Featured Advice

Our volunteers at ElderWisdomCircle dispense such wise, warm-hearted advice that we couldn’t resist sharing some gems with you too. If you want to ask for advice right now check out the ask for advice page  

We post a new problem and the advice here twice per week so check back regularly (or subscribe)  to find out what’s bothering our young letter writers, and what their wise older mentors have to say about it.

I hope you’ll feel inspired to apply their wisdom to your own life—and remember, if there’s something on your mind, our elders are always here to help.

Doug Meckelson
Founder

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Blackmailed into a friendship

My ‘friend’ has sucked all the happiness out of my life — but he uses emotional blackmail to keep me ...

/ / Friendship

I hate my teammate…

…but my coach says we have to be friends. Not true, says our elder. She’s like a work colleague — ...

/ / Friendship

My fiancé makes racist jokes

A letter writer and her fiancé don’t always agree on politics, but he’s really upset her this time. Should she ...

/ / Dating/Relationship

How to get over being bullied?

I was bullied in the past, and now I want to let all of that go and build a better ...

/ / Self-Improvement

School… or sailing the world?

I love my university but I’m a free spirit at heart. How can I follow my passion for adventure? You ...

/ / School

I gave up my happiness for her…

… and she’s still not happy! Should we move (again!) just to please my wife? I can understand your resentment, ...

/ / Family

‘First job’ anxiety

I’ve just landed my dream job… but how can I stop the ‘what-ifs’ and the dread? You are not alone, ...

/ / Career

Stalked by my sister!

My sister is obsessed with me online and it’s wearing me down. How can I make it stop? Do your ...

/ / Family

Back off! I don’t want gifts

My best friend has feelings for me, and now it’s really awkward — he keeps buying me unwanted gifts and ...

/ / Friendship

My boyfriend’s poly past

Why is my boyfriend being so secretive about his previous relationship — with a couple? It’s time to let go ...

/ / Dating/Relationship