My little sister who is in kindergarten is so BRATTY! She always bullies my younger pre-school sister. Whenever we ride to school, she ALWAYS pretends like she can t put on her seatbelt, but she can! I never go inside her bedroom, but she always comes into mine, and acts like it s hers. Whenever my mom leaves me and her and my older brother in the car when we re going grocery shopping and she starts having a fit/crying for no reason and is so annoying, and I say i m going to tell Mom, she starts saying I m gonna tell Mom, you are bad, you are bad! She never listens to us. When my mom just has enough, and she yells at her, she says I'll never do it again, never ever! But we know she never means it. She always cries over the DUMBEST things! Once, her winter coat was zipped really high, but wasn't at the top, and she asked me to put it at the top, but I said It was stuck, and it would choke her anyway If I did it, but then she start crying in PUBLIC! My mom scolded her in the car, but she kept on blaming me! What should I do?!
First let me thank you for your patience while waiting for a response from us. Your letter and what you are going through is important. Yes, your sister does seem to be very trying to anyone's nerves. Is she ever good when you are around? I would suggest you "catch her being good" and compliment her. Like if she is quiet, or sitting still, say, I really like you now when you are sitting so quietly. Now she may or may not keep being good, but she'll learn that when she's good you notice. The point is to reward her for keeping her being good and she'll repeat it. Hopefully I mean.
Now her behavioral problems should not be YOUR problem, Ejie. It is your parents responsibility. Does either of your parents even notice her misbehaving?
Also try getting her to sing a song or play a game whenever you are all stuck in the car. Think of some songs she'd like or rather, ask her what she'd like to sing and let HER lead the song. Again, you are rewarding her for good behavior. Your mother needs to teach her what the consequences are if she misbehaves before you even leave or on each day. But it has to be fair. She's the middle child. May resent that you are the oldest and may feel you and your youngest sister get more attention than her. But sure sounds like she cannot cope very well. She needs guidance and consequences.
Not sure how old you are, but can you use ear phones or buds to listen to music so you don't hear her as much?
Let us know how you are doing and how she's behaving. Again, this is your parents responsibility. Ask for their guidance in a nice way. Write us again and let us know how you all are doing. Good luck, Ejie!
Letter ID |
Letter Title |
424208 |
SCHOOL: Worried I Won't Get Into Grad School |
419062 |
FRIENDSHIP: I'm losing interest in a friend I've been friends with for a long time |
419002 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Betrayal by my brother's friend. |
418423 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Homesick For the Past |
417780 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Help - My Spending Is Out of Control |
416665 |
OTHER: Go for the Daring Hairstyle? |
416426 |
FRIENDSHIP: A friend staying with us, costing us more than dollars |
416339 |
FAMILY: Mom Won't Listen to Me |
409845 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP : Should I go back? |
409842 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Crazy long distance drama |
409830 |
FAMILY: My sexuality and religion |
409784 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: I want to confess a kiss |
409745 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Getting over a crush |
409730 |
MARRIAGE: How to heal after husband's infidelity |
409682 |
SCHOOL: Borrowing for Graduate School |
408933 |
FRIENDSHIP: Help me keep this friendship. |
408899 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Shall I start gymnastics? |
408882 |
CAREER: The young man and the sea |
408853 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Help me be okay with changing |
408786 |
DATING/REATIONSHIPS: Reconnect with Ex-girlfriend? |
408783 |
FAMILY: Unknown identity disaster |
408270 |
Marriage and Mother In Law |
408094 |
FRIENDSHIP: Personal problems straining friendships; Friendships straining personl problems |
407659 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Don't Want My Boyfriend Looking at Porn |
407618 |
FAMILY: Walking On Eggshells with My Stepdad |
407236 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Not a fan of my boyfriend's daughter |
406939 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: He keeps looking at other women |
406795 |
FAMILY: Getting Nasty Facebook Messages from In-Laws |
406784 |
CAREER: Feeling Defeated by the Mistakes from My Last Job |
406372 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Making Out with the Ex of My Best Friend |
405921 |
OTHER: Is A Band Satanic Because Some Members Are Gay? |
405911 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Can't Seem to Get Over the Trauma |
405889 |
SCHOOL: Advice for Making Friends at New School |
405888 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Feeling Shy with New Boyfriend |
405886 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Hard Past Is Affecting My Future |
405855 |
FAMILY: Mom treats us differently |
405823 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: I'm 15, He's 45 |
405494 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Feeling Numb to Life |
405450 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: How do I ask a girl out? |
405441 |
OTHER: Feeling Horrible About Kicking My Dog |
405369 |
FAMILY: Grandma Is So Hard On Me |
405156 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: It Hurts Too Much to Stay Friends |
405122 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Get Her to Fall In Love With Me Again |
405072 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Pregnant with My Ex's Baby |
404961 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Should we stay friends after breakup? |
404959 |
SCHOOL: Feeling Pressure to Stay In Sport I No Longer Like |
404926 |
FRIENDSHIP: Friends are leaving me out |
404917 |
FRIENDSHIP: Just Want to be Friends, But He Wants More |
404906 |
CHILDREN: Help My Daughter Deal With Questions About Her Birthmark |
404461 |
FAMILY: Parents Not Communicating Well |
403840 |
FAMILY: Confront Stealing Sister? |
403740 |
MARRIAGE: Fiance Has a Drinking Problem |
403720 |
FRIENDSHIP: Best friend distancing herself |
403718 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Can't seem to move on |
403713 |
OTHER: Excited, But Anxious, To Move To New City |
403708 |
FRIENDSHIP: How To Avoid Inviting Friend on Trip |
403580 |
FRIENDSHIP: Breaking Off a Friendship |
403557 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Go with new guy or get back with ex? |
403537 |
FRIENDSHIP: Worried My Friend Relapsed |
403468 |
FAMILY: Suspect Dad Owes A Lot More Child Support |
403117 |
FAMILY: He Wants His Mother to Move In |
403095 |
OTHER: Not Sure If I'm Gay, Straight, or Bisexual |
403080 |
FRIENDSHIP: Backstabbing Besties |
403077 |
SCHOOL: Nervous About Important Test |
403067 |
FRIENDSHIP: My friends never listen to me |
403054 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: He's Back With His Ex, But I Can't Let Him Go |
403046 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: I think my partner is using me for my money |
402948 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: His silence is killing me |
402657 |
FRIENDSHIP: Friend Isn't Very Friendly |
402587 |
MARRIAGE: Regret Saying Yes to His Marriage Proposal |
402545 |
CHILDREN: Deciding Whether or Not to Have Kids |
402472 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: So Many Regrets |
402446 |
FAMILY: Being honest with strict parents |
402321 |
MARRIAGE: Husband Won't Talk to Me |
402306 |
FRIENDSHIP: Invitations from friends have dropped to zero |
402235 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Worried People Will Make Fun Us for Dating |
402225 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Want to Explore My Sexuality |
402179 |
OTHER: My Dog Is Attacking Neighbor Dogs |
402114 |
SCHOOL: University or travel? |
402056 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Transitioning from Lazy to Motivated |
402032 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Do I Just Miss Being Single? |
401971 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Trying to get my ex back |
401372 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Nervous About Asking a Boy to a Dance |
401216 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Rough Past and No Family Support |
401181 |
FRIENDSHIP: Upset About Friend's Lack of Manners |
401175 |
FAMILY: Is It Wrong To Keep My Pregancy Secret From Family? |
401122 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: My Ex Was My Entire Support System |
400858 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Heart Isn't In It, But Feel Obligated to Try |
400833 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Help Me Stop the Negative Thoughts |
400783 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Why Did He Leave Me? How Do I Get Him Back? |
400685 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: His sexual history bothers me |
400653 |
FAMILY: Selfish, Self-Centered Sister |
400651 |
MARRIAGE: Husband Sending Nude Pics to Other Men |
400614 |
OTHER: Trans Woman Tired of Living a Lie |
400176 |
FAMILY: Worried My Little Sister Is Cutting Herself |
400175 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Is this love or friendship? |
400162 |
CAREER: Office Gossip |
400145 |
SCHOOL: How Can I Motivate Students Who Do Not Seem To Care? |
400120 |
SCHOOL: Feeling Unmotivated and Disappointed in Myself |
400114 |
FAMILY: Do I Have to Reconcile with Grandma? |
400113 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Boyfriend is Friends with My Enemy |
400097 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: My Moral Compass Is Breaking |
399985 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: How Can I Avoid the Friend Zone? |
399895 |
FINANCE: Spend Money to Repay Friend on Take a Sorely Needed Vacation? |
399879 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: The Guilt Is Weighing On My Chest |
399826 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: I think I may have an eating disorder |
399823 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Feeling Targeted Because of My Race |
399734 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Apparently Everything Is My Fault |
399673 |
FRIENDSHIP: Torn Between Betraying Trust and Helping My Friend |
399580 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Her Parent Don't Want Her to Date Me Because I'm Black |
398242 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Will It Always Be Heartache and BS? |
398092 |
CAREER: Single Mom Having Trouble Finding Work |
397717 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Wracked with Guilt from Sleeping Around |
397630 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Feeling Stuck In Relationship Due to Money |
397595 |
OTHER: Help - My Girlfriend is Depressed and Cutting |
397506 |
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Can This Online, Long-Distance Relationship Work? |
397466 |
FRIENDSHIP: Think I'm Going to Be Left Out by Two Best Friends |
397448 |
FAMILY: Want to Tell All Family I'm Transgender and Invite Them to My Wedding |
397326 |
MARRIAGE: Husband Mistakenly Thinks I Planned to Cheat |
397236 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Feeling Overwhelmed by Meetings, Classes, and Demands |
396216 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Help Me Communicate With People |
396161 |
FAMILY: Having Trouble Accepting That I'm Adopted |
396142 |
CAREER: How to Choose a Career Path? |
396095 |
MARRIAGE: Broken Marriage, Broken Dreams |
396078 |
FRIENDSHIP: Feeling Excluded By Friends |
396048 |
OTHER: How to Say an Embarrassing Thing Without Embarrassing the Person |
395288 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Cruel Words Are Stuck In My Head |
395130 |
FRIENDSHIP: Fifth Wheel Is Derailing Our Group Friendship |
395111 |
FAMILY: Feel Like Mom is Choosing Her New Husband Over Me |
394474 |
FRIENDSHIP: Can This Friendship Be Repaired? |
394398 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Failing college and looking for passion |
394359 |
OTHER: Neighbor Has Me Worried for My Family's Safety |
394322 |
CHILDREN: Daughter Doesn't Know I'm Her Biological Father |
394218 |
FRIENDSHIP: Best Friend Is Mad At Me Over Untrue Rumor |
394213 |
SCHOOL: People Make Me Feel Like a Loser |
394119 |
FAMILY: Who do I take to show - Hubby or Son? |
394116 |
FAMILY: Worried My Brother's Wife Is Ruining My Nephew |
394001 |
FAMILY: Mom Won't Let Me Date Until College! |
393948 |
OTHER: How Cold Is Too Cold for a Dog? |
393458 |
FRIENDSHIP: How can I move on? |
393444 |
FRIENDSHIP: Friendship Since Kindergarten BROKEN! |
393431 |
FRIENDSHIP: Cruel Words From Someone I Thought Was My Friend |
393398 |
CHILDREN: How Hard Is It Being a Single Mom? |
392978 |
FAMILY: Should I Let Mom Live With Me After Her Rehab? |
392973 |
CAREER: Feeling Stuck In Work I Hate |
392919 |
FAMILY: Brother-In-Law Stealing From Me |
392169 |
FAMILY: Tell Dad That Mom Is Cheating? |
392140 |
SELF-IMPROVEMENT: Scared of the Future |
391978 |
FAMILY: Why is my little sister so bratty?! |
391906 |
OTHER: Charity Registry for a Wedding? |