He’s mad at me because I don’t want to go to the movies with him and his girlfriend.

Give it one more try, says our elder. But you may have to let him go.

 

Dear EWC

So my best friend, Mike, and I are drifting apart. I don’t really know what to do because I love him to death but all of my other friends hate him and he is mad at me right now. He is mad at me because I don’t want to go to the movies with him and his girlfriend and I’d rather go with my friend Mason. I personally think this is ridiculous because I don’t really want to go on a date with him and his girlfriend. I also feel like he just doesn’t care about drifting apart but I don’t think I want to lose him but I honestly have no idea. So, I just need advice on what to think about him and if I should let it happen or fight for the friendship even if he doesn’t care.

 

Mrs.G replies

I think you could fight a little more for your friendship; but if it doesn’t work, give it up. Perhaps you could try one more time to explain to Mike that it doesn’t make sense for you to go to the movies with him and his girlfriend. I wouldn’t mention your friend, Mason, at this time, however. Just focus on your friendship with Mike. He’s your main concern right now. Maybe you could ask him how he would feel going to a movie with you and your boyfriend. That might help him see the light.

Sometimes guys just don’t get it. They don’t always see things the same as girls and, therefore, misunderstandings occur. They just think everyone should get along and don’t understand that sometimes it’s complicated – especially when a girlfriend is involved.

I know Mike’s friendship has meant a lot to you, but maybe now it’s time to let go a little especially since it sounds like everyone is mad at everyone. If Mike is slipping away from you, it might be best just to try to understand that friendships don’t always last forever. As I said, though, try one more time and see what happens.

I hope you can get some fun back into your life, to where you are not always worried about this. Tell yourself you’ve had enough and owe it yourself to let whatever happens happen, knowing that you will do fine.

Article #: 431447

Category: Friendship