I’m becoming who I want to be…

But the people around me are holding me back. Should I cut ties and leave? 

Life is a journey, says our elder. Some relationships don’t last the course – and that’s just fine.


Dear EWC

I am struggling with my identity. I don’t know who I am anymore. Since that is not enough detail I will explain. All the people I know remember everything from the past and I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, it’s just harder to improve or change myself as a person when people are constantly telling me who I am. I have heard so many people tell me who I am that I don’t know me. I know the person I want to be but how do I change into that person? It’s hard to change if the people around me don’t support it. I don’t want to hurt anybody but I don’t want to be the person I am or was anymore. The people I am around just don’t want to accept the change. Should I just cut ties and leave? I don’t know what to do at this point. Any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated. Thank you


Angel replies

I am glad you wrote to us, and I understand exactly what you are saying and how you feel. Most people go through many changes in their lives and the beauty of this life for everyone is that we can make changes and improvements in ourselves any time we want to! That is a great thing to do and I am proud of you for recognizing that you want to make changes in yourself and in your life and who you want to hang around with. 

Life is a journey and most of us are continuing to work on ourselves every day so that we can be the very best we can be! As we get older, we learn more and more the type of person we are inside and we have the power to learn and grow and change those parts of ourselves that we do not want any longer. I have done this several times in my life as we mature and get smarter and make better choices and decisions. This can also include relationships – as we get older and wiser, we might find that relationships and friendships that once worked do not work for us any longer and that is just fine.

I am glad you are learning and growing and working to improve yourself and know that this is good and normal and wonderful! What a great goal to be the very best you can be! And don’t worry if people around you can’t accept the changes you make – they will get over it and you will find new people who are more in line with how you are thinking and feeling as you go through life. I will be thinking of you, and cheering you on as you work on becoming the new you that you are feeling inside! We are always here for you if you have further questions and we wish you only the best!

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Category: Self-Improvement

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