped me get through two of the toughest situations I've ever had to face. Thank you to whoever started this group, and to the elders for their help!
Here I am a year later and I am happier than I have ever been! I knew in my heart the information that you suggested, however I needed to hear it from someone else since I was so insecure in my own decision making abilities. I am happier than I have ever been and I wanted to say thank you. Thank you again, Charlotte
Comments: I just wanted to take a little time out to let you know that I think this web site is great! It's so nice to know that it's available and please keep up the good work. Your advice to others is just wonderful! No BS just straight to the point, common sense!! I myself am in my early thirties and still wet behind the ears. I am glad this is available to all of us who need a little advice from our elders from time to time. Sincerely, Nakia
Having lost my grandparents on both sides, finding your website was a dream come true. I appreciate the advice from people who have been there and pray that you will continue dispensing wisdom to people like me for years to come! Thank you so much for being here.
You guys are amazing! I am a sixteen year old girl and a highschool senior. This website is a lifesaver, even for someone at my age. It's just wonderful to have these amazing people who are always there to litsen and share there wisdom. YOU GUYS ARE AMAZING
OMG thanks you so much, this is best best advice anyone has given me on this subject. I think i got it from here =. thanks you for all your help Britt
I would like to recommend this site to others who are struggling. So many of us either don't have someone to confide in, or someone that can look at the situation from an outsiders perspective. I know that your organization is there for me and people like me, who need sage words of advice and maybe a wake-up call. You are appreciated. Thank you, Melissa
Thank you for the advice you's have given. Truely i find it invaluable. I will spread the word of the elders. Again thank you iv allways known the way of the youth is through the wisdom of elders, please continue to grow as our society is in desperate need of work such as you are doing. Anything I can do to help i shall peace and thanks Dan
What a wonderful resource you provide, especially to those of us who don't have grandparents to turn to. Your experience and wisdom has been very valuable to me. Thank you so much.
Dear Ones; I want to thank the elder that responded to my letter. The response was gentle and thought provoking. I think I knew all along that this relationship would not end in a committment to a life together. Last night I gave my friend a decision to make: He could get a divorce and continue in this relationship or not get a divorce and end it. He was very hurt and has tried to make me feel guilty for "ending it this way". I don't feel guilty, I feel like a deserve better from a man that claims to love me. Thank you again, V
I can't thank you enough for your advice. I know there are more serious problems than mine, and I should be counting my blessings that this is as bad as it is, but nevertheless, its nice to know that someone is on my side. Thanks again :) -A
Thank you for your reply. It was just nice to be able to talk to someone about this problem, it felt like a burden being lifted off of my shoulders. Even though I knew what I needed to do before I wrote you, your reply confirmed it. I will take a step towards forgiveness, one day at a time.
Thank you for this letter. The letter has drastically changed my life. Jason
Thank you very much for your advice ...I really don't have many people to talk to about my personal problems with and you guys definitely helped ...I will tell all my friends about your great work and how speedy your response was really is great to have someone listen for a change ps. I would recomend this site to anyone
Thanks a lot for your valuable reply..really its a great thought.i believe u are all angels of this world!!!
In reading this response.. I felt such a release. To hear that my concerns are valid and that someone more experienced and wise sees what I feel and understands was like therapy.....I'm not crazy or selfish or just simply a worrywort. Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to respond to my have restored some hope in me...
I just wanted to let you know what a truly thoughtful response I recieved from Rose..... it is so wonderful to know that there are still caring people in the world today. She gave me excellent advice. After the links she gave me I also learned of the many people who have family members in the same situation as my sister. The advice she gave was so helpful and I appreciate the effort she put into it. Thank you to everyone.
Thank you for being there and taking the time to go through my problems and giving sensible advice. I cannot think who else I could have gone to with my problems. Thank you for being there and caring for just anyone in the world.
Shreya and EWC- Wow. I found this reply amazingly well put and sensitive, and to the point. I think this is a great organization and thank you so much for taking the time to answer. What a great group you all are. I am going to print out Shreya's response and keep it with me for a pep talk when things get hard. I appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. You don't know how much your input is appreciated. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Joan
Having just read my reply from Rosebud, I would just like to say a HUGE thankyou. To hear the advice from someone else is a reassurance and a piece of mind. I will definately be using this service again, though I hope I won't be needing to! THANKS
Dear PicklesMarie, Thank you so much for your thoughtful suggestions and advice! Your guidance has helped me very much in this situation. My fiance and I had a heart to heart talk and he has assured me that this living situation is only temporary (1yr max). He knows how I feel and agrees that it is not fair if we have to be responsible for supporting her and accommodating for her, especially when we can't afford it and we're just beginning our lives together. A huge cloud has cleared up for me and I can feel better about this now. Thank you so much for lending me your ear and your heart. Best regards, Thuy
Thank you for replying so promptly. I didn't think anyone cared to be honest. You have given me a new outlook. Thank you for the time you took to help me. Sincerely, Ann
WOW... thank you for this reply.. this is exactly what i needed to hear from someone else's mouth... thank-you again.. i feel like i can gain control of my life again.. :)
Thank you very much for your thoughts. I re-read your comments twice, and plan to read several more times, and slip a copy of it into my journal. Your advice has helped me have a clearer perspective on not just this relationship, but with my own motives and attitudes. Thank you again, and best wishes! Andrea
Thanks Elder Dawn, I feel better, I am happy you didn't judge me, or try to tell me to get over this, as other people did. Your advice was calm and wise, and helped me a lot. Thanks!
This advice is extremely uplifting and so helpful. You have made me feel comfortable and so much better as a result of your amazing advice. I don't know how to thank you enough. Your reply brought tears to my eyes. In deep appreciation, Jennifer
Dear Elders of the Rocky Mountain Owls, Your letter washed over me like sweet rain -thank you -no one is home right now but me and the baby and this letter has given me a feeling of relief and release that I cannot really explain- I just can't stop crying thank you - I have tried so hard- thank you for letting me know its ok to let go - I am printing this letter and folding it up very small to keep in my purse for when I need to read it or just hold it in my hand to rember a kindness -while I begin making necessary changes in my life - thank you for bring a friend - if you do not mind i will write again someday when I have good news. Catherine
The advice that was given from your elder was fantastic. I feel as though my letter was really understood. Thanks for your help.
I can't thank everyone involved with EWC enough! I have always recieved meaningful & very helpful advice, and as a 14-year-old girl, it is such a huge relief to know that no matter how insignificant my problems or worries may seem, there is always someone out there who is willing to offer advice. All my love & gratitude!
I am amazed at your fair and wise advice. Thank you so very much. It is a great comfort to hear this from someone outside of our family circle.
I was very impressed with the time and thought that went into the reply I received. The time and attention, in addition to the the great thoughts and ideas, makes me want to think of a lot more questions. LOL. What a great gift. I will take into consideration all that was written. Thank you for your time and help. M
I have no elders in my family so it is wonderful to know that when I am just at a loss on how to handle a problem, especially with my children, I can turn to you all. You are wonderful. Blessings to you.
Dear Cirrus, I don't know how to thank you for your kind words. Please accept a *virtual hug* from me! I also am in awe of the fact that such a truly accomplished person has written to me. It's amazing. It's very hard to find selfless and compassionate people in today's world. I'm glad I found you. Thank you for understanding me so perfectly. Regards, Saaima
I wanted to write to express my appreciation for the prompt and detailed response to the question. One thing that stood out was the good advice on "taking on one thing at a time." I see more clearly that I have been trying to solve multiple problems all at once instead of giving myself a break and taking little steps to alleviate some of my suffering. I also appreciate the reminder that I need to live in the now, instead of dwelling on the past hurts and the future anxieties.
I just wanted to say thank you so much, to both Aunt Patty and to EWC for providing this service. The insight and caring in this response almost brought tears to my eyes. I will save this email and read it when I feel overwhelmed with trying to protect my son. Thank you, Aunt Patty, for your wisdom and for sharing your own experiences. A big hug to you, Rachel
I am very grateful for the prompt and sincere advice I have received. It made such a difference to my sense of well-being to only receive and read such a well-considered, objective, kind and reassuring response. I hope that you will communicate my gratitude to Uncle-Tony, the elder who guided me. I would like to say that I consider EWC to be a direly needed service in the rather orphaned world of today, where the sincere selfless advice of a well-wisher and the wise affectionate guidance of elders is becoming harder to come by, even in a traditional society like my India.
Elder Nancy... whomever you are. You sound like such a wonderful person. My eyes started to tear when I read your reply. And to be honest, I didn't think I'd get an e-mail back from anyone. I do agree with everything you have wrote and I will go get that movie tomorrow. I thank you so much for writing me back. It means a lot. And I wish to speak to you more. I feel you have a lot to tell me, and to maybe open my eyes. I agreed to go to Greece - I leave soon. I wish you the best in every little thing in life.
Aunt Patty you are wonderful in every way. You went through every thing I am going through now. Even though I do not know you I love you. Thanks
My face is wet with tears after reading the response from Web, the "elder" who responded to my inquiry. I am grateful beyond belief for his heartfelt words. It meant so much more coming from a man. Because I know my father would have wanted me to be safe--his words were caring wisdom that took the place of my own father's voice. This service is a lifesaver... in a moment when I had nowhere else to turn, you gave me a solid bit of hope to stand on. Thank you.
This site is monumental!! I received advice for my problem in such a kind and timely manner. I know this may sound a bit silly, but I don't feel as alone anymore! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Thank you for your helpful and sympathetic advice. I think I just needed someone to hear me and let me know I was going to be ok. I appreciate you elders taking the time to listen and respond thoughtfully to my situation.
I just opened up my latest issue of Real Simple magazine and saw the "blurb" about EWC in the front of it. What a fantastic idea! I Immediately went to the website to submit a request for advice. Due to the overwhelming volume, I was not able to submit it yet, but I look forward to checking back frequently until I can. In the meantime, I browsed the replies received by other readers. What a blessing to have you!!!!!! Keep up the good work. It is MUCH NEEDED in today's society.
Thank you so much for your advice! I'm not able to stay at home with my twins as suggested, but I have changed my perception of what is really important. Thank you for your wisdom and experience, it helps to have a kind stranger peeking in and assessing your situation in a way you never could. Thanks!
I wanted to say the advice helped me on deciding what to do about my now ex- boyfriend. so thank you so much, It is amazing what you all are doing on here!
Thank you for the advice. I am so amazed all these volunteers are here to share their wisdom with us. Thank you all so much
Thank you Elder Wisdom Circle! I feel blessed to have discovered this site. Without a doubt, those who have lived life and survived a myriad of challenges are in the best position to provide advice based upon "20/20 hindsite".
You all have given me such great, insightful, funny, & witty advice. Thank you very much. I will continue to seek the wisdom of the circle of elders!!
Elder NATOHTA-MAHKESES I just had to respond back to you, not only to thank you for your advice, but to tell you that when i got to the end of your letter and read that you are a American Indian grandmother, i broke down, you see my grandmother raised me and she was always there for me. I lost her 10 years ago, but it feel's like only yesterday, how i miss her. My grandmother was also an Indian (Cherokee).I belive God did guide me to The Elder Wisdom Circle and to you. As for your advice, I will do just that, Thank You for your time,advice and most of all your prayer's. Take Care, and you are in my prayers too. God Bless, Sincerely, Evonne
I just have to say I think you all are wonderful It's nice to know there's a "grandparent" out there when I need one. I've always gone to my grandparents when I needed advice or direction. I've always found them helpful. Keep doing what you're doing, I think it's great!
Dayle, Thank you so much for your response. I truly appreciate your opinion. I feel much better than when I wrote the note. Writing the note was cathartic for me, and I have had a few discussions with my husband since I wrote to you. We are better off today than we were even a few days ago. When I feel that I am losing hope in the future, I shall read your note again. You have helped me beyond what I can convey in a simple e-mail. Best regards, Paula
The advice I recieved from you was amazing. I went through with the biggest step of my life because of you! I am now enjoying a lovely vacation with my new WIFE! Thank you so much.
You guys and gals are WONDERFUL! I have recieved such great advice here and have told ALL my friends about this site and they love it, too. Thank you for all that you do. You have helped me, and so many others, more then you will ever know.
Thanks again, I was really lonlier than I realized. Your message was like a cup of fresh clean water to my thirst. Thank you. Have a blessed day. Catherine
I sent a question in and received the best advice that I think I have ever heard in my life! I know that this advice will save my relationship. It seemed like the elder pointed all the places where I was going wrong in my relationship and advised that I might approach them differently! I will really advise all of my troubled friends to the elders, THANK YOU SOOO VERRY MUCH! I believe that you just saved my relationship!
I have written and asked advice and I want to thank you for always being here. The advice is always kind and well written. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
I was delighted to find out about this group! I savor the memories of my own grandparents and because of them I have a natural attraction to the elderly. To me an elderly person is a hidden treasure waiting to be discovered. Thank you for making access to these treasures more possible.
This is a great site. To know that there are wonderful people out there that care enough to help a complete stranger. This is what I want to do when I am older.
I'm very happy to hear from you it brings my spirit to a new level. I was starting the day depressed until I opened this e-mail and got a good feeling inside that I can over come the things that is hurting me, you see I keep alot of things bottled up inside, it means alot to me, to share my story. Thanks, Noel
You are right about everything. Your advice makes a lot of sense to me and gives me a lot to think about. I only wish I found this site before it got the point where I started to devalue my wife's opnions and job; it wasn't always like this. Jay
You understood my situation perfectly. Thank you for making me feel so much better about myself!! You guys are the greatest! God bless you for doing this service. Thank you seems so inadequate. Sincerely, Joyce
I would like to sincerely thank Seeley for the insight provided. It made me cry to be understood, when I can't even understand myself. Your advise is exactly what I needed to hear. All I need now is to gather the strengh to take your advise. I can never thank you enough...It feels so good to talk about this! God bless you. Joan
In today's world, there are few things that stand out and really hit you. I have to say after checking your site out that what you all do is absolutely wonderful!! To give from your heart and offer advice based on your life experiences is a wonderful service to all ages. I am a public servant (firefighter) and I applaud your actions. May God bless all of you!
Wow. That is possibly the best advice you could have possibly given. I have kind of wondered if he did find another girl and was just stringing me along. I really really hope thats not the case. I am still fairly young (22) and you're right, I do have a whole lifetime ahead of me...I do still love this guy but Ive been through enough to think that maybe I should trust my gut feelings (and your advice) and give this up. Thank you so much for the advice and for taking the time out of your day to give it. It means alot.
I think Elder Wisdom Circle is the best thing I've found on the internet since I got my computer a year ago. I know I will turn to it again and again. I feel like I have a real good friend now. Many thanks, Phyllis
Kudos to this response from you Hedwig, as it brought tears of joy to my eyes! Such a compassionate response, when I didn't even include in my quandry that I'm an only child. You artfully gave me advice that I have been pushing towards the back of my mind.
I love what you are doing with all of your love and wisdom! All of you rock! Love Monica
Thank you very much, Beach Bum. Deep down inside I knew this was the right decision for me. Being torn and unable to make a conclusive decision alone though, I needed advice and did not know where to turn. What a godsend to have stumbled upon The Elder Wisdom Circle! Thanks again, Barbara
Thanks so much to Dayle; it helped just to have a little support and to read that others think I'm doing the right thing. :) This is a fantastic service! Being able to reach out to a stranger and get a calm, considerate reply means so much. Thanks again:) Kathy
Thank you so much for your kind response. It brought tears to my eyes to receive kind personal advice from people with wisdom to share. I don't have enough people to turn to in life right now and helps to know that there are people who care, even if they don't know me. Thank you so much. Sincerely, Bill
This reply was wonderful and gave me so much insight that it literally made me cry. Thank you Michelle for taking the time to answer my email. Your thoughts inspired are a joy. Kendra
Auntie-M, thanks so much for your wise response. i had tears in my eyes as i read it. my mom died about 13 years ago, and i obviously can't get her advice, but yours was so wonderful. thanks. and thanks for telling me that i should not feel guilty, because sometimes, despite the situation, i do.
This website is a gift from God. Thank you. You guys are angels. xxx000
I am so thankful to the woman that helped me, her name was Rose and she was friendly honest and amazing. She is a life saver and thanks to her advice i finally know who i really am. i cant thank you enough..
The response to my question was spot on. This web site should be more widely known I would recommend it to anyone.
Arianne, Thank you so much for your support. Your words help immensely! I will do my best not to blame myself for his issues and I will try hard to take care of myself first and foremost. I can't tell you how valuable the Elder Wisdom Circle has been for me. I want to thank you for listening and sharing. Warm Regards, Sue
Thank you!! Your words (response) were encourgaging and if need be, I will use this service again. Please inform Elder Shreya that I want to adopt her as my grandma. I knew in my heart it was the right thing do to, but hearing it makes the decision easier to live with. Again, Thank you Very Much! Lord Bless Shreya. Roxanne
Dear Friend, Your suggestions make very good sense and I shall begin the gratitude list tonight! Your are so very kind. Thank you. I love the website and am so thankful for you great people. God bless and take good care of yourself. joy
Am very happy with your site... I like the way people counsel. They never make you feel there's something wrong with you, unlike some paid professionals. They helped me sort out a few problems of my own. I have used this site several times. I found all the counselors who answered nice, warm and sensible. I like to think in this vast universe, there are people (apart from family and friends) who care about you. This site reassures me there's a lot of good out there. Cheers!
I love what you're doing! Brilliant and long overdue! This type of set-up should be world-wide; goodness knows we all could use the advice and guidance of our elders!
Your advice is right on the money and much more interesting to me than most advice columnists. I think it's wonderful to share your experiences and wisdom with others. You're not just withering away in your wheelchairs. You have decided to make a difference in people's lives. Good for you!
I have no extended family - no grandparents or parents to go to for advice - I was very impressed - am sending this to my daughter. thank you so much for caring.
Wow ! You all are GREAT .. Our country and youth really needs your wisdom .
Oh my gosh, that response actually made me cry. I guess I knew it all along that I was doing the right thing I just thought since it ended so horribly I must've done something wrong. Thank you for your insights. Thanks so much for your wonderful advice!
Dear PicklesMarie, Thank you, thank you, thank you for listening and understanding my situation, without judging me for how I've ended up here. Your letter was an absolute gem and I will keep it forever so I can keep coming back to it - these are lessons that will last me a lifetime. So much wisdom packed into one email! Thank you again for taking the time to share your life knowledge with me. I wish only the best for you and your loved ones. Peace, Mary
Rechama I wanted to express a deep gratitude for the response I was given. I so appreciate the frame of love it was written in and the use of words, very eloquent. Thank you for the thought and effort in the reply and I pray someday I will be wise enough to bestow such excellent support.
Dear Toni, Your advice was just what I needed, it felt like a friend was talking to me I can not get over how comforting and honest this website is. For you to take out your time and respond to my dilema was a god-send....and for free. That I feel is the most kindhearted humane thing a person can do. I REALLY appreciate your help I feel I am making the right decision to listen to whatever advice was given to me from your website. Again thank you so much Toni for your response it really makes me cry one less night and feel truly 'touched by angel'. Sincerely Rebekah
Thank you for being available for those of us who do not have a wise elder to consult when we need questions. I just know that you have given me the answer! I have asked our local extension office and looked on the internet. I tried everything else the experts recommended, but never hear this and it fits!!!!! Thank you Thank you!!
Once again, I have recieved incredibly wise and compassionate advice from elders through this website. I cannot tell you how greatful I am - to the individual elders, and to the group for being available in this way...Bless you all, forever!
I think this is a marvelous idea! I love the idea of being able to learn from someone more experienced. Americans are often disrespectful of our Senior Citizens. This is so productive on all levels... AND FREE!!!!!!!
I found great advice here from someone who is close & connected in soul though we never met. A quality not easy to find -Brought me back to live my life more fully , stay in the presence but be open for changes along the way. My heart is full of gratitude and love -May all beings be happy - D.
I have recently asked two questions lately, and I just want to thank everyone at EWC for running this service. It has been a big help. It is always nice to get an opinion on an issue by an outside source, especially when it is something that I would rather not involve or inform my friends or family members about the topic. Keep up the great work!
I received a very thoughtful response for advise regarding a sleeping co-worker. I thank you for the response. In reading through the responses to others I wanted to say what a great service to others you are providing. I think you are helping to make the world a better place. Thanks for your time.
Thank you so much for your advice and the manner in which it was given. I am going to follow your suggestion and seek professional help. I'm so delighted to have come upon elderwisdomcircle quite by accident. t's like having a friend i didnt know i had. again, thank you. petra
I just want to thank any of the Elders who have helped me in my most confusing times. It's hard to find good advice and i'm glad there's a place where I can ask my most secret and confusing questions and get real advice from someone with the expereince and wisdom. THANK YOU!
I want to thank all of you! You all do such a wonderful job! Your advice has helped me believe people that has told me some of the same things but I guess it took hearing it from someone else. Your all so generous to take time to help people like me that are lost and have no one to turn to. I thank-you all again~Heather
This website is amazing. I asked for some advice once and was very impressed with the response I got. It is so refreshing to hear unbiased advice from someone on the outside. Keep up the good work!
Not only did I get great advice.. but I recieved it quickly!! It is so nice to get advice from outside sources that have lived life -- having "been there and done that"! Thanks for your time, it is TRUELY appreciated!!
Thank you Pickles Marie, you are very wise and kind. I also that EWC, it is an amazing program and i will support it in every way i can!!! --Daniella
I want to say thank you to all the Elders at EWC! I just turned thirteen a few months ago, and found my life to seem to get harder. With plenty of friendship problems, and just stuff in everyday life, I found EWC the best place to turn to! I got advice within 3 days of sending in my question, and I used that advice! I never use any other advice! And, the advice worked! I know it will be a long time, but when I'm an elder, I know this is what I want to do! Work for EWC!
My sister and I want to extent our thanks to Marnie for her advice regarding our 'absentee' mother. With bare facts presented, Marnie was able to identify the core of hurt feelings we share and offer the appropriate advice we needed. We feel blessed to know that even though our mother isn't there for us (to ask advice, etc), that someone like Marnie is extending herself to those who need it. Thank you for 'mothering' us, in a time where we just needed it. Kimberly and Jennifer
Dear Rose, Thank you so much for responding to my letter. I'm actually crying right now because of your compassion and your wisdom, particularly as it related to A.A. Thank you for the words, "you deserve to be cherished" also, as you pointed out, I do feel that I'm rationalizing, minimizing, and excusing his behavior. Your advice came at exactly the right time. I think I'll look for an A.A. meeting online right now! Thank you, thank you a million times. Diane
Dear Apple Annie, I am so touched by your advice. I feel like there are guardian angels listening to my problems, and I feel more connected than I have! Thank you for your advice, it was very clear and I want to use that structure, of having a written agreement. Thank you! Amy
Dear Ruthie, What a sweet & precious response you gave to me regarding my dilema........thank you so much for your thoughts; you gave me a lot to think must be a super special person and I am glad you responded to my e-mail....thank you, again, so very much !! Sincerely, Candi
Wow! "picklesmarie" gave me such a great answer I can't thank her enough. What she wrote in her e-mail to me brought a whole new dimension to helping me to come to a solution to my problem. Tell her I said thank you so, so much. Claire
Wow! What a wonderful helpful site. Although I came to it by accident I can already see how helpful it is. Thanks so much for everyone's time and thoughts. I will surely be teling others and can't wait to have my daughter read a few articals you have on relationships. Thanks again for being so giving. Pam
I would like to thank Tell-Tom for his advice, It means so much to me to have someone provide advice on such a sensitive subject,and I am grateful. You can't imagine how much better I feel! I will definitely be using the service again.
Jackie thank you for your wisdom. I never thought I would have such a loving Husband and a Son. Resentment is like ivy roots that when planted takes over the whole garden. Thank you for your so needed advice Winona
Hello Tell-Tom, Wow, that reply you sent me, it really gives me hope. Im going to keep that email forever; and I hope to look back on it one day and say to myself Its true. Your response has made me more confident to be who I am. You say my true love is the someone who loves me for who I am, for being responsible with my disabled sisters and family.Your kids are lucky to have a dad like you and your grandkids are lucky to have a grandad like you.
Thank you for the empathetic response to my very long-winded request for help. Since writing it, I do feel better, appreciate having the opportunity for the perspective, and benefited from the thoughtful response. Jackie, you made me feel as though I was sitting with a friend at a table, getting sense knocked into me over a cup of coffee (or a glass of wine, depending!). I value your observations and know I have survived in a very blessed way. Thank you for providing very valuable insight to those seeking help.
I would like to thank Tom for his advice, it was very helpful. This is the first time I've used this service. I plan on not only using it again, but passing the word on to my friends as well. Jodi
What wonderful, COMFORTING advice, John. It meant a lot to me to have someone valididate how close we were. This advice is very insightful. Thanks again. I'm going to put his letter were I can read it whenever I need a boost. Sheryl
In response to Article #: 45843, I must admit it brought tears to my eyes. In a world of a seemingly futile existence being a gay man, to hear hear an elder give advice such as this moves me. In our community, the senior community is generally viewed as the backbone of the republican party but changes when we think of our "Oma's & Opa's". I applaud each one of you for the work you do and the advice you give which is non-partisan. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK, WE NEED YOU!!!
I wanted to send a thank you for the response I got on how to help a friend who has been abused by her parents. Both letters gave very helpful information and they also had a very sincere and meaningful quality to them. It is a shock to my senses to know that such a completely selfless organization exists. I feel a bit more at peace knowing that people like those at the EWC are out there. Thank you again for your prompt responses. Thank you Bailey, Rose, and everyone else helping with EWC. ~Kathryn
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and comfort. I can't tell you how much they meant to me. You and your organization are wonderful!
Thank you for such a prompt, succinct and helpful reply! I'll definitely share this site with others. The advice of those who've "been around the block" is a cherished, valued tool in today's world. Thanks so much for putting this site together--and for those of you willing to commit the time and talent to responding. Kuddos!
Thank you so much for your help. You have really clarified things for me. I must say that this program is such a wonderful thing, and whoever thought of it is brilliant. -Melissa P.S. Ashblue, because of your suggestion I am flying out to see my friend this week. I am so excited to see her after all these years, thank you so much!
I wanted to write and thank Walt-J for the good advice, it was helpful in more ways than one. Thank you again. Becky
Thank you very much. You advice was right on. He called the other day and things seem fine. We're back to talking all the time and the nightly "goodnight" phone calls and text messages. I'm still confused because no guy I know calls a girl daily "just because" and calls to say hes home. But I am just going with the flow and enjoying it. Thanks again -- ~Lizz
I just wanted to thank all of the wonderful elders here! A little over one year ago I wrote asking for advice on how to propose to my boyfriend. I took the advice received, got down on one knee and asked him to marry me during the fireworks New Years Eve 1 year and 2+ months ago. As of this April we will have been married for 1 year, and are so happy together. Women don't propose often, so I was very glad to have some advice on how to make it special for him. :) As a side note, we were both accepted into PhD programs at the U of Georgia, where I have added a Geronotology Certificate to my area of study. Keep kickin' butt! Ruthie
I think what you are doing is so wonderful. I can hardly put it into words. I'm also sitting here with tears in my eyes so forgive me if my typing gets all garbled. My grandparents died when I was very young. The only one I remember lived until I was 12, which wasn't long enough. I am 30 now and I still miss her and I wish so much that I could ask her about my problems. She was a sweet lady and I know we would only have grown closer over the years. I am so touched that your group is using its collective wisdom to give good advice to people who need it. It's about the kindest thing I've ever heard of. You have made my day. Thank you for doing what you do. Sincerely, Jessica
Elder Wisdom is providing a great service through the sharing of your learned successes. What a wonderful aid you are providing to those willing to listen and seek your advice. Bless you! Ron
Dear ElderWisdomCircle! I am so very thankful for helping me with this problem,I am aware it's not an issue anymore. It's just helpful sometimes to get a good answer and more,support from someone who has a lifetime experience and so willing to help!I think I was really lucky to find your site on the internet one day I was so desperate for help,it was 2 months ago,but you really did a great job and 100% helped me throught the hard times I had. Thank you so much,dear Elders! you are the first thing that comes to my mind now should I need any help! and yes,indeed,I have told some people about your great site,your welcoming answers and warm hearts!!! God bless you,thank you again!!!
I would just like to thank to elders that have given me advice over the last three months about my destructive relationship. I have left my boyfriend since seeking advice and have never been happier. Everything the elders predicted to happen did. Im glad i listened. Thank you so very much. all the best Tara and god bless.
Dear Elder Web, thank you so much for your excellent advice. I know in my heart that you are right on target, and I will follow your suggestions. Special thanks and appreciation to the Elder Wisdom Circle, for all the good they do in the world. I learned of the Circle on an NPR program, and have spread the word to my friends. The existence of this Circle is truly Good News, in a world that is starving for good news. Marcie
Hello, I just wanted to thank the Elder who responded to my note. Your advice was excellent and your insight razor sharp - thank you. You were so right in your observations - things that hadn't occurred to me. Thank you again - you were truly a big help and I feel a million times better. Best regards to you. Sincerely, Kay
Thank you, Rinchu. I have been having a problem on and off over a year. I was at a loss as to how to solve this problem and was quite upset about it. A bit of advice from Rinchu--problem solved! I printed the e-mail from Rinchu and used a pen to highlight the advice that I felt I really needed to concentrate on. When I felt confused about my situation, I simply referred to the e-mail. Rinchu explained to me the cold, hard facts, but in a very kind and gentle way. It seems the older I get, the smarter my elders get. Listen up you young whipper-snappers--these folks know what they are talking about! MJ
Grandma Dee's answer to the question about "purpose or people - which matters most?" was beautifully written and inspiring! I am going to print it, and put it on my refrigerator! Thanks for your wisdom, Lori
I cannot thank you enough for your wise and sage advice. You were absolutely right! I finally bit the bullet and spoke to my boyfriend. He was apologetic and a bit ashamed. He has IMMEDIATELY turned around. He is the guy I knew he could be, that I wanted. All it took was for me to stand up for myself, and I owe that to you! Thanks again and agian!!! Yours truly, Natasha
Thank you so much for your sincere reply. I will always appreciate it and will always be thankful. Thank you too for your Web site. I say "kudos" to your reply. It made me feel good. Cordially, Jeanie
Thank you very, very much for your prompt and comprehensive response. Greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much for the helpful advice! I did follow it and I know it was the one right thing to do. Sometimes, even in trivial situations as mine, people need an objective point of view and you were there to provide it for me. Thank you! Your help through this tough decision-making time was most valuable and appreciated! Sincerely, Kalista
Friend, WOW. Such excellent writing, too! Not only insightful points, but lucid writing. I think your points were too many, and I could not try to summarize. But what I learned is that I am not completely independent, and I should not try to be. I need people, I need my body, and I need my health. Enjoy my dreams, but share. That is what I learned. Thank you, my elder friend! Best, Ryan
Hello, First of all, I would like to thank the circle for taking the time to look through my letter and to reply to it. I am a student of engineering (2nd year ) and i thought that at this point in life , if I did not know which way to head, I was indeed a loser ( because engineering is not my first love). Indeed I do not know now as yet but I intend to wait it out. I would specially like to thank Grandma-Dan for her reply.....she has been very kind in her reply and she was so very correct in identifying the fact that I am scared of showing my emotions. I intend to follow her advice about making decisions.Indeed she has been most sympathetic and I am really glad I applied to the council . Thank you once again . Reetoditee (Kolkata,India)
Thank you so much for the valuable advice, feedback & tremendous insight. I think this elder has hit it right on the head, so to speak and I wanted to let you know. I might ask for more advice from this elder as I am going through a difficult time right now trying to stay true to myself while at the same time trying to have some level of patience within my relationship. Thank you again. Sincerely, Michelle
Thak you for your advice, I really appreciate it and I agree with you.. You guys really have a good thing going here, keep up the good work... Nick
This really is a good service. and its free also. i appreciate it!!!! its always nice to listen to what someone else older and wiser has to say. i am happy and i feel much better. it was very helpful. thanks a lot. Luke
Dear Rose, You are the sweetest elder I have come across...I really liked your advice. It was soothing and enlightening...Thank you.
I just wanted to thank you so much for your advice. I didn't even think of doing those things until you said it! I'm making an appointment with my guidance counselour to go over my information & schedule an appointment with my mother. I can't thank you enough! This really helped me. Alyssa
Orchids to you and to ALL the Elders. It was a great comfort to talk to someone who's had a few more spins around the block than I have. In exactly 20 more years, I'll be eligible to be an elder. Perhaps someday I'LL get to be one of you. What a great thing to aspire to. You are all heroes! God bless each and every one of you!!
Rose, I'm amazed by your brilliance. You know, all my grandparents are dead, and my parents just wouldn't understand. I have nobody to talk to about certain things, and in a way, you're sort of like my grandparent. So thank you for everything. Samantha
I just wanted to say thank you, it is truly amazing how you know the things you do. Thank you again for taking the time to answer my questions. Shirley
Lady Gallchno, Thank you I've taken your advice and I feel so much better. I moved in with a couple of my closest friends and I'm moving on quite well. Thank you for your time effort and for being there. I feel like i've been to hell and back, but i'm only back because of people like you. Thank you so much for your care. God bless. Mark
Dear Rose, Thank you so much for taking the time to read my letter and give me an answer that was short & sweet but not sugar coating it...I am indeed refining my role in my husbands family and have made decisions on who I even want a relationship with, it is not easy but for peace and quiet within my nuclear family it is worth it. Blessings to you and this site... Kimberly
Rose, Thank you for such a quick response! I was happy to see your advice, I had suspected some of the same issues, but couldn't seem to convince anyone else of what I thought was happening. Thank you for your advice, this is a fantastic service, I plan on consulting EWC in the future! Regards, Mia
I wish to thank you all very much. It just so happens that I pretty much came to the same decision. My husband and I are trying to work things out. However, your advice was wonderful. It just reaffirmed what I thought and I want to thank you for taking the time to help a poor soul as myself. Tee
Thank you so much! I think this web site is fantastic. I appreciate the advice and I think I am going to opt for protecting my skin rather than get a tan.
Thanks very much for the advice. Your advice was very good considering the short details that I gave. As I think about it I think the sex makes me feel good about myself and really helps me to compensate for other parts of my life that are not as fulfilling. Again I appreciate your advice and thanks for being there for me. Eric
Thank you very much for your precious advice you gave me. I will try my best to do what you suggested and revert back to you if I am not able to cope which I am sure wont be necessary. Thank you once again for the fantastic job you do. May be I will need your valuable advice again in future. Bye Khushi
TreeFrog, Thank you for your wisdom and the "right" reply. My husband read your response as well. He smiled and made him feel that he is doing the right thing. I'm sure I will call again on your wisdom and experience. God Bless you! Marla
Thank you, Thank you Rinchu. I am so glad that your response was quick, as soon as I read the first few lines I had to stop and cry because I have felt so very bad about feeling like I want to go on and live a full happy life with out Michael. I only fear that he will not make it easy. He is still here and we all three live in our own rooms. I'm looking for the right time to ask him to please move out. He did not give me any money to pay the house bills, so i paid them all. My next step is to ask my family for support and to help me move him out. Blessings to Rinchu and i truly thank you for your advice. The web site was God sent. I really felt Rinchu talking to me, Thank you! you have a friend for life! I"m going to be just fine!
Hi Jacobus, I wanted to let you know, I FINALY GOT LEGAL CUSTODY OF MY SON. I wrote you a while back, he was threatening suicide, and you said I should get him away from his alcoholic father. We got a lawyer and now my 15 yr old son is with us doing so much better, he is doing good in school! He is so happy! I just wanted to let you know, so you could have an end to this mess! thank you so much, I reccommend your group all the time. Thanks again, Connie
Dawn, Thank you, thank you, thank you for your wonderful advice!!! It was as if you knew exactly what I was feeling and your kind words helped me to refocus and remember what was really important! You're changes and circles of friends do as well and yes, she does still include me in things. I almost made a huge mistake but, thanks to you....well, let's just say that I will heed your advice!
Thank you so much! I feel so much better. I truly appreciate your advice, and I have definitely learned from this! Thank you for taking the time. Your service is invaluable! Lani
Rose, Thank you for your time. Thank you also for the advice. Your experiences inspired me to stay on the path that I chose for myself. Thank you for making a difference during a time when a decision seems impossible. It's funny how a stranger can help somone on such a deep level. PS. I love the name Rose. Joanne
Thanks for the adice , I shalll not try to remember or even bring to my mind wat had happened in his past... I guess you are right that I do not have any right to interfere in his past.. Wat ever happened was his past... n I will not let his past rule my present and spoil my life... Thanks for the advice...I shall always rememeber this advice... Thanks for guiding me once again. :) Regards, -Sonam
This is one of the most awesome ideas I've run across. I've worked in alot of Social Service settings and understand the wisdom available from our elderly; but to see it focused like this; great!
Thank you so are right...I will move on and hopefully find a guy that is attainable and try not to set myself up for sorrow. You really helped me get things in perspective. Thanks
Thanks very much for your advice, it is just the encouragement I needed and I appreciate all the great tips. I will be trying all of them if I have to. Thanks again. Joe
Dear Heart of Texas, Thank you so much for your advice. I think you are right about me being scared after seeing failing relationships from family members and stuff. I agree with everything you said..and it feels really good to hear it from someone else. You are wonderful..thank you so much. This advice will carry on with me for the next relationship with a guy that i encounter. Thanks again! Kristina
Dear Annalore, Thankyou so much for your kind and thoughtful response to my request for advice. I think the advice you gave me is perfect and I willpray and really try to follow whatever the answer is. It is very hard for me not to care what people think of me but I will try to carry on by doing the best I can in whatever it is. I'll let u know how I make out in the coming weeks. Thankyou very much. Betty
Hey, just want to say, EWC is amazing! -- I'm really glad this is up, and that so many awesome elders are off giving me advice. Lord knows I need lots! And don't get enough of them around here. Thank you all Christina
Dear Rose, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for considering my dilemma and giving me your advice. You made some very good points that I had not considered. I do believe I will go to dental school and I intend to reward my precious family in everyway possible for their sacrifices. I wish you and your family a happy and healthy new year. Best regards, Juli
Dear RINCHU!!! from the bottom of my heart I would like to thank you for listening and helping me with this situation!!!fells so good to open heart to someone who do a great job helping people by giving them real advice and just being there anytime we need help! God bless you for your kind heart! I will write about the situation to you as soon as I return home,you see I am going to visit my family in few days,but we still didn't tell the in-laws about the trip,coz I am afraid they will do somehting bad,fake something.we are going to send them sms on their mobile and after that phone them.the thing is they think that I just want to kidnap my own kid and run away,living my husband alone-the most pathetic thing I have ever heard!that is why we didnt tell them about the trip yet. anyway,Happy New Year to all who is always there for people like me:)
Dear Coog! I am in tears being so happy to get your reply so fast but more-that you really put your heart into my trouble and had really helped me with the desicion!!!Thank you so so much for being there for me when I really needen some help!I have chosed your site for I prefer to get help and advice from people that know more and I really don't know how to thank you for the help and good luck!!! Happy New Year to all and may this year bring you luck,helth,happiness and joy!!!
Thank you for your advice. I appreciate you understanding the difficult nature of this conflict. I took your advice and realized that I did not need this relationship anymore. At some moments I miss it, but for the most part, I celebrate myself and being strong enough to start the new year with only those people who are right and good for me. Thank you for your encouraging words and for providing the wisdom I needed when I needed it. Thank you!
Thank you so much this really did help and we talked yesterday and he siad he understood. thank u for helpin me and him. He now understands that he can't have what he wants all the time, especially sumthin this big from me. ~love always ~~Serena and Carl
I would just like to send my thanks to you. Having someone else, that has seen this kind of thing before, tell me that I am on the right path, truly helps ease the pain.
I cannot tell you how happy I was to get your reply. It was so generous of you to take the time and write, as well as give thought to a stranger's plight. Thank you and I will certainly consider it; it was very helpful and wise. Best regards. Juli
I just wanted to say to all these seniors thank you. My generation so often throws there grandparents away. You folks knew something my generation will never get to taste, self respect, goodness, honestness, faithfulness, real family, dicipline, knowing what helping your neighbor just because it was the humane thing to do feels like, just an all around bigger sense of respect in the full aspect of the word. Respect for everyone and most of all yourselves. It seems the trend today is the opposite destruction. I was raised by my grandparents and I would give anything for five more minutes! My name is Chrissy and I'm 25 and personally salute every one of you fine relics. The knowledge of life each one of you possess, the stories are worth more than all money and could never be substituted. So, thanks for giving out life's lessons for free!! And remember if you're all alone and you think no one is thinking of you. Someone is thinking of you and praying for you!!! God Bless
I would just like to once again thank Elder CHR and ElderWisdomCircle for their amazing service!
I just wanted to say thank you for your insight. It means so much to me to have such insightful advice, which I definitely will take into serious consideration. Again, I really appreciate you taking the time to help me with my difficult situation. -Christina
Thank you so much for your response to my problem. It is comforting to know there are people that we can ask for advise. I don't know what is going to happen, but I will take everything you both have offered into consideration and hope my husband sees the light. Thank you again. Loretta
Thank you so very much. Not only have you answered my questions but you have taken my breath away with your poetic response. I have felt that these were the signs but to hear someone actually put my thoughts into words really confirms that LOVE exists. Thanks again.
Rose, Wow! The reply to my question was better than I had imagined! You said exactly what I know in my heart to be true, that I need to end this relationship I'm in, but I really needed to hear someone else tell me I was right. You provided just that reassurance- and went beyond! I was a little uncertain about using this service but it was incredible. Thank you so much! -Shannon
I just want to say thank you Michelle. Your advice hit on things I was failing to recognize. It is my own insecurity driving me and I have spoken with him on some of these things since I sent in my request. I am more aware now of the things that are my issues and not his. And I will take your advice about my visit. I had not thought beyond just seeing him again. Thanks again. I hope you are well. Sincerely, Rachael
Dear Jacobus, Thank you so much for your reply and your advice. I understand and realise that my thoughts about expressing how I felt to this man were infact born from a deeper desire to hurt him and theres no way that could ever bring anyone peace!. I understand that now. Thank you also for reminding me about the Serenity Prayer - my Mother kept a copy of it beside her bed so it's a great comfort to be reminded of it. Best Regards Gem
Kudos. Unfortunately, I was unable to wait for this very sane and intelligent request. I told my husband of my upsetment this morning and a very hostile fight ensued. When I received this reply last night, I read it to him and acknowledged we both were in the wrong. Me for being "cruel and rude", him for being a "blockhead". I hope I won't have to come back to your sight, which is unrealistic, but I certainly would. Thank you, when I didn't know where else to turn. Debbie
Thank you so much Pearls of Wisdom! I can't tell you how much it means to know that someone else thinks my instincts are right. It's a hard fight to fight. I appreciate your time & insight more than you'll know. Peace, Michelle
HA! What an excellent idea. I never would have thought of that in a million years... I'll give it a try and see what happens, Thank you :) Courtney
Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate your nonjudgmental reply. I just knew I couldn't ask any of my family and friends, they would only side with me, and that's not what I wanted, I wanted the truth as to wheather I was being selfish or if I had a legit. complaint. I appreciate your time.
My goodness, this answers the main questions I needed. I sooooooooo appreciate your kindness and your honesty in your response back to me. Even as I was sending the original message...I was ready to let her know the truth. My appreciation again. Much thanks
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I think I am going to give it a try. I am unhappy with my situation and I want to do somthing to change it. I'm just filled with so much doubt, it really helps to read your words. Thank you.
Hi to the Elder Wisdom Circle and to L. David-- I really want to thank you for your quick reply, but even more than that, for just being out there. What an outstanding resource you are! This is the second time I've consulted with someone at your site and both times were equally excellent. This particular response was so kind and so straightforward. I am grateful. Please keep up the terrific work. Your site and your service are very much needed and appreciated! All the best, Melly
Hi Helen, Thank you so much for your reply! Its funny, its like you read my mind. You are right,I definitely have to see where this will go. EWC is such a great idea! Thanks so much for your great advice, Temple
Thank you, despite getting it between the eyes, it was what I needed. I did realise I was 'cheating' but perhaps rationalised it as an amusement. The advice was fair, balanced and helpful. Thanks John
Just a quick note of heartfelt thanks to Rose for her kind, intelligent, empathetic, and very reassuring advice!!! ~Alece
I would like to personally thank both elder Rose and Jacobus for their incredibly insightful responses to my dilemma. Not even have ever met these people, I feel like they have known me and those invloved in my situation for many years. They gave me pure, serious and piercing insight and truly helped me realize the best path to take. I truly thank and bless them both for their advice and heart-felt wisdom. Chances are they saved three relationships. Truly wonderful they are. Nick
I thank you, and now I know where to turn for other issues that might come up. You are a great organization and if I had any money, I would donate as much as I could. Keep up the great work. You really put my mind at ease just knowing there is someone to talk to.
Dear Treefrog, I'm so greatful with your advice (so fast too!), that's exactly what I'm going to do, and what I needed to hear. I wish you blessings and hapiness. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Sharon
I would like to thank Rose for her kind and thoughtful advice. I needed to hear from someone with a fresh perspective and I received it from her. Thank you soo much! You are a beautiful person!
You all are a real blessing. I am mailing a contribution to the work you do, because it is very important. I really needed to hear from you and I am glad that you were straightforward with me. Much Love!

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