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Stuck in survival mode

At 25, I haven’t got a plan; I’m just getting through each day and turning down opportunities. 

Let’s break you out of that, says our elder. It’s time to uncover your hidden qualities and talents.

 

Dear EWC

I don’t know but at the age of 25 I still don’t have a plan with my life and I don’t know what I really want to do. I don’t have a dream job, finance plan and all. Sometimes, my friends asked me, what is my plan? I answered them I just want to keep alive. I don’t know. There are some opportunities but I am reluctant to accept it because I don’t think that I can do it or I don’t deserve it. I don’t want to disappoint the people who put their trust in me. And I don’t want to disappoint myself as well. I hate it. I don’t really know. I don’t want them to trust them because I know in the end, I will disappoint them. I don’t know, maybe because a lot of responsibilities overwhelm me. Being part of a family where every day is a survival mode. Financially and emotionally. I gave up. I just want to live my life with complications because it’s already complicated since the beginning of my adulthood. And I really don’t know what kind of advice I really get from you. I just need someone who can understand my sentiments and all.

 

Pure-Sue replies

I hear you. I have felt similarly and I am here to offer guidance so you don’t stay there much longer. Thank you for taking your life seriously and writing in. You are not alone. In fact, many people your age are finding themselves in a similar place. Because of this place, Covid, traditions, expenses, you get constantly stuck in the mindset of what you don’t have and believe you can’t have. 

Please don’t accept living by the negative, disappointing survival mode you have lived under any longer. Take some initial steps to discover the hidden qualities and talents you do have. We all have wonders that want to be revealed. No comparison to others, your own personal gifts are waiting to be unwrapped.

If you have not been taught that, now is a good time to honor yourself and change some old traditions and thought patterns. How? With my suggestions and promising yourself to take action on at least one thing into consideration and act on it!

Sadly, you will not move forward with finding a job, a position that suits you, if you don’t take risks. Not serious life-threatening risks, but actual exposures offering you experiences you need to understand life better.

Everyone fails or experiences failure. Sometimes often. It is the necessary ingredient for success. Google some of your favorite role models to view theirs. When you clearly know what you don’t want you rule them out as possibilities and find you are closer to what you do want. Have a listen to this video and follow the formulated directions. 

https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/examples-of-passions

You need to begin somewhere and this is a truly beneficial way to move forward. This video will help you get in touch with yourself!

By investing time to answer those questions you will improve your current mindset and find answers to your unanswered situation of feeling overwhelmed by not knowing what you are good at. Set aside an hour to do so.

You always have choices, so make one today to move forward confidently and successfully. Become aware of the words you use about yourself and your present situation and how often you share them. Monitor them. Change them. Look into the 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit, by Mel Robbins.

Your whole life sits at a moment in time. Let this letter be yours. Be kind to yourself on this journey and soar! I would love it if you follow up with me on your experiences and growth. I’m rooting for you!

Article #: 482109

Category: Self-Improvement

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