This letter writer has stopped socializing in favor of comfort eating. 

Our elder has some advice on how to break the cycle and get their confidence back. 

 

Dear EWC

For the past few months, I have been feeling so dull to the point that I don’t come out of my room the whole day. I am a full-time call center agent that works night-shift and a full-time student as well. Sometimes I feel like I want to burst into tears, sometimes I don’t want to eat but end up eating excessively, approximately every two-to-three hours. I am overweight and I want to lose weight but I keep getting off track. I always feel like I am not good enough for people to want to hang around me. I live with my mom right now but I am not that open to her about my feelings so it is really hard for me to have someone to talk to. Please help me. What should I do? I want to get better. I want to gain confidence to get out and socialize like before. I want to do well at work and at school. Help me!

Terry-Anne replies

Thank you for writing to Elder Wisdom Circle regarding your current dilemma. I am sorry you seem to be caught up in a life cycle that can be hard to make better or eliminate. 

In my opinion, part of your problem is that you don’t feel well so you comfort yourself with food that probably tastes good but is unhealthy. My first suggestion is for you to join a gym and start working out. I know you may feel embarrassed about your weight but the people at the gym will want to help you become the healthiest woman you can become. Working out and losing weight is hard work. I know because I had to do that after my children were born. 

If you look at social media, I recommend that you stop. People post photos that look like they have a wonderful and spectacular life. They don’t, it only looks like they do. It is very discouraging when you feel left out. 

I would also encourage you not to spend much time looking at the news on TV. Talk about a downer. You and I can’t fix all the things that are wrong or all the harm that people do to each other. It’s sad and discouraging to see how people can be so mean. I suggest when you hear something bad say a little prayer for those harmed. Saying little prayers always makes me feel better and hopefully, it will benefit those I pray for. 

I’m even going to say some little prayers for you. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you and you are in control of what happens. You have a lot of work to do to make your life better and once you start dieting and exercising you will start to feel better physically and that will give you the strength to do what you have to do. You will be surprised at how fast you will see results. You only have one life to live so you need to make your life the best it can be. I know you can do it. 

I hope my advice is helpful and that you will contact Elder Wisdom Circle again if you need us. We are always here.

Article #: 490719

Category: Self-Improvement